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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:58:51 am
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Do you have an irrational fear of flying, spiders, leaving your home, or one of a host of other fears? Do you suffer from anxiety or panic attacks? You're not alone. Join those who understand as we struggle to overcome our fears.

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October 30, 2008, 6:07 pm CDT

i have a good idea for you

Quote From: juggalette_

Im 18 years of age and ever since I was a child everybody thought I was quiet and shy. I've realized now that i've gotten older I have very bad anxiety. Its soo bad that when I am with people I know or out with my boyfriend and everybody else is talking and haveing a good time im just sitting there basicly not saying anything. I worry a lot about things, people talking about me, If people are gunna like me, what IF? I say something stupid. I dont make friends easily, im quit withdrawn and dont know anybody at my school what so ever. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a lot of times I have a hard time trying to come up with a conversation. I guess im just sick of beeing "the odd ball" and I do want to be social and be, maybe not the life of the party but I do want to be talkative and you know.. be normal. But the thoughts I get in my head or just the feelings from the anxiety just seem to overpower my logic.

HELP!

hey i know how anxiety is and it is hard to deal with it because of the constant miss comfort but it is up to ourselves to not let it get the best of us. Ask your self why not face these social fears? I think the only way to face a fear is to not be afraid of that. We and the millions of others with anxiety have this overwelming fear inside that seems out of control and constant. I myself avoid relationships because of worry and fear of being hurt but i will face that by dating and realizing how wonderful my love life can become. I will not let my anxiety let life pass me by and i hope you do the same. Just take it one day at a time and keep making progress. Maybee you can get a job that requires you to talk to people and that could be practice it would work because you will be prepared in your mind.
 
November 2, 2008, 1:34 am CDT

I feel the same

Quote From: juggalette_

Im 18 years of age and ever since I was a child everybody thought I was quiet and shy. I've realized now that i've gotten older I have very bad anxiety. Its soo bad that when I am with people I know or out with my boyfriend and everybody else is talking and haveing a good time im just sitting there basicly not saying anything. I worry a lot about things, people talking about me, If people are gunna like me, what IF? I say something stupid. I dont make friends easily, im quit withdrawn and dont know anybody at my school what so ever. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a lot of times I have a hard time trying to come up with a conversation. I guess im just sick of beeing "the odd ball" and I do want to be social and be, maybe not the life of the party but I do want to be talkative and you know.. be normal. But the thoughts I get in my head or just the feelings from the anxiety just seem to overpower my logic.

HELP!

I feel people are talking about me and I start to panic. I stay home as much as I can. I have feeling of anxiety and phobias. I have recently adopted a great Dane and walking him is helping me get out of the house. I am working hard to tell myself that when I have a panic attack , that the worst thing that can happen is pass out. I am not dieing and will make it through. Maybe this can help you. :)
 
November 8, 2008, 9:25 pm CST

Your Other Disorders

Quote From: chiffonz23

It started about 5 years ago, I started having terrifing images of people close to me dying. I dont even know if theres a name for it or not. but when my daughter was born I had the same images i dont know if it had to due with the fact that I had three misscarriages before having her or not. but the images started almost immediatly after going through that. the images are so real it scares me to death. I also have fears of dying myself. espeally at night or taking a shower I scared someone will try to kill me. I experience alot through childhood and adolences even adulthood. when I talk about images its mostly car accidents or them being murdered some how or even stuff like falling through a window. I hope that some day i can find help to deal with these thoughts or even find there origins. i worry constantly about my family and friends and when I have these images I cry and have anxiety attacks. believe or not this is my first time speaking publicly about my fears i hope that someday i could enjoy just being alive

You forgot the other disorders you have that are more severe and need to deal with first. You are bipolar. You tend to be a habitual liar. You say in your profile that you love and care so much for all your friends and family. However, after a short period of time, you completely do whatever it takes to completely avoid them for no reason. Those that care about you and love you mean it. So, when you avoid them, you are hurting them deeply. You need to see a professional psychologist ASAP! Maybe they can help you change from being a psychopath to a normal human being and stop being a huge liar. If not, then you deserve to be in a car accident. Hope you can learn to sleep with your eyes open and when showering.

 
November 21, 2008, 8:25 am CST

Short term memory loss when anxious

This is a new thing over the last 6 months for me, but I have been experiencing memory loss and it is getting in my way at home, work and when I'm out and about. It just happens and no matter where I am or what I am doing, It stops everything. I all of a sudden don't know where I am, what I was doing, how I got there, and sometimes it has happened I forget how to use my legs or arms at that moment so I've fallen down stairs or dropped things - I stand there like a zombie and don't know what is happening, completely confused and then really scared and I just wait it out and try not to panic. The memory comes back and then I'm ok. I have booked some appointments coming up with some doctors to see what this is. But I've noticed that it is worse with stress but it just happens. Right now I'm not too excited about having to leave home but I can't put my life on hold, but I'm wondering at what point it could get dangerous. I guess as long as I just wait it out without making a panic scene, I can get through it. I don't think its anything really medical and that's why I haven't gone to a doctor up until now because I have been going through a high conflict divorce and it just has to be stress and anxiety. It isn't permanent is what I am thinking. But it makes working impossible and I've been fired 3 times. So I'm just going to chat with the doctors and see what I can do about this to get better.
 
January 26, 2009, 2:55 pm CST

Panic Attacks

Hi everyone.. I'm a new member to DP message boards. I wanted to state my present situation and introduce myself. I'm a sufferer of panic attacks & anxiety disorders in the recent last 7 months of my life. I go to bed with anxiety and wake up during the night with full blown panic attacks. My thoughts race while I try to sleep. I think I am going crazy all the time.
 
February 24, 2009, 6:57 pm CST

Used to be Afraid All the Time

Hi everyone! I used to suffer from anxiety attacks and was afraid all of the time about school and work. I guess I was a perfectionist in every way. I used to be afraid that I might fail a test. When I was doing homework or studying, I would start panicking, thinking "What if I don't do this well enough?" You might think that it is normal enough for a girl my age to worry about things like that. But to tell the truth, it was constant worrying and it did me no good. I was even hospitalized because I could not take the anxiety anymore and wanted to commit suicide.

My advice to handling anxiety is this: GET HELP ASAP!! I got help from a professional psychologist and he helped me get back on my feet and get my life going. He asked me to read a book called The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety. It really helped me a lot. The message of this book is you should not fight with your anxiety, but instead, embrace it and let it be. Trying to control anxiety can keep you stuck and suffering. This book uses a revolutionary new approach called acceptance and commitment therapy, or ACT. I recommend it to anyone suffering from fears and anxieties, but most of all, professional help should come first.

Now I am doing really well. I have not had an anxiety attack for a long time. My world has expanded as well. I am taking drawing and ceramics classes. I play the flute and a little bit of piano. My life is way better now than before!

Hope you find this posting helpful! And good luck to all.
 
March 8, 2009, 7:43 pm CDT

Where can I get hope & help?

I am a 57 year old agoraphobic, diabetic,  parasite trapped in my home with no social life.

I feel helpless & hopeless. I have a loveless, sexless marriage with no friends, family, or

children & a shrink that I've been seeing for over 26 years & is no longer productive for me.

He misses phone appointments (without a call from his receptionist), talks about his problems

and has ADHD so he's usually not paying attention to my needs when I talk. He also no longer

offers positive suggestions or direction. My abusive parents passed away about a year ago.

My best friends who gave me a precious gift (teaching me sign language & accepting me

as I am) passed away just a few months before my parents. I am not dealing well with these

and other grief/loss issues.

 

It seems that I have been in this deteriorating state for a very long time. The pain is relentless & never ending. I am living my childhood nightmares and suffer extensively from loneliness & isolation. I've been told that I have to stay alive but are never told what I am supposed to be living for. 

 

Is my life over already?


 
March 17, 2009, 8:05 pm CDT

Thankyou

Quote From: kirity

Hi everyone! I used to suffer from anxiety attacks and was afraid all of the time about school and work. I guess I was a perfectionist in every way. I used to be afraid that I might fail a test. When I was doing homework or studying, I would start panicking, thinking "What if I don't do this well enough?" You might think that it is normal enough for a girl my age to worry about things like that. But to tell the truth, it was constant worrying and it did me no good. I was even hospitalized because I could not take the anxiety anymore and wanted to commit suicide.

My advice to handling anxiety is this: GET HELP ASAP!! I got help from a professional psychologist and he helped me get back on my feet and get my life going. He asked me to read a book called The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety. It really helped me a lot. The message of this book is you should not fight with your anxiety, but instead, embrace it and let it be. Trying to control anxiety can keep you stuck and suffering. This book uses a revolutionary new approach called acceptance and commitment therapy, or ACT. I recommend it to anyone suffering from fears and anxieties, but most of all, professional help should come first.

Now I am doing really well. I have not had an anxiety attack for a long time. My world has expanded as well. I am taking drawing and ceramics classes. I play the flute and a little bit of piano. My life is way better now than before!

Hope you find this posting helpful! And good luck to all.
Thankyou for sharing your story and explaining that there is help for this. All I want to do is cry cause everything seems too much. The anxiety is crazy. I need some peace. I might just try that book. I am so glad you are doing better. I hope to join you some day
 
May 16, 2009, 6:06 pm CDT

many phobias, fears, anxiety and panic

I have a fear of heighs.  I have since I was a child.  That has never left me.  I have a fear of snakes.  I remember when a snake was coming up our porch and I stayed in the house.  My mom yelled at me wondering why I wasn't outside.  I told her there is a snake and I will not come out that way.  So I went out the back door. 

I have social phobia.  I love to talk but then I worry about what people say about about what I said.  My mom is the opposit.  no talk no problem.  Anyway I even get social phobia when I watch a show with a embaressing plot to it.  When I was young I use to walk out of the room until it was done.  I wondering if anyone else has that problem or am I alone? 

I also have anxiety.  Sometimes for no reason and sometimes from my PTSD.  I hate night.  It is the worst for my PTSD and my anxiety.  Sometimes my anxiety from PTSD comes into play certain times of year.  I cannot win.

I even go so far at do OCD things like trying to trim my nails to be perfect until they bleed.  I try my best to keep that under control.  I try to only cut my nails during the day when my anxiety is down.  The other one I USE TO clean my ears util they bleed.  I now know that is a bad thing to do. I stopped.

I also fear of me gatting sick and not being able to take care of my sick Mom.  If I cannot take care of her at all I don't know what I will do.  She even needs to be reminded sometimes to drink water because she sleeps so much.  I love my Mom and I want to help her as much as I can.

 

God Bless You All!!!

Volunteer4God

 

 
May 18, 2009, 3:26 am CDT

Anxieties, phobias and fears.

Quote From: volunteer4god

I have a fear of heighs.  I have since I was a child.  That has never left me.  I have a fear of snakes.  I remember when a snake was coming up our porch and I stayed in the house.  My mom yelled at me wondering why I wasn't outside.  I told her there is a snake and I will not come out that way.  So I went out the back door. 

I have social phobia.  I love to talk but then I worry about what people say about about what I said.  My mom is the opposit.  no talk no problem.  Anyway I even get social phobia when I watch a show with a embaressing plot to it.  When I was young I use to walk out of the room until it was done.  I wondering if anyone else has that problem or am I alone? 

I also have anxiety.  Sometimes for no reason and sometimes from my PTSD.  I hate night.  It is the worst for my PTSD and my anxiety.  Sometimes my anxiety from PTSD comes into play certain times of year.  I cannot win.

I even go so far at do OCD things like trying to trim my nails to be perfect until they bleed.  I try my best to keep that under control.  I try to only cut my nails during the day when my anxiety is down.  The other one I USE TO clean my ears util they bleed.  I now know that is a bad thing to do. I stopped.

I also fear of me gatting sick and not being able to take care of my sick Mom.  If I cannot take care of her at all I don't know what I will do.  She even needs to be reminded sometimes to drink water because she sleeps so much.  I love my Mom and I want to help her as much as I can.

 

God Bless You All!!!

Volunteer4God

 

I also suffered major panic attacks for 10 years. I still get them but they are few and far in between. They are triggered by something that startles me then I feel short of breath, then dizzy, nauseaus. I also fear being sick but don't go to doctors for fear I may find out I am right.

 

I read an article yesterday on introverts and extroverts. Introverts are more feeling oriented and feel from the inside out; Extroverts are action oriented and feel from the outside (others, activities, etc). I think anxieties and phobias , etc. tend to be more an introverts problem, why? Because we are prone to go inside, not seek support, sit and analyze more then act, it tends to bring with it anxiety which in turn, leads to feeling out of control. In a sense, we are putting ourselves in the exact situations that will bring on the anxieties. 

 

I believe the cure is in understanding how you think, honoring it so that you accept what it has been for you all these years, then accept that that way does work anylonger.

 

Then start doing things that help you to move forward in life, become more involved with others, even if it is one friend at first.  Challenge yourself every day if possible, to do something you normally wouldn't do. Something that is going to enhance you and your life.  It is about you right now. You won't get healed if you are worried about others now because you are sick too and you need to take care of yourself now.

 

You are emotionally ill, we all get there sometimes. Also sometimes we are extroverts. I am sure you feel very confident in other certain situations, right?? We are all both at times.

 

I am fearful of driving fast. I don't like when others drive fast. Actually I wish the speed limit was 35 all over the globe. Why?  Because when I was young about 10, my dad used to drive while he was drunk. One time we almost went off a bridge; another time he had my sister, who just got her learners permit, drive us home from the city, in the middle of the nite, because he was too drunk. My poor mom....but she must have had a fear of driving, she never drove a day in her life, she is now gone.

 

The point I am getting at is we are traumatized by things and although we want to believe that time heals all wounds, time does not heal some of them. Little by little we want control, control over something. So we pick and choose things that are convenient. Like being shy or insecure; overeating, doing drugs, having too much sex with strangers, porn, gambling, etc.

 

We become obsessed with things like cleaning our ears, cleaning the house, but we are not satisfied. Which is what makes it then obsessive. When what is happening is we are clinging to safety.

 

It is crucial to start to learn life is what we make it and we need to be the ones to work on fixing, or changing whatever it is that is making our lives weak and shallow.

 

Also, guilt is a motivator to anxieties. We can never rest really in who we are. Know one thing, if someone made you feel incompetent when you were young, they were being abusive. Know that. Any type of abuse to a young mind is going to bring with it anxities and feeligs of not being safe. Find safety within yourself because it is all you really need. We are all trying to survive and take care of ouselves. Do the same. You are worth it. :)

 
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