Topic : 05/28 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 3

 I kept waiting for Dr.Phil to comment when those two continued to sit there, all cuddled up together.  And the family?!!!  Are they so used to the boyfriend with his arm around their son that they don't even notice?!  You can bet I would notice a man snuggling up with my son like that! 

What the heck is wrong with these people?  Are they totally clueless???  The boyfriend is GAY!  And he's all over your son.   HELLOOOOOO............wake up folks! 

 BINGO!!!!  That family needs to pay attention!  Surely they noticed that the boyfriend spent the WHOLE time with his arm around their son, snuggling on the couch!!!  WAke up and smell the coffee folks.  I know that I would have serious concerns about any man treating my son that way.  My two sons love each other, but would NEVER sit together like that.   I don't know of the brother is gay, but I will bet the farm that the boyfriend is.  Surely the family has noticed it.  Haven't they? 

 Ever noticed how people who are bored, are just so boring?  Why the hell can't she learn to drive, get a job, go to school, go volunteer, something while her child is in school all day. 

I am bit worried about Ryan since she had nothing good to say about him and blamed him for ruining her life.  WELLLLL.............he sure as heck didn't choose his 17 year old mother.  She did make the choice to be a mother, decades before she was ready to be a parent and with a guy who is lies, steals, and hits on her little brother! 

 Is this you?  I have a question for you.  Why was your boyfriend cuddling with your brother all through the part of the show with Dr.Phil?  Does he do that often?  Have you considered that your bf is gay?  Everything about him screamed GAY to me, the way he was with your brother, the way he sat, the way he talked, and the sobbing.  He may not have admitted it yet, even to himself, but he sure seems gay.  If I were your parents, I would let him sit there snuggling with my son.  It's just not right.  imo Your parents need to wake up and smell the coffee! 

 No, it wasn't just you.  The boyfriend is clearly gay.  I kept waiting for the parents to say something about the two of the cuddling all that time on the sofa.  Perhaps bf does this all the time to their son and they're just too clueless, or too wrapped up in themselves to notice. If any man set on the sofa with his arm around my son for that long, I'd sure be asking some questions, REAL quick.  Straight men just don't snuggle up like that. 

 I too have related to Dr. Phil's comments on losing weight because of wanting to be there for our children.  His comment on being a 'responsible parent' by taking care of ourselv es really got to me!  I have been separated from my husband for going on 4 years now and live with my Dad with my 14 yr old aspergers son.  I don't even leave the house anymore except to go to the grocery store or take my son somewhere.  There was spousal abuse in my marriage and it is my 2nd marriage.  But all that to say, I am just stuck where I am and am afraid to move.  I have no friends and don't look for more because of my weight....the current excuse.  I wouldn't know where to start finding friends.  I can totally relate to Melissa and her TV watching and eating keeping her company.  I do not work either.  I live through the shows on TV and the rest of the time I deal with my son and the problems that beset an Aspergers kid in a Mainstreamed environment -- High School.  It is exhausting just trying to get the teachers and counselors to understand the condition let alone how to help him 'fit in' and do well in class. 

Melissa, you will survive, but you need support to do it.  I went through the Harbor Regional Center which I believe is Nationwide.  They are a Government Run group and they have many classes to help your son and you adjust to life.  I hope that this helps. 

 I can't help wondering why everyone seemed to think it was perfectly normal for the boyfriend and Melissa's brother to be all snuggled up together on the couch for so long.  Adult men, who are straight, do not do that.  Period.  Why didn't Melissa's parents say something?  Do they think it's ok for their son to have a man's arm around him, pulling him right next to him,  for an hour?  Didn't Dr.Phil notice? 

Do you all think that Dr.Phil will ask about the boyfriend cuddling with the brother?  To me, the boyfriend is so obviously gay.  No wonder Melissa's depressed! 

Yea, I feel that too with the exception of a woman trying to take care of an autistic child/children.

thats a subject I'd like to see more of?  There was so many issues this family is very comfortable in keeping?  When the Mom seen the picture of her daughter beautiful? I about

went off on the TV?   Her weight is not what keeps a Mom from seeing her beautiful in my book.

What should have been much more important was the unhappiness unless she was eating,

manipulating feelings or gossiping trouble?  That is sad.

The house will be a bust because there is not the family respect for change being better?

I am sorry to hurt anyones feelings here but having a home filthy with a child with any disability is

definitely a problem.  It is all the more problems in the home, more danger for the child and the mental picture daily of clutter and disarray is a negative feed for everyone there in it?

The house probably will be a bust, Dr. P can save us some boredom by continuing on the daughters relationship, problems and educating many on autism and the effects on the whole family.  The many suspected causes like pregnant women taking medications, which many are doing via Doctors saying they are safe?  Methods of child birth also may be included, problem is not enough research is going into it or being reported?

Randy is the big problem there. He seems like a very nice person deep down but I think he has something more going on with himself. He appears to have serious issues with his sexuality. I think that he may have a problem with himself understanding that he might be gay and he is either not understanding it nor does he not want to accept it. He is definitely suffering from lack of attention. He needs alot of attention that he is not getting and he is extremely sensitive. I think he is more in love with her brother than with her.

 

Doesn't Dr. Phill see this. It is very obvious. He needs help in accepting his sexuality. I think that he needs time away from her and he needs to get help in accepting his sexuality. I hope that he stops hurting himself the way he does and accepts his sexuality and stops hiding it behind this girl. A lot of guys are in the same situation Randy is in and there is help out there for them. It just takes admiting it first and than acting it out. This way, he ends up hurting himself, the girl, the family and anyone else that is involved with this. If he gets help he probably will stop the lying and stealing he is doing to get the attention he is looking for. Once he accepts himself he no longer has to fight to get attention like he is doing now.

 

Many people have been in this position and it sucks. But once you come to love yourself and accept yourself and live the life that makes you happy, you will find that lying and stealing are really not apart of you and they were a cover to cry for help with your confusion of your sexuality.

 

Dr. Phil, unless you really cannot see that he is crying for help and he is gay, than I hope that you get hoim the proper help he needs. I have been exactly in the position he is in and he needs help. If he does not get the help he needs now, he may try to commit suicide some where down the road. He is crying out for help and no one is catching it. He is gay and needs to be comfortable in his sexuality. I have been there, help him now before it is too late.,

Edwin,

 

Sorry to have offended you...this was just a perception of what was broadcast on the show.  I am obviously not the only person who percieved you'll as "cozy".  Maybe YOU are affectionate in general, but Randy is the person in question here.  He seems to be a very confused and untruthful person.  You may want to be careful that your affection is not being misinterpreted by him.  The affection shown by him towards you was NOT normal.  This guy has some emotional turmoil going on inside of him, he's trying to find himself. 

 

Men showing affection is quite ok...my brother and father too-- hug and  tell one another they love each other.  My husband hugs and kisses his father and brother just the same...but what was shown on the Dr. Phil show, was not the norm.  Best wishes to you and your family. 

 

Remember, blood is thicker than water...Melissa needs you.  You should be there for her and your nephew.  Part of her problem is that she feels alone with raising her son.  Your friendship with Randy may be sending her mixed emotions as well.  As a mother of and "autistic" realm child, I too need my family most.  Our strongest support is those who love us unconditionally.  Please recognize this...and put your efforts toward showing your sister you are there for HER.