Topic : 05/28 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 3

The normal/neurotic couple incorporates communicative-interactive tips and interventions directed towards effective communication, conflict resolution, problem solving and enhanced intimacy. The personality-disordered marriage, even when managed with strategic skill and therapeutic acumen, too often seems impervious to change. Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight are: 

Treating Borderline States in Marriage:  Dealing with Oppositionalism, Ruthless Aggression, and Severe Resistance by Charles McCormack 

The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple:  A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment by Joan Lachkar

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes by Bill Eddy

Why is it Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm 

There are relationships, marriages, and families that are so destructive the only option is for a person to get out.  Get out with the little bit of sanity you may have remaining.  As painful as it may be, make a promise to yourself to leave. Leave so that you can begin a life of healing and recovery.  Leave so you can eventually learn to live a joyful, peaceful and fulfulling life.

Hope it helps!

There is hope for this family, who are we to say that there is not??!!  Of course it is going to be ugly as everything gets out in the open as it is not a pretty process.  My heart goes out to all of them, but especially  to Melissa. I truly know what she feels. One day you look around and see that your life is not what you dreamed it would be, and you try to eat yourself into numbness. It bites...no pun intended. I hope that the points Dr. Phil is making will get through to her.

I see no help from Randy  or Melissa with Josh. No wonder Megan's a __ with no life. Helo look what her  life  consist of? Risaing a speical needs child is exhusting. I think the others need to step up and thnk about help Megan with the kid here.

In the show today Mom was talking to Melissa's boyfriend about buying fruit and veggies to help her get healthier and lose weight. Well the boyfriend said they don't buy it cause they don't like that stuff well what about the child? Is he getting what he needs as a child? I think Melissa is lazy and needs to have a reality check. Melissa is only going to have things changed in her life only if she gets off her butt.

I watch Dr. Phil  as often as I can. usually, I am the one going, "I can't believe these people!"  I have never really connected something he said to my life...until today. I guess this was my "A-ha"  moment as his friend Oprah says.

I am Melissa's size. They mentioned her weight amount and her clothing size too. I live in denial. I have a son. He is 5 months old. When Dr. Phil said 'You have no right  to. . . " and he talked about her excuses: that was ME. I mean, melissa and I are day and night when it comes to happiness and relationships, but I actually knew that Dr. Phil would say those things to me about my weight.

When he said  that she was responsible for her weight and at her funeral she should tell her son she could have changed it but didn't........I lifted from my chair in a state of panic! I went to my son's crib where he was taking a nap and started balling like a baby!

By being overweight, I miss so much already! I can't even swing in  a park with my nephews because they swing doesn't fit me and roller coasters, swimming pools, airplanes, parties, movie theatres are all places I avoid on purpose because I don't like being reminded of my weight! What am I going to miss out when my son gets older? Or will I even be here?? NO WAY am I going to miss another thing!

I do love my son. And, I have to take care of his mother.

Thank you Dr. Phil. You finally got me.  Mark me on your reaction belt!

No more excuses. I promise.