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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:56:39 am
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September 25, 2008, 5:19 pm CDT

hi there

Quote From: schalkn2008

Hi there everyone,

I hope someone on here can help me. I am an alcoholic, I admit that and I acknowledge that I am powerless over this disease. My problem is rehab is not an option for me. I am the sole bread winner in the family and work for myself from home.

My alcoholism is really starting to effect my life in all kinds of bad ways including my marriage. Seeing that I do not have the option of going to rehab, can anyone give me some advice as to where I can start to beat this disease. I hate what it is doing to myself and my family. I am trying to beat this myself on a daily basis. Sometimes I go 4 days without anything, sometimes a week but mostly it is a day and then I fall of the wagon again so to speak.

Any and all help will be much appreciated.

You already took the first step towards recovery, and that is wonderful! Now you are finding that it is not easy to go it alone. So that means finding people who have gone through what you are going through and can help you through those rough spots, and who you can turn to before you pick up the first drink.

I have been clean and sober since june 5, 1995. Belive me when i tell you that there was no way i could have done it with out the support and guidance form people that had gone through what I was going through.

I never went to rehab either, what I did do was go to a lot of AA meetings, and conected with people who were in the same boat as me or had recovery and were willing to share how they did it.

I also had a individual in my life that was there for me 24, 7 and who never let me down, I am so thankful for that!

It was uncomfortable for me the first few times i went to meetings, that is ok, I kept going, and listening, and eventually even sharing my thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams.

Not every meeting did i agree with every one, and in same cases i didnt even like the people at the meetings lol, it didnt matter  my sole reason for being there was to help myself.

Also, one is not obligated to continue going to meetings for therest of their life, some people say that it is, but it is not, it a program of recovery, if one feels they have gotten everything they want and need from the program, and do not get involved in the service aspect of it, and do not feel they have time or resourses to offer a sponsee, then by all means they do not have to go for the rest of their lives. some people do go for years and years, maybe for the rest of their lives, some stop going after they have gotten a firm grip on their addiction and go off to new and different things to enhance their lives.

The point is, check it out and see if it helpful for you, please give yourself to get over the uncomfortable time, before you make your decision lol.

Also, there are on line meetings that you can attend as well.

The point is make a connection with people who understand what you are contending with, and who are willing to help you.

I am so happy that you have come to the point were you realise you need a helping hand, and belive me there are many willing and helpful hands just waiting to be extended to you and your family. I hope that you find what you need, and can muster up the courage to grab on to the life line.

Also, speak with your family doctor, let him know of your struggle and why you want an examination, also let him know of your struggle to stay off the bottle, he may have more options for you as well.

If at possible purchase books about alcoholism, or get a libary card and take books about alcoholism from your local libary,  the more you know about your illness the easier it is to understand what you are contending with. Please, do not give up on yourself or give up hope, there are millions of alcoholics who have recovered so it is possible.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are doingand what progress you have made in getting the support you need, it is important to remember your loving spouse may be just as bewildered as you are and to include your spouse in the recovery process is vital too. It is a family disease, so you are all suffering.

I pray that you and your family get what you need.

Tammy

 

 
September 29, 2008, 8:01 pm CDT

Just an update

I haven't posted here in while but thought I would drop in to tell you all that today I took my cake for 4 years of sobriety from alcohol and drugs. I'm alive and kicking stiil.

 

peace and namaste

 

Mischif

 
September 29, 2008, 8:42 pm CDT

Save my daughter

I hope I can find some sort of advise or help on here, I'm in a state of panic. My beautiful 18 year old daughter has been stealing and abusing pain killers, sleeping pills, over the counter sleep med's, and now alcohol. Eight months ago my husband and I suspected that our safe had been broken into because our own medications were missing. My husband and I both have serious life impacting diseases and we've always kept our med's away from my daughter for fear of harm. Eventually she concocted a story and called the safe company and convinced them that I had forgotten the number's to unlock the safe and desperately had to get inside. They gave her the number over the phone! When we got home, we had the shock of our lives! That morning she had in her system oxycontin, percocet, ambian, Tylenol PM, benedrill, and alcohol. We took her to the ER, it was clearly an overdose. The next day we took her to an outpatient rehab center. She was still 17 and the minutes were ticking by on us. Time was of the essence. She would turn 18 in one week, then who knows. She started counseling, and medication for withdrawals. After 3 weeks she was given ambian for sleep and clonopin for anxiety. On the fourth week she overdosed again on a mixture of things, including the withdrawal medication. We kicked her out of the house. 2 weeks later she returned and started NA meetings which turned out to be useless. She dropped out of the rehab center for failing a drug test, twice. Finally, a month later she moved into a dorm and started college and was now 18. We had hoped school would straighten her out and help her but she's drinking more and getting sleeping pills from her Dr. and taking a 30 day supply in 5 day's, along with the alcohol. When the drugs run out, the drinking over exceeds. My husband and mostly I, are sick about this, we fight all the time about her, we worry that when the phone rings, that's the new's that she's dead. I'm slowing learning that I don't love my daughter to death, but I love her unconditionally. She has been manipulating me for year's, more so now. She's getting money to support herself in college, but as of today, has been cut off. I called her Dr. and told him she's a drug seeker, and severely abusing the sleeping pills. She won't be get anything there anymore. I need to know what kind of power do I have? Do I do an intervention now and yank her out of college (where believe it not she's excelling) and into an inpatient treatment center now? I honestly don't know and I'm so scared. I never thought this could happen to me.
 
September 30, 2008, 5:09 am CDT

Well First off....

Quote From: shellynfla

I hope I can find some sort of advise or help on here, I'm in a state of panic. My beautiful 18 year old daughter has been stealing and abusing pain killers, sleeping pills, over the counter sleep med's, and now alcohol. Eight months ago my husband and I suspected that our safe had been broken into because our own medications were missing. My husband and I both have serious life impacting diseases and we've always kept our med's away from my daughter for fear of harm. Eventually she concocted a story and called the safe company and convinced them that I had forgotten the number's to unlock the safe and desperately had to get inside. They gave her the number over the phone! When we got home, we had the shock of our lives! That morning she had in her system oxycontin, percocet, ambian, Tylenol PM, benedrill, and alcohol. We took her to the ER, it was clearly an overdose. The next day we took her to an outpatient rehab center. She was still 17 and the minutes were ticking by on us. Time was of the essence. She would turn 18 in one week, then who knows. She started counseling, and medication for withdrawals. After 3 weeks she was given ambian for sleep and clonopin for anxiety. On the fourth week she overdosed again on a mixture of things, including the withdrawal medication. We kicked her out of the house. 2 weeks later she returned and started NA meetings which turned out to be useless. She dropped out of the rehab center for failing a drug test, twice. Finally, a month later she moved into a dorm and started college and was now 18. We had hoped school would straighten her out and help her but she's drinking more and getting sleeping pills from her Dr. and taking a 30 day supply in 5 day's, along with the alcohol. When the drugs run out, the drinking over exceeds. My husband and mostly I, are sick about this, we fight all the time about her, we worry that when the phone rings, that's the new's that she's dead. I'm slowing learning that I don't love my daughter to death, but I love her unconditionally. She has been manipulating me for year's, more so now. She's getting money to support herself in college, but as of today, has been cut off. I called her Dr. and told him she's a drug seeker, and severely abusing the sleeping pills. She won't be get anything there anymore. I need to know what kind of power do I have? Do I do an intervention now and yank her out of college (where believe it not she's excelling) and into an inpatient treatment center now? I honestly don't know and I'm so scared. I never thought this could happen to me.

NA IS NOT USELESS.  Its a program that has helped MILLIONS of people get off drugs and stay clean. They carry the message NOT THE ADDICT.  Your daughter sounds like quite the manipulator!  and she is doing her best work getting in-between you and your husband and she is pinning you against him to get more drugs....eventually you two will split up and she than can work you...and work him...DRUG ADDICTION is such a cunning enemy of life.

 

ARE YOU PAYING FOR HER COLLEGE?  If so STOP!  Why support a half baked mind!  There are long term treatment facilities out there.  IS SHE LIVING with you?  IF SO KICK HER AZZZ out!

 

Your kid needs to hit rock bottom and Momma I do know what I am talking about.  I am a recovering ADDICT  as well as my husband.  My brother too.

 

There are 3 places addiction can and will bring you  JAILS INSTITUTIONS OR DEATH.

 

CHECK OUT THIS WEBSITE  google it for support for you and your husband www.miraclesinprogress.com

 

YOU and your husband MUST MAKE a new pact with each other starting today.  YOU BOTH ARE A UNITED FRONT.  NO MORE will you fight over this child.

I just heard the other day how this little spoiled rotten kid got her parents to split up,  the daughter had a pill popping problem  the husband moved out  the daughter punched the mother in the face AND KICKED THE MOTHER OUT OF HER OWN bedroom and moved in there with her NEW BOYFRIEND AND ARE NOW DOING DRUGS in her MOTHERS BEDROOM.

 

You don't want this to be you do you? 

 

There is plenty of help for You and your husband and YOUR KID.  You will have to do things you may not like but this my dear woman CAN AND WILL save her life.

 

I will keep posting and checking up on here.  Take a deep breath.  All will be well!

 

xox

S

 
September 30, 2008, 5:19 am CDT

HI SWEETIE

Quote From: schalkn2008

Hi there everyone,

I hope someone on here can help me. I am an alcoholic, I admit that and I acknowledge that I am powerless over this disease. My problem is rehab is not an option for me. I am the sole bread winner in the family and work for myself from home.

My alcoholism is really starting to effect my life in all kinds of bad ways including my marriage. Seeing that I do not have the option of going to rehab, can anyone give me some advice as to where I can start to beat this disease. I hate what it is doing to myself and my family. I am trying to beat this myself on a daily basis. Sometimes I go 4 days without anything, sometimes a week but mostly it is a day and then I fall of the wagon again so to speak.

Any and all help will be much appreciated.

Sometimes its really great coming here and posting and THANK GOD FOR DR PHIL and his message boards and to tell you the truth Back in June 2005 he did SAVE MY LIFE after reading his books and posting on the depression boards etc.

 

There is another website called MIRACLES IN PROGRESS  It is for recovering ALCOHOLICS  DRUG ADDICTS   ADULT CHILDREN of ALCOHOLICS  People who were sexually abused and who now are survivors of that from Childhood  etc....(  DEAR DR PHIL I am not trying to take people away from your site just trying to help other's when they are in need of a meeting and cant get to one) 

 

Dr Phil is PRO RECOVERY!~  So I know in my heart he wouldnt be mad at me!

 

They have various boxes you can link too.  So if you need to "hook up with Via a message board" to fellow people who have been where you have been or what you are going threw  its a wonderful site!

 

It costs nothing to post or to join either!

 

I go there to NA  and my handle is HONEY BEAR  shhhhhh  ;)

 

 
September 30, 2008, 5:19 am CDT

CONGRATS!~

Quote From: mischif12

I haven't posted here in while but thought I would drop in to tell you all that today I took my cake for 4 years of sobriety from alcohol and drugs. I'm alive and kicking stiil.

 

peace and namaste

 

Mischif

My sponsor just celebrated 4 years last night!  You go!~ Its your birthday!

 

xox

S

 
September 30, 2008, 5:21 am CDT

You need to

Quote From: raredland

My girlfriend of 3 years has had an ongoing addiction to prescription pain meds for the past ten years. I helped her get off them once but realize she is now using again. Her behavior has become very unpredictable. She is frequently hours late for dates and has no reason for being late. She has lost three jobs in 2 years. Inspite of not having a job she always has plenty of cash which makes me wonder where it is coming from, again she can't come up with an answer. I am having a hard time deciding if I should just move on and let her deal with her problems or if I should give her another chance. We did discuss treatment but she said she can get off the drugs by herself. I don't believe it. After the first time she told me she would stay clean and I feel that sticking by is only enabling her and we will do this many times. Right now I do not trust her and and feel that the drugs have ruined any chance at moving forward in a relationship. Her family tells me to leave and let her hit bottom but I find that hard since I do love her. Advice?

Believe that voice inside yourself.....

 

NOBODY can get off drugs by themselves  this is a stale tactic.  She is playing you.

 

xox

S

 
September 30, 2008, 9:25 am CDT

Dear Kind Hearted Momma

Quote From: bankit

My son is 35---he lives 2hours away in another state. I thought he was doing well, although in the past year I was beginning to wonder if he was drinking too much; mainly from seeing his blog and myspace messages.

Two days ago he told me he was going to scale back his 'partying' and he was telling me and other's for accountability. He said he'd go out for dinner, have 2 glasses of wine, then go to a party, drink more wine, which let to doing drugs, which lead to unsafe sex, which resulted in him staying up all night. But he was going to scale back.

I asked if he is addicted. He said no.
I asked if he was in trouble and he said no, not yet. He just wanted to stop before he crashed and burned.

Then he told me he was way way behind on bills. Hubby and I helped him get his house 3 years ago to the tune of 25 thousand. We are not rich, we refinanced to do this. He is way behind in all bills, says he. He is almost 2 months behind in mortgage. I asked what was he saying? That he wanted a loan? or was he just telling me his financial state. He said if I could help it'd be great. I told him I wasn't in the business of helping anymore and if he wanted a loan, he'd have to ask. We'd have to write it up, he'd have to pay it back. He said he'd send me his total indebtedness and we could decide if we wanted to help.

I asked him if he could please not do cocaine for 6 months. He looked funny, said, yeah he could, but he didn't want to. He again said he's not addicted, except maybe to the 'lifestyle.'

I told him this sounds like 'drugie talk' to me. He said for me to please not let MY experience [my mother was a heroin addict, bother a crack addict bleed into his experience. Be open minded. I said, I am and I'll research.

I researched today. I have found NOTHING that says this is okay. I have found NOTHING to reassure me that he just has a small problem...and everything that says he's in trouble. But of course he can't see it.

I am 'thinking' of paying 1 month back mortgage to the company [not giving him money and asking him to give me a quick deed form, signed, so that if he misses another, I'll sell his house. He'll say I don't trust him, blaa blaa...I'll say if he trusts himself NOT to miss another payment, it will be okay.

He had a good job. He quit to do videoography and editing, free lance. He had a company that was paying him, but now they've let him go. He SAYS he'll get a job, wait tables if necessary...

I am really really triggered because of my mother's addiction. I think all druggies lie, I think he might be. Then I wonder, am I being too hard BECAUSE of my background. I don't drink or drug--but wow, if I never knew why an alcoholic would grab a drink, I know it now. I'm spinning, and can't stop. I'm bleeding out. I can't believe drugs are invading my life again, and this time through my kids who I dearly dearly love...

HELP!!!

There are no part time Crack heads.  Your son needs to crash and burn.  Your instincts are correct.  If you help him anymore you will only be helping him stay sick.

 

Check out miracles in progress board under NA.  There you can go speak to recovering addicts ranging from 2 days to 20 years or longer.

 

I feel from your post  YOUR INSTINCTS ARE CORRECT!  Most addicted people MUST HIT there own bottom in order to recover.

 

Just my op/a recovering addict.

 

xox

S

 
September 30, 2008, 9:37 am CDT

Dear Momma,

Quote From: heart123

I have a 31 year old son who is addicted to herion and cocaine, he is in and out of jail, has contracted Hepatitis C, and HIV. He has been in rehab once and has relasped. What can I do to help him? How can I help him hepl him self? I want my son back. The drugs are killing him. We need help.

First you need a program for yourself.  Try looking in a phonebook for your local ALANON.  It doesnt matter if they deal with people that drink. Alcol is also a drug. They will teach you how to detach yourself emotionally from your son emotionally.  This will give you local resources.

 

My brother,  Myself also have Hep C.  If your son continues to use drugs or drinks he can turn his HEP C into LIVER CANCER.  Once you gain support for yourself  THAN you can learn tools to help your son.  I know how you feel and you need not feel alone.

 

xox

S

 
September 30, 2008, 9:40 am CDT

If anyone has any questions

and I can help I will be more than happy to answer you HONESTLY.

 

GODBLESS YOU ALL.

 

xox

S

 
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