Topic : 05/22 The True Life of Marcia Brady

 I have been through the same with Marsha type super control with the help of the other brother. Listen just so you know there are many outcomes.

 Sometimes it looks like A and is B, Sometimes it looks like B and is A, It could be A when it looks like A, it could be B and look like B. It could look like A seem to be B but end up being C..... This goes on and on.

Just because you say it is so does not make it so. Just hear the other side. Don't listen to the spin.

I bet Dr. Phil's video was used in court. Aiding Marsha without knowing the otherside.

Wait till all the evidence is in. That is all we ask.

A fair trial.

My heart goes out to you.  Our family has been nothing but havoc since the passing of my mother almost 2 years ago.  My father went into a depressive state and has now been said to have ahlzheimers. I come from a family of 7 and we were not a close family at all. We kind of pulled together for mom's sake, but there are 2 that decided to reak havoc all for the love of money and control.

For 20 years 1 brother and for 10 years 1 sister had nothing to to do with either of our parents.  Mom became ill in September of 2004 and passed away in July of 2005.  The sister that hadn't had any contact with either my mother or father showed up in mom's hospital room the night before her lung surgery. She frightened my mother and made her nervous.  She didn't come around again until she heard that mom was terminal and then she started her plotting.

I could go on and on but to make my point, she brainwashed our father that we were all out to steal his money ( he is well off) and put him in a nursing home.  That was the first of many of her lies and the brother who had no contact sided and helped her take control of dad and everything that he has.

She convinced our father to go live with her and for 8 months now we have had no contact. He doesn't see any of his 5 other children, grandchildren or his sister whom he use to visit daily.

We hired an attorney at our own expense to prevent her from being his guardian and the judge denied us, or I should say me.  Our father even signed a statement that he wanted me to be his guardian and the judge still denied it. He placed her as temporary guardian for 30 days and when she found out she couldn't change anything or touch his money she had him declared competent again. The court investigator only spoke with the 1 brother and 1 sister and didn't even meet with any of his other 5 children.  That was in September of 2006 and I haven't seen my father since. Prior to and for a year after my mother's passing I was at my parents house dailey and sometimes  several times a day.  I did their laundry, bought their food, cooked, and took or accompanied them to all of their doctors appointments. My family and I have went on vacations with my parents for years.  We were very close.

Two months after the judge decided our father was competent he signed his home over to the sister and 7 months later she mortgaged his home which was paid for. Her doughter lives in our fathers home.  My father has a love of money and would not have done that if he was in his right mind.

Our father is 78 years old and if he does have ahlzheimers then the last years of his life are being spent without his family.  She keeps him at her house and very seldom takes him out in public.  She used to take him to a local diner, but he hasn't been seen there for weeks either. He won't come visit or go out with us and he doesn't call.  Our oldest sister was sent a letter from his/her attorney and said that she wasn't to go to his house or be around any of his immediately family.

I'm glad the court ruled in your favor and I hope you are able to re-establish a relationship with both your father and brother.

I know what your going through, but you just have to take it one day at a time, that 's what we do.  We just really would like to know how he is and someday he will realize that she the one who lied and brainwashed him and he has a whole family thinking about him.

I read with alarm the slide show notes on the Maureen McCormick show.  A hundred years ago, I was privileged to be an acquaintance of Mo's and I dated her brother, Kevin.  While I refuse to kiss and tell, I can say that I am in shock about what is happening within their family.  Mrs. McCormick was indeed the glue that held that familly together and if you doubt that, simply take a look at the mess her passing has left in it's wake.  Mrs. McCormick was a delightful, smiling, sweet woman and Mr. McCormick was someone doted on her. 

Somethng that needs to be addressed is that drug use by anyone over an extended period of time creates a waking paranoia.  This doesn't simply apply to illegal drugs, but all mind altering drugs that are consumed over time.  I believe that Kevin and Mo slinging accusations at each other is counterproductive.  They each know what they did: the important thing is to deal with the consequences, and as I said, one component is a waking paranoia.

It's important that we all remember that the real tragedy here is that a family that always had issues--issues that were taken care of by Mrs. McCormick until her death--is now having to face years and years and years of problems without her soothing presence.  I doubt very much that legal action of any kind, while necessary in the short run, will do anything to get the family "back together". 

I really hope that, whatever the outcome, Mo gets herself into therapy.  Don't worry about Kevin's therapy, since he's a grown-up and can get his own if he needs it.  Mo, sweetie, look after yourself and PLEASE make sure that you look after your husband and daughter.  I'd hate to see their needs get lost in the emotional shuffle of dealing with your dad and brother.

Peace, sweetie!

While I do not plan on reading every single message posted I have read several pages of them and while I think it great people of different viewpoints can state how they feel, I really get tired of seeing the TV character's name misspelled. The topic says The True Life of Marcia Brady, not The True Life of Marsha Brady. I know they are both pronounced the same, but I think it is a bit disrespectful of the actress to not spell her character's name right. I would prefer she be called by her real name anyway - Maureen. Marcia is make believe. Maureen is not. At this point there may be not be too many new postings as there are more recent shows to comment on, but maybe in the future people posting message could take the time to check the spelling of someone's name first. I am sure if any of you happened to find themselves a guest on the show you would appreciate seeing your name spelled correctly in the resulting postings.

I agree.  Especially on the term "harshness wheel".  Leave that judgemental "sledge hammer" outside the door until you're really ready to use it on yourself.  I've never heard of a person being a listening, compassionate, friend doing major damage to anyone. 

And even if it does occur that someone takes advantage of your kindness,  you can still rest easy in your own skin.  And sleep at night.

From watching this episode. I was wondering if Maureen's brother isn't a scientologist and has brain washed her father to believe the same garbage he believes. He is obviously not in his right mind. Either one of the men for that matter. Her father just seemed to mimic the brother. He was a puppet.