Topic : Childhood Sexual Abuse Support

You are having flash backs and the way you feel. 

It is OK to question and find out form others what their 

opinions and feelings are about htis stuff. We don't 

want some things to be true, but yet, we know the answers. 

That was very wrong and it should have been taken 

serious. I don't know why parents and other family don't 

take it serious when a child is afraid of someone, or 

doesn't want to KISS a certain Uncle or whomever. 

They teach kids to not trust their gut feelings. Sorry, I went 

off on a different thing sort of. 

I am sorry that happened to you and now you can start to heal 

and give yourself a voice. Don't let anyone tell you to forget it 

to just get over it, you won't. You will learn to deal with it 

and love yourself. 

I just wanted to suggest anyone looking for counseling services dealing with childhood abuse, that they check with their state to see if there is a VOCA (Victims of Crime can't remember what the A stands for) program set up.  In South Carolina, if you are a victim or have been a victim of crime, under the VOCA program you are entitled to free therapy.  I didn't realize this until I was an emotional mess after having given birth to a daughter, and thinking about how I couldn't even protect myself as a child how was I going to protect her, that I began calling around to counselors in my area and learned about the VOCA program at one particular counseling center.  I was told that since I had been a victim of childhood sexual abuse, I was considered a victim of crime (go figure, had never thought of myself as a victim of a crime before), and that I would qualify for free counseling.  My marriage at this time was a mess and I was thinking about couple's therapy, but realized that couple's therapy wouldn't do me any good if I wasn't in a good place myself in dealing with my past.  So I decided to work on myself first so I would be stronger and more able to work on my marriage.  After working on myself, a lot of our marriage problems seemed to dissolve on their own.  Just a suggestion for anyone who might be seeking therapy for past childhood trauma.  I'll write an intro later.  Really feeling tired right now and need to take a nap.  Blessings to everyone here and I am very happy to find this place.   

Brenda 

Got a question for ya.... If you could treat yourself medically, what would you do? How would you treat the symptoms? What would relieve the pain? This syndrome has boggled a lot of the physicians and how to treat it. I am in the beginning stages of studying this type of illness. Yet the patients all answer with an "I don't know " answer to everything. It is starting to look like it is linked to the brain, and how it sends pain sensors throughout the body. 

 When the brain is being developed, as kids, any trauma like: sexual abuse, grief, physical etc..., changes the chemistry at that time, in the brain. Which will hinder how just that one part that was affected, later in life illness come in to the picture. 

Please, think and answer what you can on the questions that i asked. I am interested in what you have to say. 

Thanks, 

jbrook 

I'm sorry to see you leave. I looked for your email, but it isn't there. I know how you feel about things being to much. When I was at that point I felt the same way. You have to go at your speed. Happy that you will be getting counseling. Gods Blessings......take care and pop in sometime. 

Nora 

just saying was up! how are you? 

your friend, 

jbrook 

jbrook 

Syndrome means that it can not be diagnosed usually by medical test or blood test. SO that falls into"syndrome". Disease can be diagnosed by test or blood workups. So I have been told. On really bad days I treat my chronic pain with non prescription drugs. Along with mediation and music. I have over 100 CD"S that help me do this. I spent a month at the University of Washington Medical Center. I was in there for pain management. Exercise is extremely important. Healthy food and weight control play into this to. So far I do OK. And I hope it stays that way! LOL.......I think an illness can come into the picture even before we are adults. I learned to control it when I was young. But after getting into adult stage, it kinda took over. Until I regained the control again. 

Just my two cents.....