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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:56:39 am
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December 7, 2008, 12:38 pm CST

I need advise

Hello my name is Angela I am 21 years old , I have two beautiful boys 4 years old and 1 year old. And I am married to a crack addict, We have been together for going on 7 years and married for two. When we had our second child he began using crack at first it was like once a month and now it has gone on for a little over a year and has became about once a week,he has a anger problem as well and we recently found out he is bipolar.  I love my husband but I don't know how much more I can take we have been threw 3 homes lost our car we have lost everything that we had he runs off with his paychecks and does'nt worry about me or his kids.I left him for a week or so.. and told him I wanted a divorce he begged me to come back and told me he wants help but he won't go to a inpatient program, because he was in prison for over a year and says he does'nt want to feel locked up again. I do believe him that he wants to change he was clean for about a month but he relapse two days ago. I don't know what to do to help him. and I don't want to risk losing my boys over his problem. what do I do? can someone please give me some ideas. thank you
 
December 14, 2008, 4:43 am CST

Hi Angie

Quote From: angie127

Hello my name is Angela I am 21 years old , I have two beautiful boys 4 years old and 1 year old. And I am married to a crack addict, We have been together for going on 7 years and married for two. When we had our second child he began using crack at first it was like once a month and now it has gone on for a little over a year and has became about once a week,he has a anger problem as well and we recently found out he is bipolar.  I love my husband but I don't know how much more I can take we have been threw 3 homes lost our car we have lost everything that we had he runs off with his paychecks and does'nt worry about me or his kids.I left him for a week or so.. and told him I wanted a divorce he begged me to come back and told me he wants help but he won't go to a inpatient program, because he was in prison for over a year and says he does'nt want to feel locked up again. I do believe him that he wants to change he was clean for about a month but he relapse two days ago. I don't know what to do to help him. and I don't want to risk losing my boys over his problem. what do I do? can someone please give me some ideas. thank you

Hello Angie,

Have you tried Narc-anon or al-anon?

 

What is your bottom line? You say he is violent and you have children?

 

In my opinion, the most important decision you need to make is to protect your children and provide them with a stable loving environment. They should be your first priority.

 

If your husband has had a relapse and there are no consequences you can bet there will be more relapses. Only you can decide where your bottom line is and how much you are willing to put up with and how much your children must suffer.

 

Sorry if that sounds harsh but......the kids come first!!!!!  Then work on what's next.

 

You cannot help him, he must help himself. You can give yourself a gift and learn about the disease and get support  for yourself and your children.

 

You can find the al-anon or narc-anon numbers on the web or in your phone book. They are a great source of information and resources.

I wish you godspeed in your decision.

Coffee

 
December 14, 2008, 4:48 am CST

Glad to hear your mum is doing better

Quote From: redfeathers

It's such a relief that she's off of it now. It made things so difficult living with her while she had it.

Hi redfeather,

I'm so glad to hear your mum is doing better.

 

Pain medication can sure do some strange things to people, even after only a short time.

I learned the hard way I cannot take morphine. I went crazy like your mum, my kids (and I) can laugh about some of the things I did now, but at the time it was pretty scary for them.

 

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers for a speedy recovery and best wishes for your future.

Coffee

 
December 15, 2008, 3:26 am CST

Addiction Support

Quote From: coffee831

Hi redfeather,

I'm so glad to hear your mum is doing better.

 

Pain medication can sure do some strange things to people, even after only a short time.

I learned the hard way I cannot take morphine. I went crazy like your mum, my kids (and I) can laugh about some of the things I did now, but at the time it was pretty scary for them.

 

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers for a speedy recovery and best wishes for your future.

Coffee

Thanks. I've noticed also that she eats a lot less junk. When she was on it, she would go through half a gallon of ice cream in one day, and get angry at us when we tried to stop her.

I'm not quite at the point where I can laugh about it yet. It's still to fresh over to be that comfortable again. It'll get there though.
 
January 6, 2009, 7:34 pm CST

What Can I Do?

I really need help and don't know what to do. I am married to a foreigner who somehow has become very addicted to gambling. Every paycheck he gets, he spends most of it on either scratch tickets or casinos. He is not very responsible. There are so many things I can say that are not very positive about my marriage. I just don't know what to do. My husband's gambling habits are driving me crazy. He works full time, 40 hours a week and then when he gets paid at the end of the month, he usually ends up gambling away most of his salary. I am speaking of a gambling habit that costs him around $2000 a month or more.

 

He refuses to get help. I hate to see him blow all his salary so easily. He will lie, try to deceive me, has even forged checks in my name in order to satisfy his urge. The sad thing though is, gambling like this is not just an urge, it is a horrible addiction.

 

I am left to pay the bills, the rent, and all other expenses that come up. My husband looks at his money as HIS. All he can think of is when will he or when can he go and throw away all his money. He expects me to feed his sickness. He has ruined my credit, depends on me to support him, and even looks at my salary as OURS to take care of him and all expenses. I also work 40 hours a week. I hate casinos, I hate gambling and I am desperate!

 
January 16, 2009, 2:04 am CST

need somewhere to turn

hello  the tile says it all ... my husband and I need some advice on how to deal with a 26 year old man that has a drug addiction  it  has taken over his life and he is in big denial.  The medicine was prescribe for back pain.. and is now been used  as his life line for stress.  This young man is my son and we are so scared  of his addiction  He is now in a 5 day rehab center court order.. and will be  released soon  I can have him in my home like this.   Where do u turn when u cant take your son back in Our home because  he is in denial  isn't working and has other issues like a learning disorder ADAH and MS  HELP Please where do i turn

 
January 19, 2009, 9:26 pm CST

help

i am 20 yrs old and i was addicted to opiates i have stopped for about 2 1/2 months now but i have slipped up but to no extent that i was at before.  It really doesn't have an affect on my body anymore but it is just all in my head and i don't know what to do.  This is also putting so much stress on me because it seems to be ruining my relationship with my girlfriend of 3 yrs.  I do not have any insurance so i can not go to see any doctors but what should i do or what books, advice or support can anyone lend to me
 
January 23, 2009, 6:28 pm CST

Addiction Support

Quote From: runt1973

My situation involves my husband who has been addicted to crack for 4 years.  He has been on the mend often and now I am facing another set back. I need a buddy to swap stories with.....

 

I feel very lonely as no one understands the pressure involved with seeing someone you love destroy your life by substance abuse.  If you can relate... give me some feed back, I would love to chat.

I completely understand.  My boyfriend of a year now, has been sober from Heroin for three years, and in the last month he has been using again.  I am losing my mind. I am so angry at him.  I don't know what to do.  I want to be supportive and stand by him. But I feel like I would be giving in. 

 

 
January 23, 2009, 6:42 pm CST

Addiction Support

I am so angry at my boyfriend, he is a foreigner that has had a history of using heroin.  Every since he 's moved to the US he has been clean.  Recently, he has planned to see his family that live abroad.  He has been acting very strange eversince he has been there (which would be coming up on two months now).  I called him out on it.  and he got very angry.  then two days later, he tells me he has been using for the last three weeks.  and decides to go to detox.  its been three days and i haven't heard anything from him at all.  I am worried, angry, devastated, and helpless.  I don't know what to do!
 
February 27, 2009, 2:39 pm CST

ADDICTION SUPPORT

Quote From: stevenwm

http://groups-beta.google.com/group/AlcoholicsVictoriousinChrist?lnk=li

FOR THOSE OF US WHO HAVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHO ARE EITHER ADDICTED TO ALCOHOL OR DRUGS OF SOME KIND NEED TO GO TO ALANON - THE GROUPS HELP US TO REALIZE THAT THERE IS NOTHING THAT WE CAN DO - EXCEPT TO HELP OURSELVES.  IF WE OURSELVES CHANGE AND STOP ENABELING - MOST GENERALY THE ONES WITH THE ADDICTION WILL SEE THIS CHANGE IN US AND HOPEFULLY WILL GO TO AA FOR HELP FOR THEMSELVES.  ONE THING THAT IS IMPORTANT IS THAT WE NEED TO STOP ENABELING AND WE NEED TO THINK BEFORE WE SAY ANYTHING - MOST TIMES WE ARE INVITED TO AN ARGUMENT AND WE NEED TO REALIZE THAT WE DON'T NEED TO ATTEND EVERY ARGUEMENT THAT WE ARE INVITED TO. THE WORDS "YOU COULD BE RIGHT" AND THEN TURNING AWAY AND CONTINUING WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING USUALLY WORKS.  YOU ALSO NEED TO THINK WHETHER IT IS TRULY THAT IMPORTANT - IF IT ISN'T THEN DROP IT AND DON'T GO THERE.    AFTER A WHILE WHEN THEY FIGURE OUT THAT YOU AREN'T GOING TO ARGUE - THEY WILL STOP TRYING TO GET YOU TO.  

 

GET IN TOUCH WITH ALANON AND WITH YOUR HIGHER POWER AND YOU WILL FIND THAT THEY BOTH WILL GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH. 

 

TRULY ALANON IS ONE OF THE BEST SUPPORT GROUPS EVER - YOU ARE FREE TO SAY WHATEVER IS BOTHERING YOU AND WE ALL HAVE BEEN THERE SO WHATEVER YOUR PROBLEM - YOU CAN GET SUPPORT THERE AND NO ONE WILL EVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING OUTSIDE OF THE ALANON ROOMS.  I HAVE BEEN IN ALANON FOR 8 YEARS NOW AND I KNOW THAT I WILL NEED IT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.  MY PARENTS WERE BOTH ALCOHOLICS - I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES AND YUP THAT'S RIGHT - ALL ALCOHOLICS!!!   AND NOW MY ONE AND ONLY SON IS A DRUG ADDICT. 

 

GROWING UP IN ALCOHOLIC ENVIRONMENT KIND OF LETS YOU THINK THAT THIS IS "NORMAL".  WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IS THAT NORMAL IS ONLY A SETTING ON A DRYER.........

 

YOU CAN GO ON LINE TO FIND ALANON OR IN YOUR LOCAL TELEPHONE BOOKS - IT WILL BE THE BEST CHANGE YOU EVER MADE IN YOUR LIVES!!!

 
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