Topic : Childhood Sexual Abuse Support

Hi, I am new to this message board. I am a member of another online forum. The Angela Shelton foundation. I pressed charges against my father in June. It has been 17 years since my last abuse from him. I found out that he has his young kids living with him. He has a daughter 13, and a son,10. The mother of the kids he has is his stepniece. She has MS and she is in a wheelchair. I don't know if this is the reason she lost custody of them or not. The kids stepmom is the same one as when I was living with him. I told her of my abuse when I was 14 and all she said was that she believed me because my dad had tried to do something with her sister. 

I talked to her a few years back before she let my father and his kids move back in with her. I don't think that they ever got a divorce. Anyway, she told me that my father couldn't even get it up anymore. I told her he didn't need that to sexually abuse his kids. 

When the det. interviewed my dad and stepmom, of course they didn't admit to it. My stepmom told the police that the only thing I ever told her was that he tried to do something with me. The police as well as children services has talked to his daughter, and she said he hasn't done anything to her. Whether this is true or not, I don't know. It seems like the police are waiting for the little girl to admit to some kind of abuse before they do anything. 

Through my own investigation I found another victim of my dad. She is the sister of the mother of the kids. That would make her my dad niece. So I called the det. working on my case and gave him her number. He acted like it was know big deal that there was another victim. After about a month of trying to get a hold of him again. Also, I had an attorney friend call him, and he never returned her phone calls either. I finally got the other victim to call the det. since he could never get a hold of her. The attorney said that the det. said he had his suspicion's of me when I pressed charges against my dad, since I waited so long to press charges. She told them that people come forward when they are ready to, and that some victims never do. 

I also know of another victim of my dad. She is my stepsister and she is deaf. The last time I've seen her is when I lived with my father. She only stayed with us on the weekends, because she went to special school for the deaf. I woke up one night and seen my father on top of her. 

The det. on my case and the commonwealth attorney are suppossed to get together on Sept. 19 and discuss where, if any, they want to go with my case. So I am keeping my fingers crossed that they will press charges against him.  I have contacted alot of people about this case, including the media, I am waiting to here back from them. 

Sorry so long, 

Tina 

I sure hope you will come and check back in with us now and then!   

Best of luck with everything!  :) 

This is something on the "Other" board, yes I am a board hopper ;). 

4ever29 posted this: 

Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner
is taking their sweet time:   

1. While handling guns in the hunting department,
   ask the clerk if he knows where the anti- depressants are.
2. When an announcement comes over the loud speaker, assume
   the fetal position and scream "NO! NO! It's those voices
   again!!!!"
3. Go the Service Desk and ask to put a bag of M&M's on lay- away.
4. Move a 'CAUTION - WET FLOOR' sign to a carpeted area.
5. Set up a tent in the camping department and tell other
   shoppers you'll invite them in if they'll bring pillows from the bedding department.
6. When a clerk asks if they can help you, begin to cry and ask
   'Why can't you people just leave me alone?'
7. Look right into the security camera; use it as a mirror, and
   pick your nose.
8. Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at
   5-minute intervals.
9. Dart around the store suspiously, loudly humming the
   "Mission Impossible" theme.
10. In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using
    different size funnels.
11. Hide in a clothing rack and when people browse through, say
    "PICK ME!"

I think are two different roles. 

My daughter, 14 still lives like a victim. I think it will be years before she takes on the survivor role. I always refer to her as a survivor. 

thanks but just cuz im 14 doesnt mean i dont kno anything and he is not hurting her and i thinks its ok for her to go out with him and thanks and i think maybe we should just drop this subject