Topic : Childhood Sexual Abuse Support

I'm a 38 year old man. I grew up in a nice neighborhood, the son of a fairly well known local politician who was also an emotionally, physically, and sexually abusive parent to me and my siblings.

Although I had my share of abuse related issues and self-destructive behavior I never blamed the abuse. I've strived to come to an understanding that while the abuse caused the feelings I had, I'm the one who chose to deal with it in the destructive ways that I did.

I hope that my story will someday help someone else to move past all the negativity abuse brings to our lives. I made a choice to take the evil I had endured and turn it onto something positive. Instead of allowing it to destroy me I found ways to focus on how it has made me a stronger, more compassionate person.

I hope all of you know that there is a light at the other end. You can choose to view yourself as a victim of abuse, feeling sorry for yourself - swallowing your shame in bottles and pills, and acting out your feelings through various self-destructive sex acts. Or, you can view yourself as a survivor of abuse, taking pride in all that you have accomplished in spite of what you suffered.

I hope you'll read what I have to say and I hope that it helps you feel a little less alone.

I'm a survivor of abuse. Abused by my brother for years. I have confronted him and now am seeking help with stopping him. He is active in his sick ways and my goal is to protect another child from this monster. I have gone to the authorities, they say there is a statue of limitations. Do the "autorities" realize there is no "statue of limitations" for the victims? We don't get to choose one day that this never happened and we just move on? For a lot of  survivors this just doesn't happen, sometimes the only way it stops for them is suicide...Would someone please ask DR. Phil what the hell we do to protect kids from an active pedophile.

He chooses women with small children and threatens to kill them, their siblings or other people close to them. He has killed puppies of my step neices because she threatened to tell.

WHO CAN HELP ME SAVE THE CHILDREN FROM HIM? Dr Phil, Oprah, Robin ,Harold Copus? If not them or the authorities then who????

ok  so i have dealt with all kinds of crap in my past and i have put it all behind me but there is one thing i just cant get over.  when i was a 10-12 i think my parents would always leave my brother and i at home by ourselves.  well one day we found there porno stash and we decided to watch it just out of curiosity.  that lead to alot more than just watching sexual acts we ended up having sex together.  this went on for a few years and i remember thinking that it was something we shouldnt do but we thought it was ok because we loved eachother and we would have sex with someone else someday so why not pracitce in the mean time.  once i got a little older i realized how wrong this was and we stopped it immediately and have never talked about it. now i have this tremendous amont of shame and guilt that burdens my life every day and i dont know what to do about it.  i ask God to take it away like he has takin all the other bad things in my life away but this is one thing that just wont leave my head.  this is the first time i have ever talked about this and i dont think i could ever talk to someone about it face to face because i feel so replusive.  i mean i did something that is so nasty and wrong, and i would never think of doing it now.  i mean he is my brother for goodness sakes!  this whole thing makes me feel like a child molester but im not i dont even see kids like that and i could never imagine doing something like that to a kid.  another thing is i know this has to affect my brothers life too and the thought of him suffering with this guilt brings me down even more, because i do love and care about him so much (not i that sick way though) and want him to have a good life.  HELP ME FIGURE OUT IF I AM MESSED UP BECAUSE I SURE AS HELL FEEL LIKE I AM!