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Topic : 05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

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After all their hard work, the latest Dr. Phil Family receives some surprises from Dr. Phil! He informs Melissa that everything she needs to get her life back on track is headed her way: a complete health evaluation, personal trainer, nutritionist, and food service delivered to her door. In addition, she’ll receive help for her depression and be connected with a developmental disabilities specialist for her autistic son. But it all comes with a condition: Melissa and Randy need to heal their toxic relationship. Then, a talk with Myra and Gene leads to a tearful apology. And, will a one-on-one with Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, help Myra see that she deserves to be treated with dignity and respect? Will Myra set some standards in her broken marriage? Will there even be a marriage to speak of when they get home? Dr. Phil has some strong words for Gene. Next, a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity pits brother against brother as Edwin and Eugene audition for a Hollywood talent agent and a casting director. Don’t miss the surprising twist when they get a call from the judges. Then, it’s time to switch gears – literally! Since Myra and Melissa never learned to drive, Dr. Phil sets them up with a driving lesson so they can become more independent. And you won’t believe the prize in store for the women if they pass their driver’s test! Dr. Phil sits down with the entire family one last time. Will they use the tools he gave them to build healthier relationships? Talk about the show here.


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May 29, 2007, 9:30 pm CDT

05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

Quote From: janie2256

 Why don't Melissa's parents do something about that?  Why are they letting Randy snuggle with their son.  I'd freak if an adult man was doing that with my son. 

How old is the younger brother?  Is he over 18?  If not, there are major problems with Randy putting the moves on him. 
Are you serious? Both of my brothers are adults and find it laugh out loud funny how their affection for one another has been greatly misinterpreted. That was not snuggling, it was comfort. Everyone in that house had been angry and not talking to Randy except Edwin. So he sought solace from the one person he knew would understand. Remember that we were in that house for 7 whole days, it's not possible to show it all in 4 shows. It really is the tip of the iceburg, you should look below the surface of what you see before making a judgement call on something you don't understand.
 
May 29, 2007, 9:32 pm CDT

05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

Quote From: janie2256

 Melissa,
Why don't you drive?  You really need to change your life.  I'm glad that Dr.Phil will be helping you to do that.  Grab that opportunity!!! 

It's too bad you had a son at 17, but you did.  You need to grow up, real fast, and give him  the best possible life. 

Had it occured to you before the show that your boyfriend is gay?  He may not be out of the closet, but he certainly appears to be gay.  You need to kick him to the curb, not only because he's gay, but because he's a loser. 

Best wishes to you, and your son. 
I answered this previously as well. If you have no one to practice with or to teach you, it is a pretty impossible task.
 
May 29, 2007, 9:48 pm CDT

05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

Quote From: rr1227

I answered this previously as well. If you have no one to practice with or to teach you, it is a pretty impossible task.
 Did you get your license after the show?  I hope so. 
 
May 29, 2007, 10:46 pm CDT

Hi Mellissa

It's probably easy for me to say to you Grow up...but the way your parents act and yell at each other, sounds like you learned from them, that they need to grow up first.  So, instead of me passing jugdement on you, I'm going to hope that you take Dr Phil's help very Seriously and start a New life for yourself and your child and I'm wishing you the BEST of WISHES!!!!!  I also want to send them to your Mother as well, I feel she needs that too.  I believe your older brother may make it, too.  As far as Gene goes, umm I'''m not sure about him...and your younger brother, ummm him too...and as far as your boyfriend,, I don't see much going for him either.  I think you can do much better my Dear.  Please DO BETTER AND FIND ANOTHER MAN FOR YOURSELF, I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!  God Bless
 
May 30, 2007, 12:29 am CDT

Melissa

I don't know Melissa but I do have a special needs daughter and I do care for her alone.  Shes 8 yrs old shes in a wheelchair and shes severely developmentally delayed.  And shes my heart, shes the middle child I have 5 kids.  Not everything I thought and felt would be considered Politically Correct, esp in the beginning. I wasn't overjoyed at the fact that she was going to have to overcome so much in life.  About 2 yrs after she was born it dawned on me that she'd get her period and I'd be responsible to clean her up and make sure she didn't get pregnant.  I spent 3 yrs teaching her to use a fork.  She went through so many surgeries she has scars all over her body, her feet and legs are twisted and I have a hard time finding clothes for her. She just outgrew her diapers and kid diapers are $100 a bag of 50.  Because of all the pain she endured she fought me if I  touched her for a year.  Its odd to remember it now because shes always hugging and kissing people today.  She has texture problems and I have a choice of very few items she will eat, initially she wouldn't even touch many things.  She acted abused sometimes screaming inconsolably for hours because technically she was abused. Granted it was to save her life but all she knew is she was in pain every day for 5 yrs.  She had intestinal problems to the point I spent 4 hrs a day reteaching her to eat one bite at a time off a tiny rubber baby spoon half a spoon full every minute or so so that she wouldn't throw it back up.  She was on oxygen and an apnea monitor so I was actually spared a lot of complicated equip to run.   The only person I had for support was my ex who constantly complained about the house. The house could have fallen down around my ears and I would have been sitting there with Sarah's rubber spoon half filled with mashed peas counting to 60one-thousand.   He never EVER EVER put his arms around me and said it would be OK. That he appreciated me as a mother.  Nobody did that until later.  Nobody in my family even came to see her in the hospital.  At that point I realized I was required to love her enough because there wasn't anyone around to do it for me.  I am speaking of this not because I feel bad, I love the hell out who I became thanks to these struggles. I say this because I am grateful I didn't turn out like some of the bitter judgmental women on this board. I don't think you realize how many opportunities your missing to be a healer in someones life.   Nor do I believe a single one of you would do any better in a similar situation.  People have a natural process of grieving that is crucial to moving on and moms constantly try to avoid that because they just don't think they have a right to waste time...well it catches up to ya. In the form of over eating or depression or maybe lashing out at someone in pain on a message board.

 

Melissa, it gets better.  Everyday I whisper "this too shall pass" whenever I feel upset  you should think of a song or a quote that inspires you and use it whenever you get frustrated. Which is probably about every 15 min so make sure its something you won't get sick of!  One other thing, thank you for calling Dr. Phil and for sharing your life with others. I learned a lot from you and I'm excited about the jump-start you've created for yourself.  I wish I would have reached out sooo much sooner.

 

Blessed Be, Everyone Walks Their Own Path

 

Kind Regards,

April

 

PS I adored your mom shes very loving and she'd do anything for you!!

 
May 30, 2007, 1:36 am CDT

You are not alone

Quote From: gracey1966

Melissa, no one knows unless they've been there. Just like you, I live it every day. My child was also born with a disability, so I know what that does to your life.  Its not about accepting the diagnosis or being in denial.  People around you feel that you need to get over it and move forward. You and I both know that it does not work that way.  Its ongoing, every single day of your life. Its overwhelming and it makes other people uncomfortable. Its very isolating and lonely. You said yourself how helpless you feel. I understand that, because we can't fix our babies. Its a devastating feeling, a kind of grieving that only one of us could understand.

I,too, gained and gained, and lost myself in the process. How could I not be a different person after this?  I shoved my feelings down with food. Sometimes I was afraid I might start screaming and never stop. Even my husband has never understood. I feel as if I had no support system at all. I would like to say that I got a handle on things, but not quite.......My child is doing great at age 14 (still disabled) but I am the aftermath, 100lbs. overweight, my totally gray hair falling out, diabetes and high blood pressure, all at age 41.  I can pass as a senior citizen !

Melissa, you are so young to be dealing with this....I wish I could be there for you. I've got a feeling that your mom just does not know how when it comes to your son. I hope the two of you will become closer.  You are probably an excellent mother to your son, but you are moving around on auto-pilot for yourself. For myself, it was like coming out of a fog after 7 years, asking myself what the hell happened to me. I still don't know how to turn it around. 

You could probably take Randy and your family out of this equation, and find that you are still facing these same problems. I saw your beautiful "before" pics. Melissa, you are still beautiful. But you have turned on yourself, and I think it has more to do with your feelings and emotions regarding your son.  Despite all the love you have for him, I know how much it hurts sometimes.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

What wonderful words you have for Melissa!  I swear I don't think it's possible for anyone to understand what it does to you when your child gets diagnosed with something that  hard to swallow.  I never realize what a judgemental nation we are, until my daughter was diagnosed with autism.  People either pity you, or they are indifferent, neither of which is helpful.  It's nice to see that the mother's of diabled children seem to be standing up for Melissa.
 
May 30, 2007, 3:39 am CDT

Mellisa get a grip

I am sorry, but I am tired of hearing Mellisa's drama.  Mellisa you can't have it both ways.  You complain about your husband and the cheating, then why are you still with him.  Either you forgive him and move on or leave him, your kids are not  that young.  I could see you staying for the childrens sake, but that not even the point.  I think you like beening the victim.  Me, me, poor me.  Give me a break, I dont feel sorry for you,  cause you are in this situation cause you want to be.  As a matter of fact I feel bad for your husband, because he has to live like that.  "GET A GRIP"
 
May 30, 2007, 3:51 am CDT

Quote from sassie

Quote From: moofoo719

first off not to come off rude, but u dont even know me or what me or my family has gone thru all these years. u live a year in my shoes and then u can understand why i am an emotional wreck. i had a kid at 17 as well as my sis. my parents fought in front of us for as long as i can remember. i was goin to school for musical theater and i had to just throw it all away b/c of other issues concerning my daugher and her mother. that issue wasnt even touched on. let someone hand u an opporunity like that and see how u handle it. it was a shock to me and a blessin. i'm finally back on track with my dream that i'd like to make a career. and then with my sis...i worry about her and i love her. i dont want her to get to the point that she cant walk anywhere. i just try to be there the best way that i can and when i feel like it's out of myhands to help, it makes me upset. i've always been an emotional person. if there's more u would like to know so that u could understand, plz by all means reply back. again i dont mean to come off rude. hope to hear from you.
Edwin, I am so glad you got the opportunity to go to acting classes, you did very well in the skit. I wish you and your family the best.
 
May 30, 2007, 3:59 am CDT

Not Mellisa the message GET A GRIP is for Myra

I am sorry i got the names mixed up.  Just put Myra's name instead of Melissa!  Message title is Get A Grip
 
May 30, 2007, 4:02 am CDT

from sassie

Quote From: evagold

Melissa has a son that was born with autism. Her boyfriend isn't Prince Charming. She's "bored and has nothing to do all day but watch tv". She can't get a job.....  I saw how she acted in the Dr.Phil house yesterday. As Dr.Phil said, the only time she moved at all was to get something to eat. We all have problems. Many of us a lot worse than hers. Sitting and eating all day long every day is not going to turn your child into a healthy perfect child. It's not going to get you a decent boyfriend and it's sure as heck not going to get you a job or help you get a better education. If you want a decent boyfriend, dump your old one and go and find someone decent. If you want a job, go and look for one. If you're depressed go to a psychiatrist and get help for it. Don't sit there and complain and holler about how life is so God awful that all you can do is sit and eat. Get off your butt and do something about it. The Lord helps those who help themselves. Smarten up.

Actually, God helps those who ask Him for help!
 
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