Quote From: cur2cuteIt's strange how people don't understand your feelings if you were adopted. I never found out that I was adopted until I was 45 years old. The family kept it a secret all those years. Unfortantly both of my adoptive parents passed away, so I never was able to ask them about the adoption. Their birth daughter (my sister) told me forget it. You are who you are. I petioned the court and was granted only some information. My birth mother is alive and doing well, however, she doesn't want to have any contact with me. But, she thinks about me everyday....OH PLEASE!!!!!!!! I think it is wonderful if birth mothers who gave their child up for adoption would like the child toknow what happened. That would put our minds at ease. People do not understand what it is like to look in the mirror and wonder, Who am I.......who is my mother......what is she like........what are my brother and sisters like.......Who are they??? There are always so many unanswered questions. I wish that the state (PA)that I live in would pass a law that if you were adopted that the records would be open. It is so unfair to us adopties not to know about our biologial mother and father.
Mary
I think there is more sides to this kind of delema, that open records could make a mess of some lives also. I do notnow what all the reasons are for closed information to what should be an absolute right to know but those who do not consider it a gift to at least leave information giving medical and some family history even if they msut leave out alot of information leading to them are probably not people you want to know? there is also the children adopted from rape,
one night stands, abusive relationships and a movie I saw so many young girls in college or cheated on bf/fiance's/husbands? I forget the name of the movie based on a real life story and her making some kind of group for adopties?
I do think the government could make some kind of form that included soem information without jephorizing the adoption process much? Like parents medical, some physical traits and basic information on habits, hobbies and careers maybe? It must be hard to not know, I have a little bit of that not knowing my real father because he died when I was very young, his face, looking into his eyes, hearing his voice, knowing his touch? A little bit so I can understand it must be frustrating and disheartening to find the real parents did not leave you more but they did leave you your life at least as many do not do that much. I knew a woman who had 6 kids, latter in life 4 more showed up that she put up for adoption to the surprise to all of her family. Her and her husband agreed to do it because the pregnacy came so close to another baby born. They was poor and I do not recall hearing any decent excuse over it, just we didn't want more kids at the time. her husband long gone (died) seh showed no affection or respect for them children and lost the respect from her own children over this. I imagine there is a multitude of situations out there and just hope no information given or obtained scares people away from adoptions as a avenue and take abortion instead ot eh going to other countires and leaving the baby there? I read once Mexico and Canada gets some babies for that reason?
the worst I have seen or read though is the adoptions being so hard for so many to even get close to and so many growign up in that system?
You are right in that the whole system for adoptions needs looked at and changed.
there is ways for them to give alot of information and still protect the biological parents rights.
like I seen in one message, emails alone can help or an internet sight that holds a number to contact or get information maybe?
(Original Air Date: 05/24/07) What if everything you thought you knew about yourself was a lie? Today’s guests are real-life unsolved mysteries. First, Savannah, 27, has never known her biological mother and has always felt incomplete. She says her mother, Peggy, vanished when she and her sister were very young, and she’s always wondered why her mom never tried to find them. Dr. Phil reunites Savannah with her mystery mother for the first time in over 20 years. Dr. Phil attempts to get to the bottom of why Peggy left her children and moved on to form another family, but Peggy says it wasn’t all her fault. Can this mother and daughter forgive, forget and start over? Next, George, 38, recently found out his family’s secret: the man he knew as his father is not his biological father. His mother was the only one with the answer to who his father was, but she died two years ago and took the truth to her grave. Now George is left wondering if there is a man out there who doesn’t even know he has a son and grandchildren. Then, when her mother passed away eight years ago, Rena, 18, learned that her birth certificate was fake, her social security number belonged to someone else, and she didn’t exist anywhere on paper. Without an identity, Rena says her life is on hold. She can’t get financial aid for college, she can’t get a driver’s license, and she can’t travel out of the country. Share your thoughts about the show here.
