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September 30, 2008, 10:18 am CDT

Daughter is an addict

Quote From: labelfree

NA IS NOT USELESS.  Its a program that has helped MILLIONS of people get off drugs and stay clean. They carry the message NOT THE ADDICT.  Your daughter sounds like quite the manipulator!  and she is doing her best work getting in-between you and your husband and she is pinning you against him to get more drugs....eventually you two will split up and she than can work you...and work him...DRUG ADDICTION is such a cunning enemy of life.

 

ARE YOU PAYING FOR HER COLLEGE?  If so STOP!  Why support a half baked mind!  There are long term treatment facilities out there.  IS SHE LIVING with you?  IF SO KICK HER AZZZ out!

 

Your kid needs to hit rock bottom and Momma I do know what I am talking about.  I am a recovering ADDICT  as well as my husband.  My brother too.

 

There are 3 places addiction can and will bring you  JAILS INSTITUTIONS OR DEATH.

 

CHECK OUT THIS WEBSITE  google it for support for you and your husband www.miraclesinprogress.com

 

YOU and your husband MUST MAKE a new pact with each other starting today.  YOU BOTH ARE A UNITED FRONT.  NO MORE will you fight over this child.

I just heard the other day how this little spoiled rotten kid got her parents to split up,  the daughter had a pill popping problem  the husband moved out  the daughter punched the mother in the face AND KICKED THE MOTHER OUT OF HER OWN bedroom and moved in there with her NEW BOYFRIEND AND ARE NOW DOING DRUGS in her MOTHERS BEDROOM.

 

You don't want this to be you do you? 

 

There is plenty of help for You and your husband and YOUR KID.  You will have to do things you may not like but this my dear woman CAN AND WILL save her life.

 

I will keep posting and checking up on here.  Take a deep breath.  All will be well!

 

xox

S

Labelfree: Thank you so much for your message.  I totally agree with you that NA is not useless! However, to my daughter it was. Several times she would say she was going to a meeting and leave the house, then come back within an hour and talk about her experience. She never went!! I get mad at myself for listening and believing in the lies for so long. Last night we video conferenced her at her dorm and she was blistering drunk and had been drinking for several hours. She proceeded to try and justify why she was drinking because she was out of sleeping pills, 30 taken in 7 day's. We've cut her off financially. The only way she can gain money is through working, which she is. Her college is paid for through the FL prepaid college program, but I'm meeting with a women this week about an intervention. We're looking for an inpatient program that will accept her insurance and if she doesn't go, her college will be taken away. I do have the ability to do that because my name is on the plan. Little did I know that would be a good thing one day. She is not currently living with us because of the dorm situation and prior to that, we kicked her out and she lived with a boyfriend and other friends.

 

Again, thanks for the advice and I'll keep posting. Shelly

 
September 30, 2008, 1:02 pm CDT

GREAT JOB SHELLY!

Quote From: shellynfla

Labelfree: Thank you so much for your message.  I totally agree with you that NA is not useless! However, to my daughter it was. Several times she would say she was going to a meeting and leave the house, then come back within an hour and talk about her experience. She never went!! I get mad at myself for listening and believing in the lies for so long. Last night we video conferenced her at her dorm and she was blistering drunk and had been drinking for several hours. She proceeded to try and justify why she was drinking because she was out of sleeping pills, 30 taken in 7 day's. We've cut her off financially. The only way she can gain money is through working, which she is. Her college is paid for through the FL prepaid college program, but I'm meeting with a women this week about an intervention. We're looking for an inpatient program that will accept her insurance and if she doesn't go, her college will be taken away. I do have the ability to do that because my name is on the plan. Little did I know that would be a good thing one day. She is not currently living with us because of the dorm situation and prior to that, we kicked her out and she lived with a boyfriend and other friends.

 

Again, thanks for the advice and I'll keep posting. Shelly

I am very very proud of you!  The intervention is only going to work if SHE is willing to work it!  You both sound like VERY LOVING parents!  The best thing though IF it doesnt go like you want than you must let her go. Until she hits rock bottom.

 

SHE CAN HAVE duel diagnosis.  I am not saying an addict is an addict is addict.  Maybe she has a depression problems too.  My husband was a "crack" head and now he is going for his MASTERS in ALCHOL/and DRUG counsl and he is seeing a shrink and taking anti depressant meds.

 

Okay your in FLA.  But I kind went to this place in NJ Its kind of like a "COUNTRY CLUB ish environment if in fact your daughter has "DUEL DIAGNosois"  IE  Drugs and depression and or other PHYCH issues  called CARRIER CLINIC...They accept ALOT of Insurances  I got in there because of BLUE CROSS Blue Shield..


The main guy's name is JEFF Stoner MSW   He is the evening Supervisior and will determine if your daughter will go to just drug and alchol place or duel diag/ APS  I went to APS.

 

www.CARRIERCLINIC.org

45 COUNTRY HWY 601

Belle Mead,  NJ

908-281-1000

 

Please let me know if I can help you any further!

xox

S

 

 
October 1, 2008, 12:00 pm CDT

Shelly

How are you today?
 
October 1, 2008, 2:08 pm CDT

NA

Quote From: shellynfla

Labelfree: Thank you so much for your message.  I totally agree with you that NA is not useless! However, to my daughter it was. Several times she would say she was going to a meeting and leave the house, then come back within an hour and talk about her experience. She never went!! I get mad at myself for listening and believing in the lies for so long. Last night we video conferenced her at her dorm and she was blistering drunk and had been drinking for several hours. She proceeded to try and justify why she was drinking because she was out of sleeping pills, 30 taken in 7 day's. We've cut her off financially. The only way she can gain money is through working, which she is. Her college is paid for through the FL prepaid college program, but I'm meeting with a women this week about an intervention. We're looking for an inpatient program that will accept her insurance and if she doesn't go, her college will be taken away. I do have the ability to do that because my name is on the plan. Little did I know that would be a good thing one day. She is not currently living with us because of the dorm situation and prior to that, we kicked her out and she lived with a boyfriend and other friends.

 

Again, thanks for the advice and I'll keep posting. Shelly

Any tool is useless if it is not used. Your daughter did not use the tools that were being offed to her, so for your daughter there is no way of her honestly knowing if it was useless to her or not.

It is sad really that she is so young and throwing her life away, I know i did the same thing, fortuantly for me I got it at the age of 26, for that i am gratefull.

My mom who died of a overdose never got the change to Get it, and for that i am sad, and wish that she was here. I really do hope your daughter gets it and soon, because, homnestly, later may be to late, I know that all to well =(.

I am praying for you and hope you have the strength and courage to do everything you feel is right for yourself and your daughter.

Hugs.

Tammy

 
October 1, 2008, 2:10 pm CDT

Congrats!

Quote From: mischif12

I haven't posted here in while but thought I would drop in to tell you all that today I took my cake for 4 years of sobriety from alcohol and drugs. I'm alive and kicking stiil.

 

peace and namaste

 

Mischif

Way to go! I am so very happy for you!

Tammy

 
October 2, 2008, 2:44 pm CDT

Addiction Support

Quote From: tammy_anne

Any tool is useless if it is not used. Your daughter did not use the tools that were being offed to her, so for your daughter there is no way of her honestly knowing if it was useless to her or not.

It is sad really that she is so young and throwing her life away, I know i did the same thing, fortuantly for me I got it at the age of 26, for that i am gratefull.

My mom who died of a overdose never got the change to Get it, and for that i am sad, and wish that she was here. I really do hope your daughter gets it and soon, because, homnestly, later may be to late, I know that all to well =(.

I am praying for you and hope you have the strength and courage to do everything you feel is right for yourself and your daughter.

Hugs.

Tammy

Tammy, 

 

Thanks for writing and for the prayers! I can say as of today things are good, but who know's what tomorrow will bring. My daughter is known for striking just when it seems the water's are calm. She's coming down to visit me from college for the day tomorrow and I just hope she's on her best behavior. Normally she only visits when she wants something, like money, but she know's the well is dry. I kind of feel like some pressure has been lifted now that I'm actually doing what I said I would do. However I'm not getting my hopes up that she'll accept any offer to get help, she's denied it before in a way. She went though outpatient rehab and did well for a little while until we realized she was just coasting along while making us believe in her lies. I had hopes back then that a miracle would take place and she would be herself again, but I was dreaming. She's still in serious denial and doesn't think she's "that bad". Now that she's drinking AND taking pills, she's "that bad"!! Hopefully she'll get help before it's too late but like you said, she may have to hit rock bottom first. I can only offer her the resources she needs to get better, unfortunately I can't force her to get well. I would if I could believe me! 

 

I'll keep in touch and thanks again for the advice and prayers!  Shelly

 
October 2, 2008, 2:56 pm CDT

Shelly,

Quote From: shellynfla

Tammy, 

 

Thanks for writing and for the prayers! I can say as of today things are good, but who know's what tomorrow will bring. My daughter is known for striking just when it seems the water's are calm. She's coming down to visit me from college for the day tomorrow and I just hope she's on her best behavior. Normally she only visits when she wants something, like money, but she know's the well is dry. I kind of feel like some pressure has been lifted now that I'm actually doing what I said I would do. However I'm not getting my hopes up that she'll accept any offer to get help, she's denied it before in a way. She went though outpatient rehab and did well for a little while until we realized she was just coasting along while making us believe in her lies. I had hopes back then that a miracle would take place and she would be herself again, but I was dreaming. She's still in serious denial and doesn't think she's "that bad". Now that she's drinking AND taking pills, she's "that bad"!! Hopefully she'll get help before it's too late but like you said, she may have to hit rock bottom first. I can only offer her the resources she needs to get better, unfortunately I can't force her to get well. I would if I could believe me! 

 

I'll keep in touch and thanks again for the advice and prayers!  Shelly

My prayers are with you and your family too.

 

There is always HOPE.

 

Stay strong and please never give up!

 

xox

S

 
October 2, 2008, 3:04 pm CDT

Addiction Support

Quote From: labelfree

I am very very proud of you!  The intervention is only going to work if SHE is willing to work it!  You both sound like VERY LOVING parents!  The best thing though IF it doesnt go like you want than you must let her go. Until she hits rock bottom.

 

SHE CAN HAVE duel diagnosis.  I am not saying an addict is an addict is addict.  Maybe she has a depression problems too.  My husband was a "crack" head and now he is going for his MASTERS in ALCHOL/and DRUG counsl and he is seeing a shrink and taking anti depressant meds.

 

Okay your in FLA.  But I kind went to this place in NJ Its kind of like a "COUNTRY CLUB ish environment if in fact your daughter has "DUEL DIAGNosois"  IE  Drugs and depression and or other PHYCH issues  called CARRIER CLINIC...They accept ALOT of Insurances  I got in there because of BLUE CROSS Blue Shield..


The main guy's name is JEFF Stoner MSW   He is the evening Supervisior and will determine if your daughter will go to just drug and alchol place or duel diag/ APS  I went to APS.

 

www.CARRIERCLINIC.org

45 COUNTRY HWY 601

Belle Mead,  NJ

908-281-1000

 

Please let me know if I can help you any further!

xox

S

 

Labelfree,  Thanks for the information, I will be calling them! Everything helps!!  I do believe my daughter could have duel diagnosis. She's had depression problems for the past 2 year's, mostly because she's extremely insecure. If you saw a picture of her you would be shocked. She's absolutly beautiful, and I'm not just saying that because she's my daughter. She's got the looks of a movie star except that she's withdrawn and obsessed about her looks to the extreme. If she thinks her hair looks bad, or her makeup isn't right, it ruins her day and she looks for excuses not to go out of the house. But at the same time, she's flirtatious, outgoing, and has a very innocent way to her personality. We've taken her to several Doctor's but after a while she wouldn't continue the treatment. She excelled in high school too, so it was a shock when we found out she was stealing our medications.

 

As for the "loving parents part, thanks for saying that. I think we are. We have our own issues but they all lead to what's best for Katie. The only reason why I'm so concered about the insurance is because we put ourselves in debt last year when she was in rehab. But we didn't care, it was our daughter.

 

I'll keep you posted. My dad is out of the state and won't be back until next week, so we won't be doing the intervention until then. My sister and I went to visit and surprise Katie at her work last night. She works as a waitress. I got to say, she works her butt off and it was as if the old Katie was back for a little while. We had a couple of nice hours visiting her (for a change).

 

Anyway, thanks for the information, everything helps!!  By the way, congratulations on your 4 year sobriety!!!!

 

~Shelly

 
October 2, 2008, 3:11 pm CDT

Addiction Support

Quote From: labelfree

My prayers are with you and your family too.

 

There is always HOPE.

 

Stay strong and please never give up!

 

xox

S

Labelfree:  The picture on my posting in my beautiful daughter. I just wanted you to see what I was talking about.

 

Catch up with you soon, have a good day! Shelly

 
October 2, 2008, 3:17 pm CDT

My Sponsor Has 4 Years!

Quote From: shellynfla

Labelfree,  Thanks for the information, I will be calling them! Everything helps!!  I do believe my daughter could have duel diagnosis. She's had depression problems for the past 2 year's, mostly because she's extremely insecure. If you saw a picture of her you would be shocked. She's absolutly beautiful, and I'm not just saying that because she's my daughter. She's got the looks of a movie star except that she's withdrawn and obsessed about her looks to the extreme. If she thinks her hair looks bad, or her makeup isn't right, it ruins her day and she looks for excuses not to go out of the house. But at the same time, she's flirtatious, outgoing, and has a very innocent way to her personality. We've taken her to several Doctor's but after a while she wouldn't continue the treatment. She excelled in high school too, so it was a shock when we found out she was stealing our medications.

 

As for the "loving parents part, thanks for saying that. I think we are. We have our own issues but they all lead to what's best for Katie. The only reason why I'm so concered about the insurance is because we put ourselves in debt last year when she was in rehab. But we didn't care, it was our daughter.

 

I'll keep you posted. My dad is out of the state and won't be back until next week, so we won't be doing the intervention until then. My sister and I went to visit and surprise Katie at her work last night. She works as a waitress. I got to say, she works her butt off and it was as if the old Katie was back for a little while. We had a couple of nice hours visiting her (for a change).

 

Anyway, thanks for the information, everything helps!!  By the way, congratulations on your 4 year sobriety!!!!

 

Shelly

I have 7 months and some change!

 

At one time though I had 8 years under my belt but I never took suggetions or worked the steps so I eventually took my will back and went back out.

 

Today I am actively involved in SERVICE work.  I am going to my home group tonight I am the GSR there.

 

That carrier Clinic you can look it up online.  There was a girl in there with me that sounds just like your daughter.  Beautiful  The girl was also a "cutter too."

 

If in fact you folks wanted to go call that JEFF STONER or that number they will tell you how you have to go about the whole thing. They also have parents day on SAT and its really involved and great.  Gormet meals after the first 3 days she will have to be observed.  When my kids visted me all teens at the time  THEY WANTED to stay there with me!

 

Very nice.  But I am sure  Fla is nice too.  I know if you check out INTERVENTION on A&E  those people  will charge you 7,000 dollars because my girlfriend here in OHIO was looking into them for her husband.

 

Tell your daughter everything will be ok and she has a friend in OHIO (me) she can always chat with!

 

xox

S

 
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