Topic : Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

     Hello!  I am Niecey from Batavia, New York.  I suffere from MAJOR anxiety, and Depression.  Panic Disorder as well.  I have many issues.  I try to control the thoughts, and the fears, but the thought tend to control me, and I begin to fear everything.  I think the worst thing is my MAJOR anxiety.  I fear that I have every illnessa nd disease out there.  If someone tells me that they or someone they know has or had an illness I suddenly begin to get the symptoms or fear that I will.  For example.......  I dont know what it is but lately alot of people seem to be having heart problems and brain tumors, and anurysums.  I think on a daily basis that I will end up with either one of these illnesses.  I have already thought I had Pancreatic Cancer because I was having stomach discomfort.  My gastrointestinal doctor just looked at me and said You don't have any Pancreatic Cancer.  And your Colonoscopy was crystal clear.  I always worry about things, and its easy for people to say well when its your time its your time.  I think thats the coldest approach because people who have illnesses like this really don't see it that way.  They really fear that these things are happening to them.  I could go on and on here, but I just wanted to mention a few things because I know how long this could get.  I fear that people are talking about me, and that people dont like me, and that someone is always trying to do something to spit me.  I fear not being liked and not having any friends, and sometimes I think that I try too hard and make a complete fool out of myself.  I have alot more to add, but I will stop here.  If anyone else would like a friend to talk to and understands what Im going through then we need to talk.  You can E-mail me anytime at my regular E-mail address.  Id love to hear from you.  I am 42, and the mother of 3 small children by the way and I am married.  Anyone in my area?  Batavia, New York?  Western New York?

                                                                          Niecey

I have severe anxiety especially when driving and have panic attacks. My driving has become very constricted due to this and my destinations have become more limited. I have a really hard time with highway driving. I have tried to desensitize myself by slowly increasing my amt. of highway driving, deep breathing, listening to the radio, leaving the windows down, keeping a cold drink and praying. None of this has helped and it has only gotten worse over the years. I am already in therapy, does anyone have any other suggestions.

Thanks.

Hi

I can not believe that I am posting this.  I am in a very frustrating place in my life.  I suffer from anixiety because I have IBS.  I have been trying to find a job that I can work at and not be looked at as a freak when I have one of my spells with my stomach.  I have the disorder for 19 years.  I had it cleared for awhile.  I have a lot of devasting blows in my life over the last 6 years.  I had lost my grandfather in 2001. Then lost my mother eighteen months in 2003. then my dad in 2006.  took care of him for 2 years before his death. then this past august I lost my grandmother.  I have alot of fear and anxiety when I go out.  Plus I have been thru alot of different jobs over the past 2 years.  Not to mention a divorce in 2006.  Also was a stay at home mom for 15 years.  Been out of work since February.  Can not find any job to get that I would feel comfortable doing. And not to feel out of place or a freak.  I have been trying to get into the medical office field.  but never can work long enough to pay to get a certification.  I am not eligible for a student loan.  This has been my dream for about 5 years. I have seen my mother struggle all her life.  Die unhappy about the way her life went. I seem to be heading down that same path.  I want so bad to change my life.  I have tried and tried.  I was very depressed for a very long time also. I feel that I am not depressed anymore.  Just the aniexty about going to new places and find a job.  You know it is rough when you feel useless and nobody wants to hire you.  How do I find the dreams I want and get the career that I want.  I feel under qualified for most jobs.  My confidence is very low about myself.  My concentration level is really bad too.  I can not even do a cashier job because of the anixity and ibs issues.  I would appreciate any opions that some of you might have.  I just want a normal and productive life.  And to stop hiding from the world.  Thank You for listening..

Hello Dr. Phil I have a big fear of driving and just being in a car I'm 20 and have nervier have drove a car be for and when i ride with people I'm always on the edge of my seat I have been in four wreaks two was in 05 one was in 06 and then  in 07 the one in 07 was very scary for me a was in the hospital for 5 days. So Dr.Phil i wish you can help me.