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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:57:16 am
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March 8, 2006, 8:36 am PST

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I've recently gone through divorce, my former was having an affair with a married woman. She left her husband and 4 kids to live with my husband in California.Before his girlfriend came to California there were many unusual behaviors but now they've escalated. I've noticed she talks for him, tells him how much, when and what he can eat. She listens to his phone conversations, speaks for him and answers his e-mails. John has walked away from his Mother, Brother, Daughter and life long friends. She also writes my support payment checks, the last check was written to our daughter. I had to have her sign it so I could cash it, this should never happen. His girlfriend has sent me countless letters blaming me for ruining John's life and told me I'll get nothing and wants to see me rolling a grocery cart. John's mother recently passed away. She was under hospice care, our daughter begged her Dad to go with her to visit, he didn't go and his Mom passed away. When our daughter informed him of his Mom's death, he was tired and couldn't talk. He didn't phone his brother, didn't attend the service or send flowers, it wasn't acknowledged in any way.The day of his Mom's death he phoned my sisters telling them we have to sell our other home and on a second note informed them of his Mom's death.Our daughter and my former share the same Birthday and this year he said he couldn't see her. Not only has he ignored his Mom but now has walked away from our daughter.John is a forner drug addict who overdosed when he was young, went to treatment and is now smoking marijuana to control his ADD? BP disorder runs in his family, his mother (deceased)and brother both have this dis-order. His Brother is dealing with it and doing the best he can.Me and our daughter have been dragged into the court system for custody, with his girlfriend telling the councellor she's the most important person in the custody suit because if they don't get along she can't live with them and also there needs to be parameters put on me so I won't interfere with their parental rights. I'm the Mom, after spending $20,000 on a custody case, going through l testing, they lost the case and now John won't see our daughter.John's life is spinning out of control, for a guy who avoided conflict he and his girlfriend have turned into merchants of chaos. My last support payment check was written to our daughter and I had to get her signature.We don't have our financials settled yet, John is a very wealthy man who doesn't seem to care about anything except his girlfriend and what she wants.I don't know what I'm looking for, I guess I'm just trying to work through this and move on but something is always happening and it's getting to me.Is there a way to get help for someone without them knowing it?
Yes, you can get help for him. Contact your local family court. On your daughters behalf they can place him in protective custody and have him placed under psyciatric evaluation. As someone who is bi-polar I can speak for him. He needs help. His girlfriend is only exploiting him. If he could be placed on meds he would see that. He will end up thanking you in the long run, because otherwise he will ruin any relationships that he has with his daughter and other family. Talk to his brother I am sure he might help. Good luck to you and your family.                                           Shannon Manley
 
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March 8, 2006, 8:58 am PST

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 Hi guys my name is Woodfam and I watched  Dr. Phil today somethings I could not relate because that gentleman who thought camera's were around him and the stars he was talking to that kind of sound to me like schitophrenia forgive me if I'. not spelling the word correctly and also that lady from the beginning, I mean when I go manic it's like a high and I wanna spend, then my husband will try to control me and say no then I give up and I get tired and sleep , when I wake up I go into a deep depression for about 3 days and I finally snap out of it. The first lady "Does she have a different personality or is she schitophrenia. It's a hard illness to diffrenciate between Bi-Polar and Schiitophrenia. I know when I was suicidal i remember cause you get these little people telling you  to do something , Maybe it is Bi-Polar, Ive only been diagnosed for about 3 months so I',m still researching. Someone was saying that there is medication out . Love to hear if anyone got any ideas I'm on Lithium and I'm gaining weight, So fighting my bi-polar I now have to fight not gaining any weight "DON'T LIKE THAT" to much pressure. Hey Rhonda what do think of the show, I was'nt gonna watch but my mom called she said watch it, i thought it would bring back memories but it did'nt .  Talk to you guys later WOODFAM

Try Depakote  that is what I use. 

 
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March 8, 2006, 9:07 am PST

I do understand

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sadbigmomma i can so relate with everything you say.  only i can't say i lost my mother at age 11, wow, how tragic.  i fight everyday not to leave my only born child in that horrific way.  i go through stages that i pray everyday to God to please take me today.  then the guilt for wanting to leave my son overcomes me and the depression sets in.  the depression is the worst, i enjoy the highs as i am productive and get a lot of things done.  i have two house dogs and they help me get through the day, everyday.  they don't judge me, always love me and are there for me through whatever.  i highly recommend getting a pet, they are so therapeutic.  the only drawback is having to care for them when you don't even wanna care for yourself.  to me the pros outweigh the cons.  thanks for listening.

Really, Been there doing it. Now by mysel, My husband di noyhing but call me psycho etc. and made things much worse. So i left and now I feel alone, And every day I wonder why? why am I here? whats the meaning of this & what did I not do that it effected me. 

So I do relate. 

 
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March 8, 2006, 9:22 am PST

Everyone is different

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Try Depakote  that is what I use. 

I would be so simple if everyone could take the same medication and get the same results. I tried Depakote after I developed the allergy to Tegretol and simply could not tolerate it. It is a good drug and works for  a lot of people but I just couldn't take it. I have had so many people tell me that they couldn't tolerate Topamax and yet it works great for me. Unfortunately, it is a trial and error game where each person just had to try meds until he or she hits the right one.  

  

Damn fool disease 

 
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March 8, 2006, 9:27 am PST

What to do?

I have long time been diagnosed with depression, but more recently the diagnosis was correctly changed to bi-polar. And I am deeply aware of all the effects of bi-polar. But the issue isn't so much mine . My boyfriends brother was recently diagnosed with bi-polar , after we finally convinced him to go to a Dr. He recently moved in with my boyfriend and myself after being evicted from his apartment. He is a talented musician, but has trouble holding a job, and has a drinking problem. He's been giving stuff away, and talkes about living in a van and driving across country, or just taking off to somewhere far away (sounds like dropping off the face of the planet to me). These tendancies sound very suicidal to me and they scare me. even if he's not consciously suicidal it sounds like he's quickly moving in that direction. After the Dr. diagnosed him, he said great thanks doc, see ya. I think he does believe he has the disease, but does not seem to believe in medication or want to see a therapist (even though we're willing to pay for it). It doesn't help that his family is very anit-medication (I have trouble with my boyfriend you seems to think medication is a conspiracy to create a need by the drug companies- idiot ,I know) any way- this is his brother, and his mother is no better. We're pretty sure his father committed suicide after a long time illness. and my friend believes he is much like his father and destined to carry out his fathers legacy-(suicide included?). This is an extrmely intelligent man. I'm smart too, but when you try to have a conversation with him, he can philisophically rationally anything-well. He has such logical, well thought out justicications for suicide, for not taking medications, or seeing a docter.. His state really scares me. He doesn't seem to want any help, (except room and board). I know sometimes it takes bottoming out before someone accepts help. But what if his bottoming out is suicide. What do I do? His brother and I are scared that there is nothiing else we can do but watch him disintigrate. We could really use some suggestions. Anyone?
 
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March 8, 2006, 9:37 am PST

So many people

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I have long time been diagnosed with depression, but more recently the diagnosis was correctly changed to bi-polar. And I am deeply aware of all the effects of bi-polar. But the issue isn't so much mine . My boyfriends brother was recently diagnosed with bi-polar , after we finally convinced him to go to a Dr. He recently moved in with my boyfriend and myself after being evicted from his apartment. He is a talented musician, but has trouble holding a job, and has a drinking problem. He's been giving stuff away, and talkes about living in a van and driving across country, or just taking off to somewhere far away (sounds like dropping off the face of the planet to me). These tendancies sound very suicidal to me and they scare me. even if he's not consciously suicidal it sounds like he's quickly moving in that direction. After the Dr. diagnosed him, he said great thanks doc, see ya. I think he does believe he has the disease, but does not seem to believe in medication or want to see a therapist (even though we're willing to pay for it). It doesn't help that his family is very anit-medication (I have trouble with my boyfriend you seems to think medication is a conspiracy to create a need by the drug companies- idiot ,I know) any way- this is his brother, and his mother is no better. We're pretty sure his father committed suicide after a long time illness. and my friend believes he is much like his father and destined to carry out his fathers legacy-(suicide included?). This is an extrmely intelligent man. I'm smart too, but when you try to have a conversation with him, he can philisophically rationally anything-well. He has such logical, well thought out justicications for suicide, for not taking medications, or seeing a docter.. His state really scares me. He doesn't seem to want any help, (except room and board). I know sometimes it takes bottoming out before someone accepts help. But what if his bottoming out is suicide. What do I do? His brother and I are scared that there is nothiing else we can do but watch him disintigrate. We could really use some suggestions. Anyone?

have the same question--how do I get someone who doesn't want to take medication to take it? I don't have an answer for that. I don't think you do. You have to be motivated to be able to manage bipolar disorder and the motivation must come from within. I spent five years trying to find the right meds and in the eighteen years since then probably haven't missed more than 20 doses of medication, this from simply forgetting to take it. (Paid for it by not being able to sleep, too.)  

  

You can talk to the person and explain the alternatives, but if he or she does not want to work on getting better, there is nothing you can do. Especially in a society where people believe that you have a "right" to be mentally ill and the only time intervention is called for is when the person is a proximate danger to himself or others.  

  

I'm sorry. I do not have an answer. 

 
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March 8, 2006, 9:49 am PST

Social Security Disability

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Get a lawyer for the appeal. If he wins he is paid by the SSA money. if not I don't think youy have to pay. Check with the lawyer. Get a lawyer who specializes in this field. it worked for my son and it was the only help we got........Good luck.
First of all, DON'T GIVE UP.  After thirty years of acquiring degrees and licences (realtor, appraiser, paralega, dietitian, etc.) and really trying to hold down a professional position, I finally took a long hard look at my "bipolar II / borderline personality" self (diagnosed in 1981 at Menninger's Mental Institute in 'Topeka, KS) and came to the unfortunate conclusion that I was unable to hold down ANY job.  If the position involved any stress, as most do, I would start 'cycling', no matter what meds I was taking.  So, at age 49, I applied for SS Disability.  Through an attorney friend, I found a lawyer who specialized in social security matters, and after 14 months, I finally was granted benefits.  Believe me, it's worth all the hoops you must jump through.  I see a therapist every week, a psychiatrist about every 3 months (med. management) and the outrageously over-priced medications I take are mostly paid by Medicare/Secure Horizons.  It's certainly worth the effort.
 
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March 8, 2006, 9:58 am PST

Living with it is killing me!

Hello all, I have been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Anxiety Disorder and Paranoid Personality Disorder for about eight years, that's when I finally opened up to a doctor.  However, I have had these problems with depression and anger and over the top exciteability for as long as I can remember.  I do not have anyone in my family that is supportive of me seeing doctors and taking medications and trying to help myself, except maybe my Mom.  I am on disability and after fighting with employers and losing jobs, she suggested I try to get disability.  Well I did.  I think she thought that would be a way for me to deal with my issues and myself on my own.  The rest of my family thinks I am just a lazy loser, who just doesn't want to do anything!  This keeps me pretty down and hateful toward them.  They all live about 750 miles away anyway.   

  

I have an eleven year old daughter.  Her father was abusive to me when I was pregnant and I left him at 3 months pregnant.  He recently quit paying child support and quit my daughter's health insurance about five years ago.  I've been living with a man for quite some time now, about eight years, and he has asked that we leave now because he has grown tired of my behavior!  He says I can change my behavior, I just choose not to.  He knows all about my disorder and he has witnessed it but he doesn't pass up a chance to call me a dopehead or ask me if I've taken my medications today in a condescending way, he likes to put me down.  He has become very cruel toward me, even threatening.  He does have a drinking problem and I do know that it is best for me to leave.  It is just very hard for me to be on my own with these disorders on a very limited income  with my daughter.  We don't have health insurance and it's going to be tough and I am very scared.    

  

I don't know where all of this stuff comes from and I wonder if it has to do with how I was raised.  My Father was an Alcoholic and very abusive to my Mother, my three brothers and myself.  They split up when I was 16 and he faked his death.  And started a new family under a different name.  Maybe this is why I'm CRAZY!!! 

 
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March 8, 2006, 10:37 am PST

Bipolar Disorder

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have the same question--how do I get someone who doesn't want to take medication to take it? I don't have an answer for that. I don't think you do. You have to be motivated to be able to manage bipolar disorder and the motivation must come from within. I spent five years trying to find the right meds and in the eighteen years since then probably haven't missed more than 20 doses of medication, this from simply forgetting to take it. (Paid for it by not being able to sleep, too.)  

  

You can talk to the person and explain the alternatives, but if he or she does not want to work on getting better, there is nothing you can do. Especially in a society where people believe that you have a "right" to be mentally ill and the only time intervention is called for is when the person is a proximate danger to himself or others.  

  

I'm sorry. I do not have an answer. 

First off, I too do not have the answer.  It's simply the old cliché, "You can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink".  I've spent the past twenty some odd years arriving at the best, I think, med. cocktail but, even still, I have a few cycling periods.  I've 'flunked' damn near every profession known to man, but now that I"m on SS Disability, I have the opportunity to pursue my true heart's desire....and that is to write.  But the kicker is, my writing is so much more exciting, intense....my 'voice' is unbridled and uninhibited when I'm off my meds....but, I've learned the hard way, it's just not worth it. 

My third suicide attempt pretty nearly succeeded - I was on a heart monitor for three days - but it was truly a blessing in disguise.  It landed me at Menninger's, the mental mecca of the Midwest, and from that wonderful institute, I learned first hand what the consequenses of a bipolar II / borderline personality diagnosis OFF THEIR MEDS can result in.  During the three months I was confined to the hospital, two of my close friends/patients upon their release, did in fact, commit suicide.  Fantastic, bright, funny people who loved the 'highs' but couldn't tolerate the 'lows'.  I still think of them and what a waste...... 

I'm finally on a med. cocktail that doesn't entirely reduce my creative muse to a zombie but it took a lot experimentation.....Topamax and Prozac has been my saviour.....and it's worth it! 

That's my story and, likewise, I'm sorry I don't have the answer. 

 
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March 8, 2006, 10:47 am PST

A writer too

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First off, I too do not have the answer.  It's simply the old cliché, "You can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink".  I've spent the past twenty some odd years arriving at the best, I think, med. cocktail but, even still, I have a few cycling periods.  I've 'flunked' damn near every profession known to man, but now that I"m on SS Disability, I have the opportunity to pursue my true heart's desire....and that is to write.  But the kicker is, my writing is so much more exciting, intense....my 'voice' is unbridled and uninhibited when I'm off my meds....but, I've learned the hard way, it's just not worth it. 

My third suicide attempt pretty nearly succeeded - I was on a heart monitor for three days - but it was truly a blessing in disguise.  It landed me at Menninger's, the mental mecca of the Midwest, and from that wonderful institute, I learned first hand what the consequenses of a bipolar II / borderline personality diagnosis OFF THEIR MEDS can result in.  During the three months I was confined to the hospital, two of my close friends/patients upon their release, did in fact, commit suicide.  Fantastic, bright, funny people who loved the 'highs' but couldn't tolerate the 'lows'.  I still think of them and what a waste...... 

I'm finally on a med. cocktail that doesn't entirely reduce my creative muse to a zombie but it took a lot experimentation.....Topamax and Prozac has been my saviour.....and it's worth it! 

That's my story and, likewise, I'm sorry I don't have the answer. 

I was a writer for a corporation when I was fired for being bipolar. I always wanted to write, but my mind was too chaotic before I was medicated. It was only after I began to take medication that I was able to write. Since going on SSA disability, I have turned my writing into a hobby with some limited success. I have had several stories published, but haven't been able to get my book into print. 

  

I,too take Topamax, but took Tegretol until I developed an allergy to it. I had to go off that and when I did, my employer found out that I was bipolar and I was fired after working for the company for six years, shortly after receiving an award for being an outstanding employee. That's why I was unhappy with the show yesterday--it did nothing to improve the image of persons with bipolar disorder--just emphasized to employers that there was good reason to be rid of them before they go postal. 

 
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