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Topic : 05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

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Created on : Friday, May 25, 2007, 01:10:42 pm
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After all their hard work, the latest Dr. Phil Family receives some surprises from Dr. Phil! He informs Melissa that everything she needs to get her life back on track is headed her way: a complete health evaluation, personal trainer, nutritionist, and food service delivered to her door. In addition, she’ll receive help for her depression and be connected with a developmental disabilities specialist for her autistic son. But it all comes with a condition: Melissa and Randy need to heal their toxic relationship. Then, a talk with Myra and Gene leads to a tearful apology. And, will a one-on-one with Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, help Myra see that she deserves to be treated with dignity and respect? Will Myra set some standards in her broken marriage? Will there even be a marriage to speak of when they get home? Dr. Phil has some strong words for Gene. Next, a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity pits brother against brother as Edwin and Eugene audition for a Hollywood talent agent and a casting director. Don’t miss the surprising twist when they get a call from the judges. Then, it’s time to switch gears – literally! Since Myra and Melissa never learned to drive, Dr. Phil sets them up with a driving lesson so they can become more independent. And you won’t believe the prize in store for the women if they pass their driver’s test! Dr. Phil sits down with the entire family one last time. Will they use the tools he gave them to build healthier relationships? Talk about the show here.


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May 29, 2007, 7:08 am CDT

Sorry, but I have had enough.....

I hate to say it but I am about sick of watching so much dysfunction. Please Please Dr. Phil show us a working marriage, a functioning family! I would just love to tune in one day and see  couples that have been married, 10, 20, and 30+ years. Ask them what their secret is? Have the producers go in their homes and listen to their conversations. How do they communicate? How do they treat each ther? How do they deal with  stress, financial problems, kids, teens, adult children? My parents have been married 50 years and raised 3 childre. It is past time to turn the cameras on people that are doing something right. America is being saturated on all that is wrong, abnormal, and sick, Lets see some 'normal', healthy folks for a change. Please Dr Phil.

Elaine in SC 

 
May 29, 2007, 7:28 am CDT

What's up with Randy and the Bro.?

I found myself wondering why Randy was sitting with his arm around Melissa's brother during the entire discussion.  I realize that the brother was the only one to offer Randy any comfort when he started to cry, but the way they continued to cozy up against each other for the remainder of the show has me wondering what's the story there?  They certainly looked more like a couple than Randy and Melissa, or even Gene and Myra.

 

 

 
May 29, 2007, 7:58 am CDT

melissa needs help.

first of all melissa needs to get in a support group to help her deal better with her son's disability which i know now she will be getting. she obviously feels trapped realizing she loves her son she seems bitter for the fact she has to deal with this forever. not to say i may not feel the same but thats where having the support from those that are experiencing the same may help her. i feel that the family all has some emotional problems not saying its wrong to cry no disrespect intended but due to it being constant is that a good thing or is it something to be thought about? i hope they will all get the help they need because i know my anxiety level runs high when i am watching them. best of luck to all of them.  LaNay

 
May 29, 2007, 8:29 am CDT

05/29 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 4

Quote From: elainehh

I hate to say it but I am about sick of watching so much dysfunction. Please Please Dr. Phil show us a working marriage, a functioning family! I would just love to tune in one day and see  couples that have been married, 10, 20, and 30+ years. Ask them what their secret is? Have the producers go in their homes and listen to their conversations. How do they communicate? How do they treat each ther? How do they deal with  stress, financial problems, kids, teens, adult children? My parents have been married 50 years and raised 3 childre. It is past time to turn the cameras on people that are doing something right. America is being saturated on all that is wrong, abnormal, and sick, Lets see some 'normal', healthy folks for a change. Please Dr Phil.

Elaine in SC 

Every single show has exactly that: Phil and Robin and both voice what works and what does not.  The also are good examples of good parents.  The years many couples was together does nto mean a good marrage either.  many women stayed for their children, financial bondage or for religous belief in sticking by the vows regardless of happiness.  The secret is always basic respect in a relationship of partners in love.  So all the disfunctional families need to learn that?

Why would a happily marreid couple call Dr. Phil for help?

Why would a Doctor have a show to help people if he showed those who do not need help?

Many people who watch the show will never be on it but they can relate, learn and change thier lives through watching it?

'normal healthy folks'  that is rare!

Now more on children will make all our futures better?

 
May 29, 2007, 8:45 am CDT

I found myself yelling at the family.

I wish I could have been in the room with these people. I wanted to tell them to shut up and listen to her. I felt as if no one got her pain. Here's a young woman who has no car, no job and no money. She's taking care of a child with a disability. She needs help. Like someone suggested, she needs to find a support group. The issue of her house being nasty, is just another symptom of her unhappiness. She's not happy inside and out. And, it shows. I think once she's able to get some type of help. She will be ok. Her issues go far deeper than her weight. Look at her family. Who wouldn't have problems with family like that?

 

I can fully understand her pain. I'm a SAHM, there are days where I feel stuck and unhappy. I have been without a car for almost 4 years now. I have to rely on others to get where I need to go. And, it has gotten old fast. This is why I feel bad for Melissa.

 
May 29, 2007, 9:08 am CDT

Melissa - I've been in the same boat

For Melissa, in case she's reading the boards:

 

I know how depressing life can be right now for you.  We have a lot of similarities - I also live in Columbus, didn't get my driver's license until I was 22, my 3 yr old daughter was recently diagnosed with autism, and I've gained a lot of weight in the past few years.  As for your son's autism, I know the worry about his future can be overwhelming.  You need to STOP thinking about the worst possible scenario, and focus on his day-to-day achievements.  Please visit some of the autism-positive websites (like Momnos.blogspot.com or autismvox.com) and read the stories there.  Life with an autistic person is a beautiful life indeed - just maybe different than you anticipated.  Talk to your MRDD case worker about getting you into some autism parents groups.  Making friends with other parents of autistic kids will be a lifesaver for you.  They understand the issues involved and would NEVER judge you when your kid has a meltdown (are you listening, parents of neurotypical kids?).  Maybe you'll see me there!  :)

 

But, your ability to avail yourself of these things is severly limited without a driver's license. Oooh, I feel for you!  I was always scared to drive when I was in high school, and then the shame over not having that license kicked in and kept me from even trying for years.  I went through college without a license, too embarassed to tell friends why they had to drive me everywhere, avoiding bars in case anyone saw me pull out my state i.d. (instead of a license) and ask questions, avoiding making new friends, uagh!  And let's be real: we live in Columbus, not NYC -  you need to drive to get to work, get to school, go out with friends, etc - the busses here suck.  I finally had enough at age 22, and forced myself to just do it.  I was tired of it holding me back.  I hope you are able to do the same.

 

Good luck to you - try not to despair.  The added benefit of trying to lose weight is that the exercise will help your mood.  Our kids will still have autism, but we will be happier and better able to deal with those challenges.

 
May 29, 2007, 9:40 am CDT

People, I am not dirty

Quote From: lowesbabe

I wish I could have been in the room with these people. I wanted to tell them to shut up and listen to her. I felt as if no one got her pain. Here's a young woman who has no car, no job and no money. She's taking care of a child with a disability. She needs help. Like someone suggested, she needs to find a support group. The issue of her house being nasty, is just another symptom of her unhappiness. She's not happy inside and out. And, it shows. I think once she's able to get some type of help. She will be ok. Her issues go far deeper than her weight. Look at her family. Who wouldn't have problems with family like that?

 

I can fully understand her pain. I'm a SAHM, there are days where I feel stuck and unhappy. I have been without a car for almost 4 years now. I have to rely on others to get where I need to go. And, it has gotten old fast. This is why I feel bad for Melissa.

Listen, I am not a dirty person. My house was very cluttered with my son's toys and therapy supplies which made it seem filthy. I was very upset that the producer had said that about my home because it was completely false. Also I am not uneducated abot my son and his autism. I am aware of all of the options that I have for treating his autism. This is just a reply for all of the posts that I have read. I am not lazy or selfish or in denial about anything. I have tried very hard to keep it together for my son and as a result, I suffered. Ryan and his autism have nothing to do with my mistakes. He is not the cause of any of them. I love my son, he is beautiful, smart and funny. His personality sparkles, but doing it all yourself takes its toll on you. It becomes too much to handle alone, there are also other issues that aren't even touched upon. One week doesn't come close to all the issues I deal with on a regualr basis. It is difficult to do things for yourself and not all children on the spectrum experience autism in the same way. Not all children are aggressive, my son is. I can't explain the feeling of loneliness to sit there and watch your child hurt himself and knowing that you can't stop it from happening. It is hard and sad and lonely.
 
May 29, 2007, 9:53 am CDT

Melissa's Denial

Why is Melissa blaming her child for her problems? Why isn't the child in school for intervention with his autism? I know 3 families with autistic children; and none of the mother's are fat. My granddaughter has a child about Ryan's age; and she is in school. My granddaughter started her own photography business after she and her husband divorced. She also has another child.

I think Melliss is unwilling to admit that she has made poor choices in her life. Number one is getting pregnant as a teenage; and two is staying in an unhealthy relationship. This has nothing to do with her child being autistic. She should leave Randy and move closer to her mother; so she could get help with her child.

This child needs love; not blame. How cold of a person is she to blame the child for her poor decision making and laziness!
 
May 29, 2007, 10:33 am CDT

I think this family is totally in thier element.

I'm so glad that Melissa is getting some help for her weight, depression and with her son. I think it will benefit her greatly and I hope she takes advantage of it. As for the rest of the family ,I honestly think this is the way they have been, the way they presently are, and the way they will be in the future. I think they are actually really happier this way than they would be if they tried to change,which ain't happenin'. I wouldn't blame DrP for thier predicament. I wouldn't even call it a predicament ,I'd call it a life-style. He has given advice and offered help which is all he can do. You can lead a horse to water, ...........
 
May 29, 2007, 11:09 am CDT

Never Give Up Melissa......

As a mother of an Autistic daughter, I can see and feel the frustration in Melissa.  Raising an Autistic child is a huge responsibility.  Many sleepless nights. But amazing children, you should be Proud that God chose YOU to raise one.  He knows you can do it, and so do I.    I think that going to the Dr. Phil house was the best thing to ever happen to this family, because this is exactly what they needed.  Melissa, I was right where you are now 4 years ago, my daughter was diagnosed with Autism and I had a 1 month old baby also.  I had to take a good look at my life and my spiritual side and realize that God gave me this child for a reason, and I need to do all I can for her and for myself.  Remember we have to live FOREVER!!!  We have to be there for our kids, more so when they have special needs.  I was also overweight, grant it I just had another baby, but I was overweight from the pregnancy before!!!  I lost 100 pounds on my own, eating right, walking but most of all, I "GOT IN THERE", got on my hands and knees, ran around and played with my little girl, one on one therapy sessions I did with her (I read alot of books, on how to do ABA therapy) and I did it.  The PECS (learning through pictures really worked great) but I did it myself, with no help from the outside or family.  So, You can Too!!!!  Never give up on your son or yourself, you can do it, I can see it in you.  From one mother to another.  Take Care, much love here for you and your little boy. 
 
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