Topic : Bipolar Disorder

Okay...I'm really laughing...busting at the seams.  That's funny. 

lamicital...it's also seems to be helping with the depression; even if it doesn't seem like that with my recent post.  I didn't go gambling... :-) 

If I'm remembering incorrectly tell me...Linda...didn't you just do a new home?  I hope it's you...I've missed chatting with you.  I remember "Linda" and I think there is more than one Linda. 

Chat with you later. 

Rhonda 

Hi  

I told him several years I thought he had a problem...but he declared he didn't have the problem...I did.  I think we all know what that's about...know we have a mental health issue and then it's all us.  But, I was in counseling...my counselor asked my husband to join us.  He didn't know she was sizing him up...he was to tell her how I was doing at home.  At our next session she told me he was a liar and hiding secrets and something very wrong...but, without a full evaluation could not say what.  She told me to divorce him.  I didn't then...I should've ran as fast as I could the other way...but, I felt she was wrong and I look back and deep down inside I knew she was right.  He manipulated me to no end.  The lies...I don't even know if I can believe anything he has ever said.  I asked his brother so the basics are they true or a lie too.  Such as his birthday.  Clayton (his brother) said his nickname was Rip Jensen.  That was because he was always ripping people off.  I asked him why he never told me these things before...he said Pat wouldn't leave your side...I had no safe opportunity to tell you...of course, that's hogwash...he could've called. 

I thought about doing what you are doing now...my attorney actually said why...your credit will be worse than if you file bankruptcy...and never regain finanacial control.  But, this is a choice that has to be what's right for you...I'm just sharing my experience.  After this year...I will have money again and not have to be so frugile.  I'm so dumb by co-signing his stuff.  I will take care of me now. 

I have a thought....it just hit me.  I think you could contact the credit bureaus and see if he applies for credit for them to contact you first before any approval...flagging the file.  About a 1 1/2 years ago there was credit fraud and for in-store credit automatic credit, they had my file flagged to contact me.  But, if I applied for credit where you sent it in, etc., that wasn't flagged.  Just a thought... I wonder if you can do that with a spouse who is spending excessively? 

For me...I paid the bills...I never did a reconciliation on my accounts...who'd take money from my account (how naive).  It's when I got contacted and told I had an NSF check when I found out.  Which was confusing...because if by chance I did that they were supposed to take from my savings.  I guess they did that often...because when I called the bank they said there wasn't any money left in that account.  Of course, after that I had an appointment with the bank and seen what had happened.  Can you believe he tried to convince me it wasn't him that it had to be my daughters?  I didn't know what to believe anymore.  Can you believe I still didn't divorce him then?  Then goes the credit cards...I had a credit card for emergencies only...and when we lived overseas we would order clothes through a catalog and I had to charge it on my card.  After this...3 credit cards racked up with $7500 each.  Bought and sell cars like mad...I kept saying no...but I was manipulated and gave in.  A pontoon (boat), a 5th wheel, mustang, Ford F150, Jeep...in the end it was all repossessed when I filed bankruptcy.  Okay, totally enough of that.  Now this stuff makes me angry now...but it makes me more angry at myself for being so stupid to being manipulated like I was.  My family was...who's that girl...she never does stuff like that.  My sister said I remember when you could squeeze blood out of a nickel...haha...she really said it.  So, I was scammed and scammed and deep down inside I knew that was happening, but didn't have the emotional strength to stop it.  He's several states away...1100 miles distance...he has manipulated me so much...I can't say that he wouldn't be able to do it again.  Wow...this is long...sometimes you don't realize what you need to get off your chest...lol.   

Chat with you again soon 

Rhonda    

May I ask when you take the resperdal?  I started to take mine again and I am suppose to take them before bed.  I have a really hard time falling asleep, feel very agitated.  I am wondering if maybe I should take them in the morning instead. 

well I went back on the wellbutrin. So far so good, Im sleeping better, I feel more mentally relaxed during the day, but not to where I dont want to get up and do anything. Ive put myself on a very low calorie diet to lose all the weight I gained on zoloft. Ive only been on it a couple days but im excited to be on this diet cuz i know how i wanna look and how i will look again. When before i tried the diet and exercise thing and it didnt work, your body cant function if your brain isnt either. In a month and a half, I gained 3 more pounds, all my hard work and effort only made me more depressed at the doctors office. I almost cried. But now, im feeling better and im trying really hard to get my self esteem and mental state normal again. Now if I could just find a job Id be excellent. So anyway, just wanted to check in, so if anyone needs me, you know how to find me. Hang in there. 

It is pretty drastic, but it's the only thing I can think of. There is a mental illness court in your county. (Look in the blue pages of your phone book). You  can petition it to have him committed as a danger to himself, since he is not able to care for himself. If the warrant were granted, he would be sent to Terrell State Hospital for a period of six weeks, where, theoretically, he would receive treatment and medication.  

That is the only thing I know to do for a person who is not compliant. It would be very difficult for him, since he is afraid to leave the home, but I don't know of any other way to get him treatment. And, of course, the judge would have to go along with it. But, if you were successful on getting him on meds, you might  be able to get him the help he needs.  

As for just getting him financial help, without treatment, you can call the welfare department (blue pages). They can assist you in getting SSI. I left the welfare department 25 years ago, but when I was there a caseworker would make a home visit to a disabled person to help him get his application in for SSI and food stamps. Of course, your neighbor would have to be there for the visit to do the actual work, but it might be less stressful for him than a committal if you don't want to go that route.  

Please let us know what happens. This is a case like many I had when I was a caseworker.