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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:56:39 am
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February 28, 2009, 3:03 pm CST

Help

I desperately need to either talk to Dr. Phil or one of his staff about a  VERY complex problam I'm facing with my son!!!! I need to contact the Dr. Phil show ASAP about this prolem. Is there a number I can call to talk with the show immediately instead of going through email?? Please somebody help, you maybe LITERALLY saving a life!
 
March 22, 2009, 3:22 pm CDT

H E L P ??????

I started out as pain management patient, while going through five major back surgeries.

In the beginning the meds were Lortabs, somas and, Zanaflex. One year later I was on 50mcg Duragesic patch every 72 hours, five years later, 100mcg Duragesic every two days and, five 800mcg Fentora a day and two 1200 mcg actiq at night to sleep.

In the beginning, the back pain was the worst part of my day, but now the narcotic pain is far worse than the back pain could have ever been. I am at the point where I can’t focus, concentrate, or even drive. I am always feeling scared for no reason. I am confined to my room; I stay in bed and cry because my life is gone and because what I have become. I am in constant withdrawals, I tried to detoxify my self two years ago, but the vomiting, the convolutions and, the seizures broke me after five days. I went to my doctor and he told me that had I continued much longer than I did, it would have killed me!

So with his help we tried three more times to detoxify. We used buprenorphine, subutex and, suboxen but each time had the same results, and each time ended back on fentanyl but a higher dose each time. Because of the narcotics I am just a shell of the man I once was. Nobody understands what has happened to me or what I have become. The pain, and the loss of both my memory and basically, my life, has led to me praying every day that I could have my life back without the narcotic painkillers.

I asked my pain management doctor " what am I to do?" he said the he did not know, but as patients we expect them to be miracle workers, to be know alls and, to keep us safe, but doctors are only human, they do make mistakes. The only do what the patient ask of them, and then the patients get mad at them when they do it, so what are they supposed to do? My response to this is that when they prescribe things, They know what it does, how it works and the long term effects if it on the patients. They should not take the drug representatives word as law on these things; they are essentially used car sales men in dress clothing.

Before fentanyl I had back pain, yes, but I also had a life. I would go and do things and yes it was painful but, it was at least doable. Now, "life" with fentanyl, I am sorry but it just does not exist on my very best days, only in my dreams and prayers does it exist now! I cant find anybody or any place that will except my medicare willing to help, florida rapid detox will help, but i dont have fifteen thousand dollars, and no body will loan me the money, because the amount of my income, I beg for help and get nothing, I dont want anything for free, I pray every night, not to wake up the next morning.

My story Edwin Polatty, edpolatty@bellsouth.net

 
April 2, 2009, 2:34 pm CDT

gambling

 I need help, I am a  compulsive gambler
 
April 2, 2009, 8:52 pm CDT

Addicted to lots of things

Hello all, I am 31 years old and I have just begun my journey to a more healthful and drug-free/alcohol-free life. I mean JUST begun...7 days clean now. I have been using since the age of 15. Please don't get me wrong, I do not look like your typical addict, I don't use everyday either...but when I do drink, I drink too much...I smoke marijuana chronically (no pun intended) and I also still dabble with cocaine and ecstacy. I am also addicted to food and cigarettes. I have not yet seeked professional help but I have removed myself from my environment in order to help with the temptations. I know this is just a temporary solution as I cannot stay away from home forever, but it is a start. I plan to attend AA, NA and OA if necessary, anything to pre-occupy my time. I am hoping that these meetings will mean a new life for me, please keep your fingers crossed. In the meantime, I am hoping to connect with other people that have the same issues. That is why I joined these message boards. I welcome anyone with advice or encouraging worfds to PLEASE write to me. I know I cannot change everything overnight, but I feel like this is a start. I have also started going to Church...I have needed something to believe in for quite some time now...I can't think of anything better than the LORD. I know with GOD by my side all things will be possible...please say a little prayer for me, or at least keep fingers crossed. I know I am not alone in this battle. GOD BLESS you all and thank you for reading.
 
April 6, 2009, 6:36 am CDT

To Mr. Polatty

Hi.  I’m sorry you’re having these problems, but when you say no one understand what you’re going through, that is simply untrue.  The problem is you’re not doing the right things to seek out those who understand (and there are many).  The feelings of wanting your life back are very typical of addicts and alcoholics. 

  

If you are accurately reporting what your docs have said, they are complete idiots.  Detox (and this includes rapid detox) can serve to stabilize you physically, but as you’ve already discovered, it’s not a long term plan.  And this is why it’s often said we can’t do this alone.  We need ongoing support. 

  

I’m not a Medicare expert, but I’d think they have to cover a withdrawal in a hospital.  But the trick here is to find a hospital that has an inpatient treatment center.  Even if a 30 day stay isn’t covered, you’ll get access to the patients, counselors and volunteers on the ward.  Why does this matter?  You’ll be building up the support system you need.  And when you leave after a week or so, you’ll have some knowledge of local NA or AA meetings.   

  

Your post didn’t even mention these meetings and I’m guessing this is the problem.  We all think we can do this on our own and we almost never succeed.  And in those meetings, you’ll see people just like you.  Please consider this.  You’re not a hopeless case; in fact, you’re quite typical.  But you’re not doing the things you need to do to get past this. 

  

 
April 16, 2009, 2:16 pm CDT

Acceptance is the first step

Quote From: addicted2all

Hello all, I am 31 years old and I have just begun my journey to a more healthful and drug-free/alcohol-free life. I mean JUST begun...7 days clean now. I have been using since the age of 15. Please don't get me wrong, I do not look like your typical addict, I don't use everyday either...but when I do drink, I drink too much...I smoke marijuana chronically (no pun intended) and I also still dabble with cocaine and ecstacy. I am also addicted to food and cigarettes. I have not yet seeked professional help but I have removed myself from my environment in order to help with the temptations. I know this is just a temporary solution as I cannot stay away from home forever, but it is a start. I plan to attend AA, NA and OA if necessary, anything to pre-occupy my time. I am hoping that these meetings will mean a new life for me, please keep your fingers crossed. In the meantime, I am hoping to connect with other people that have the same issues. That is why I joined these message boards. I welcome anyone with advice or encouraging worfds to PLEASE write to me. I know I cannot change everything overnight, but I feel like this is a start. I have also started going to Church...I have needed something to believe in for quite some time now...I can't think of anything better than the LORD. I know with GOD by my side all things will be possible...please say a little prayer for me, or at least keep fingers crossed. I know I am not alone in this battle. GOD BLESS you all and thank you for reading.

Hello, I hope you are doing alright today. I am a recovering addict of almost 2 years and I can tell you that I have done everything from psychologists, to doctors, to switching drugs, to attending church regularly, to moving away and nothing has have compared to NA. I have been a member for a long time and although I have relapsed because I wasnt working on myself I was just staying sober, I can tell you that once you go to the meetings and get the unconditional love and support that those people have, you find something inside yourself worth the effort again. God is in those rooms and in the literature. Every word shocked me at first because it seemed to have been written just for me and once I got a sponsor and began to work on the 12 steps I found myself for the first time ever. I can recall smiling for the first time and knew it was real, not the drugs, or the men, or what-ever! It was real, and I can tell you that it doesnt matter what or how much you use just in what you want to do about your problem and how na can help you. If you get nothing more from what I've written please just understand that I know what you are going threw and it does get better and there are people out there for you, specifically na, which is just a group of people like you that meet in a church basement and drink alot of coffee! Hope you do well, I will pray for you.

jamie

 
April 19, 2009, 7:09 pm CDT

Feeling lost and alone

Hello I am struggling with an alcoholic and drug addicted husband and we have 2 children in the middle of it all. I have really lost myself during this 15 year marriage. I cannot talk to my family and I have tried alanon but am so tired of his actions and the kids and I suffering the consequences. I have stayed partly for the kids and partly because I cannot financially support myself and my kids. I do not feel like I love him, not like a wife should. We don't communicate nor do we have any contact unless we have sex. He lies to me about everything, and I mean everything. Things that are so small that I wonder why he is lying to me for. He recently got a real good job, yes in this economy! But now he is going to blow it all and I ask myself if I am going to have to go back to struggling with him why can't I struggle without him? Recently  I took the kids and stayed in a motel for the night because I was honestly afraid if we stayed it could become dangerous. There have been times before that were not safe. I feel like since he has been in rehab atleast 8 times in the past 15 years he has the tools but he chooses to drink. I really need someones thoughts or opinions to guide me along. I appreciate any advice someone has for me.
 
April 30, 2009, 10:54 am CDT

be there

Quote From: kinsong

hi, I am feeling so lost.  My brother was aressted six months ago because of drug use.  I felt like I should try to support him because if he knew someone cared he would want to get better.  Unfortunatly, after six months of being clean and just two weeks before his sentence date he was able to get drugs in the jail and he used them.  I felt so down.  My mother made excuses for him that he had a terrible child hood and didn't get along with our dad.  I lived through the same expereince and I have worked hard to better myself I told her he is 28 and he needs to take resbonsibility for himself that did not go over so well.  My mother didn't go and visit him while he was in jail because she said it was too much for her.  She has a drinking problem herself and is always depressed.  My father went every week despite it being a two hour drive and then he could only visit for an half an hour.  Our famliy dealt with this same problem as I grew up.  My father was arrested for drug use when I was 8 and spent a year in prison.  He continued to have problems after he was out but recently he has taken control of his live and is doing better.  I feel lost because I do not know if I should continue to support my brother I still love him but should I go visit him?  I was suppose to go to his sentencing but I decided not to.  What could I say now, he needs help but drugs are the most imoprtant thing to him.  I am unsure how to handle this I am afraid I may make things worse than I already have.   
I'm not sure whether you will agree, I have spent over half my life on drugs unfortunately. I know you must hurt,as my family has been. You get let down and want to turn your back the way you feel he has on you by not valueing you enough to not have him taken away, yes, or,no? How ever he got there,ya he chose his path, he needs you. My mom never gave up, I yelled at her many times as she was only desperately trying to help. I was going through my own thing,anger was my response cuz I had no good excuse,she made it so hard to mess up. She was always on me. If she had turned her back, as she did for a short while and gave up I wouldn't have ever made it. I had to be ready for help yes, had to hit rock bottom. Drug addicts can hate what they are doing and still get stuck,fall down, and repeat their mistakes. Understanding addiction, expressing his feelings, and knowing what triggers his use, and what he can do is what he needs.  Trust me he sees he is wrong. He is turning to drugs to escape. Its not directed to you.
 
April 30, 2009, 10:57 am CDT

Addiction Support

Quote From: ndpendant1

Hello I am struggling with an alcoholic and drug addicted husband and we have 2 children in the middle of it all. I have really lost myself during this 15 year marriage. I cannot talk to my family and I have tried alanon but am so tired of his actions and the kids and I suffering the consequences. I have stayed partly for the kids and partly because I cannot financially support myself and my kids. I do not feel like I love him, not like a wife should. We don't communicate nor do we have any contact unless we have sex. He lies to me about everything, and I mean everything. Things that are so small that I wonder why he is lying to me for. He recently got a real good job, yes in this economy! But now he is going to blow it all and I ask myself if I am going to have to go back to struggling with him why can't I struggle without him? Recently  I took the kids and stayed in a motel for the night because I was honestly afraid if we stayed it could become dangerous. There have been times before that were not safe. I feel like since he has been in rehab atleast 8 times in the past 15 years he has the tools but he chooses to drink. I really need someones thoughts or opinions to guide me along. I appreciate any advice someone has for me.
Have you tried to without anger express how you feel. Ask him if he is happy? Ask him if its his plan to change?
 
April 30, 2009, 11:08 am CDT

been there

Quote From: jandjforever

Hello, I hope you are doing alright today. I am a recovering addict of almost 2 years and I can tell you that I have done everything from psychologists, to doctors, to switching drugs, to attending church regularly, to moving away and nothing has have compared to NA. I have been a member for a long time and although I have relapsed because I wasnt working on myself I was just staying sober, I can tell you that once you go to the meetings and get the unconditional love and support that those people have, you find something inside yourself worth the effort again. God is in those rooms and in the literature. Every word shocked me at first because it seemed to have been written just for me and once I got a sponsor and began to work on the 12 steps I found myself for the first time ever. I can recall smiling for the first time and knew it was real, not the drugs, or the men, or what-ever! It was real, and I can tell you that it doesnt matter what or how much you use just in what you want to do about your problem and how na can help you. If you get nothing more from what I've written please just understand that I know what you are going threw and it does get better and there are people out there for you, specifically na, which is just a group of people like you that meet in a church basement and drink alot of coffee! Hope you do well, I will pray for you.

jamie

I am just beginning again to start to get clean 7yrs in 5 yrs out 5 in 3 out and here I am again dabbling led me sure enough to borderline. I am scared, I have it better than ever, I don't want to appreciate what I just had. My children are teenagers now, and the guilt is getting hard to bare. I am lacking something in my life to keep me on board. I make it to feel good again then I cave and dred the coming down to recover the will and want to do anything. I hope to make some changed and get help and support from somewhere.
 
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