Topic : Childhood Sexual Abuse Support

First let me say, the chicken is too cute! lol...2nd...confronting your abusers takes courage but for some it is necessary....if you are a praying person then pray God will give you the strength and the words you need...don't expect that they will repent of their sin...they may or may not...confrontation is more for you to let blame lie where it should and to release emotions...it is choosing not to be a victim and that is good....don't let their pretending buffalo you...keep saying you know what I am talking about...you can deny it but I was there....I know what you did and God knows what you did. He will not let it go and neither will I.....you may not confess but you don't have to...the truth is the truth and your lies don't make it any less the truth....you know..and I know...and God knows....and you now know I will not forget....ever...nor will God...end of story..

You're a hard person to catch up with.  Seems you are on early in the morning and with the time zone differences there is no chance I will ever be here that early.

I was telling MJ how much I missed everyone on this board and all the good chats we used to have.  I sure learned alot on this board.

haha it doesn't matter what you say about the past, unless people want to volunteer information or apologize, then questions aren't allowed.

Hope you enjoy your day with family and have a nice dinner.

Sorry I 've been away.  Things have been very hectic, the computer has been down, along with cars and appliances...I think we are straight now.

God bless

djmatt

Hi kjsseay,

I have been away from the boards for a few days because of computer problems, etc.  Allow me to introduce myself.  I am a 47 year old male, I have been on the message boards for a while now.  I am a minister of the Christian faith, although I am not a pastor of a church.  I did pastor many years ago.  But this is my ministry now.  Child abuse issues.  My wife and I have been happily married for 27 years, raised 3 wonderful children.  We have faced some abuse issues in the past.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation and want you to know that I am praying for you and your family.  This has to be a very difficult situation, but from the start it's good to see that you are a Christian, thus giving you a place from which to draw your strengths.  But I know God put us here to help each other. 

I see dramamamma has been giving you wonderful sound advice.  And I must say that I am not a professional, but I believe in prayer, and the strength of the spirit and the community of faith.

Satan indeed is the father of lies, and you have pointed out some good scripture.  I believe for your son to have so much anger, and even towards God is a natural reaction for someone in his situation.  Although I don't know all the details, it takes something drastic I know to affect a child in this manner. 

We know there is hope for a better tomorrow.  I have shared some of the abusive situations in our family but not in great detail for the most part.  I don't know how old your son is, or the details as I said, but I will be glad to share our experiences with you via email, if you wish.  And I can give you an idea of how we handled our situations.  One was with my daughter. 

I know the worse thing in the world is for a parent to deny a child to speak out and to be believed about their abuses.  I know this is not your case.  You are obviously a very loving and caring mother and like my wife and I would give anything for your child.

Again, I'm not a professional, but I believe for your son to be vocal about this situation, and to be able to express his pains outwardly is a good sign.  I want to provide you with some resources, if you don't have them yet.  The easiest way to do this is to visit my web site, and there are several contacts and links you can click on, or call to get help.

http://woodworksga.tripod.com/achildsvoiceconnection.org/

But we are here for you, and our prayers are with you.  Again, I am so sorry about your situation, and I hope and pray that we can come together in a spiritual manner, and help your son and you through this. 

God bless,

Djmatt

WE ARE 2 DIFFERENT PEOPLE WHICH MEANS DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR US.  THE REASON I DONT SEEK COUNSELING IS BECAUSE I WAS ORDERED TO BY A JUDGE WHEN MY DAD WENT TO JAIL,  AND THE COUNSLER TRIED TO TELL THE JUDGE THAT WHAT HE DID WAS MY FAULT AND I WANTED HIM TO DO IT TO ME.  EVER SINCE THEN I HAVE NOT LIKED COUNSLERS REGARDLESS OF WHAT THERE THERE FOR.  THE REASON THAT I KNOW THAT IT WOULD BE A GREAT HELP TO ME TO GO TELL HIM FACE TO FACE HOW I FEEL IS BECAUSE I WAS RAPED BY MY COUSIN LAST YEAR AND I CONFRONTED HIM ABOUT IT AND GOT OFF MY CHEST WHAT I NEEDED TOO AND FELT BETTER ABOUT THE SITUATION. 

I KNOW THAT ALL YOU ARE TRYING TO DO IS HELP AND I THANK YOU FOR THAT.  AND AS FOR WRITTING HIM AND TELLING HIM I HAVE AND HE WAS NOT ABLE TO GET IT FROM THE JAIL.  THE ONLY WAY WE GET LETTERS TO AND FROM HIM IS THROUGH HIS FATHER AND HIS FATHER DOESNT SPEAK TO US BECAUSE HE BELIEVES THAT WE LIED ABOUT IT AND THAT HE IS THERE FOR NO REASON EVEN THOUGH HE TOLD THE JUDGE AND THE POLICE THAT HE DID IT.