Topic : Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

What I would like to know is should I have surgery on my back to fix 2 herniated discs in my back, or should I keep taking those shots I mean I've got one shot remaining and after that then what do I do when the pain comes back go ahead and have the surgery to fix the problem or what I need some advice on what to do.

MaggieLu27

If you need or would liek to talk message me and I will be MORE than happy to share with you my struggle with panic attacks and anxiety disorder.  I am a 24 year old girl who love life I am fun and outgoing and I love to be the center of attention.  This disorder has been at times crippling and I would love to share with you some of my techniques and things that I have learned that have helped me without medication.

Please read my message above adn contact me.

    I am writing this because I am Emetophobic and I have a few questions that I am hoping someone on here can answer for me.

    Recently I have decided that I would like to become a vegetarian. Not only do I think it will be good for my health, but I also have read that meat takes longer to digest than other foods.. which would in my mind decrease my chances of having food to vomit if I gave up the meat. I am basically wondering if anyone knows if this is true.

   I am also wondering if anyone else who may suffer from Emetophobia knows of ways to prevent yourself from vomiting if you do become ill. There have been several times when I have become sick and not been able to stop this from happening. Please let me know if you have any good suggestions.

  One more thing, the issue of water. Does drinking alot of water really help food to digest? I know some of these questions may sound silly to those of you who are not Emetophobic but please take these questions seriously because they are some that run through my mind on a regular basis.

   Thank you in advance.

Hi, I'm new to this board, and was looking for some advice, support, etc. I am 19 years old with two daughters. My first daughter is from a previous relationship. When I became pregnant with her, her father told me to have an abortion if the baby was his. I didn't believe in abortion (and still do not) so I kept the baby, who is now my bubbly little two year old.  So I told him it was another person's baby so that he wouldn't force me to abort my child. Well I went on to have her, and when she was 3 months old I told him, and he told me to give her to my parents to raise, or to change her last name to his last name. He said only then would he have anything to do with her. So after that he only called me in the middle of the night when he was drunk. When my daughter was four months old, I met my now boyfriend, who she started to call "Dad". She is now two years and four months old. I recently was having financial troubles and had to take him to court to child support, and he denied my child, so we got a paternity test which resulted in her proving to be his. So he paid for 3 or 4 months with no problem. I have been letting his mother see her, and now he wants to see her too. He wants my daughter to start calling him 'Dad', and thinks we should just go on with life with her being his daughter. I do not think it is fair to tell my daughter who is only two that she has a different dad and to expect her to call two people 'Dad'. She loves my boyfriend, and he loves her. He is heartbroken over the thought over my ex only now wanting to take responsibility for her.

The problem I am having is that I am fearful to tell my parents who my daughters father is, and that she sees her paternal grandparents. I don't know why, and I don't know how to tell them either. I don't know where to start. I usually have an open relationship about everything with my parents, except for this. Thanks for your help in advance, sorry it was so long!

I have an irrational fear of getting into a fight, maybe because I was bullied back in highschool.

I'm a very calm person and most people really like me.

Most of the time I'm just fine.

But sometimes I think too much, I feel like I'm going to get into a fight, being beaten and getting embarrassed.

I just get this warm sweat and my heart starts beating faster when I think about it.

I think I'm more afraid of the embarrasment than the physical pain.

I'm a peaceful skinny guy, almost anybody could beat me up!

Often I just feel like some random person is gonna kick me in a...ermh, soft spot... for no reason... I'll fall on ground and everybody laughs at me, nobody cares.

It isn't that big of a problem yet, but it has been happening more and more often.

How can I just stop thinking too much? It's driving me nuts!

I always think too deeply about things that might never happen.

After being diagnosed with chronic anxiety...I have done major research.  First off, rest assured that you are NOT crazy.  What you are experiencing is very normal for someone who has anxiety.  People who suffer from anxiety either think they are crazy or they are dying.   You are well within the norm for someone who is experiencing anxiety attacks.   The stress of moving from home to school, new environment, school and keeping up the grades, whether consciously or sub-consciously is alot coming to you all at once.  You see your friends doing it with ease and you are not, so you think that you are "abnormal".  Don't be surprised to learn that one or two of them may be feeling what you feel and you just don't know it.    Everyone experiences anxiety, however, in your case, as is mine, you need to start teaching yourself some techniques.  Have you ever noticed that these attacks "pass"?  Start saying to yourself  "This too shall pass", just repeat it over and over in your head..everything and I mean everything that you worry about today, eventually passes, so when you start saying "This too shall pass", it does pass.  Vitamin B6,  NOT B Complex, but B6 works great for anxiety, as does an aspirin a day.  I also see my GP and he prescribes Klonopin.  I use to NOT be able to leave the house without my medication, more of a "security blanket" than anything.   I can now leave the house and not have my meds on me.  I have learned new ways of dealing with this, have realized that I am not crazy, that I am not going to die.  It is all part of the anxiety.  When you feel "threatened", start counting backwards from 10 to 1, VERY slowly, taking deep breathes in between.  Klonopin is a very good medication, very low dose, is NOT expensive but if you do not have insurance, try the B6, breathing techniques and start realizing that you are not crazy.  I repeat, people who suffer from anxiety either think that they are going crazy or they are going to die.  You are experiencing the "I am going crazy" symptom.   Sun is very good for people who suffer from any type of mental thing.  It is a proven fact that the endorphins in the brain don't work as quickly, sun has a "speed up" positive effect on anxiety. 

Lastly, rest assured that you are NOT crazy, just having major stresses and the brain has a way of dealing with it in very different ways.  Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean that it is not very real, it is for you and me and millions of others.  Coming forth and talking about it, it's the first step in overcoming and learning how to deal with it.  It WILL pass, you are 99% home free because you have already opened up about it.  Now, it's learning coping skills.  Hope that I could help. Please don't hesitate to keep this thread going and I will check back.  I am new on this site, love the Dr. Phil show, seems that his show hits home in a lot of different ways and it's been very helpful for me.  Best of luck and remember "This too shall pass".