Topic : Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

i need help desperately for my fear of going to any kind of a doctor it has been so many years now and i am really afraid for my life can u help me conquer this fear

well i have left the post on now for a few days but it seems no one has responded, does this mean that i am totally alone with this fear???????????   I thought i would get some imput on this board, but i guess i was wrong

I can't exactly say I have the same fear, but doctors give me a great deal of anxiety.  (FYI lots of things give me anxiety).  My sister had serious illnesses twice (she's better now) and I see that some doctors are amazing, while others know absolutely nothing. My personal experience has been the later. I've also had a doctor who, when i was a child, used to tease me about my weight and say passive-aggressive things about me.  Back then I laughed them off, trying to pretend they didn't hurt, but as a 11 year old going through puberty (awkward and gaining weight purely because of puberty), it did hurt. In fact, I only realized in the last few years that this did what you could say 'scarred' me.  No I'm not 'traumatized' but I do have lots of issues with doctors because of it.

 

 

Certain doctors, like the optometrist, and a specialist i had for my ear problems as a kid do not scare me in the least. But now, the thought of going to a GP makes me sick.  I rarely go. Instead I stick to doing things like checking my blood pressure at a pharmacy.  I'm slowly trying to get comfortable around the GP, but it takes baby steps. Going for flu shots and things like that put me at ease more than an actual check up.

Perhaps you should try to figure out which kinds of doctors scare you the most. If say, a dentist, only makes you nervous but not 'scared' then try to go. Maybe just to the office and not to get work done. (To surround yourself in the atmosphere for a couple minutes then leave).

Once you're more comfortable around that doc/dentist's place then go up to the next thing on your list.

I don't know if this will work because I can't say I've actually tried it yet, but it's worth a shot right?

I have social phobia.  That gets in the way of my every day life.  I have to go to the Dr. next week & I m soooo scared.

 

 

does anyone cause theirselves to have major panic attacks when they think of getting older, your child starts talking to you about when he gets older and you seriously start to panic. I can't even discuss with anyone getting older I totally freak out. I start to cry when i think of how old my mom is, and her being her age and freaking out about how much longer she has with us. I start doing the math i swear about how old I will be when our youngest son gets to be in his 20's and 30's. I know this is not normal but how do I stop it and deal with the fact we all age. Ok this is about as much as I can say I am getting nervous again.. thanks

I am terrified of doctors and tests as well.  I have to go to my doc at least once a year to get my meds refilled...and each time it is a test.  And Dentists...I haven't seen a dentist in so many years I can't remember...and my teeth show it.  I know I need to go, but cannot even get up the courage to make the appointment, much less walk through the door.  You are soooooooooo not alone.

Instead of telling us this is one of the most curable conditions...tell us the secret.  You are right it affects every corner of our lives and our family's lives.  I cannot get to a dentist, my hubby and I do not have a normal social life, I don't get to go to my grandson's games.  It is beyond horrific.  I have tried....and I do mean worked my rear end off ...tried everything.  Just tell us what the magic answer is.  I worked for an entire summer on desensitization so my hubby and I could go on our first vacation.  We live about 2 hours from a beach in FL.  Every weekend for three months I got in the car and went to the beach and back.  Some days were better than others...but none were panic free.  Then the day came for us to go over for a week and it was like I had never been there before.  The entire week was a struggle.  Dr. Phil if you do indeed read these boards...just tell us the secret...I think you will find that no one that suffers with this condition is afraid of hard work and most of us have been doing the work for years.  All we want is to be normal. 

     

         I would never leave him because of this! Its is very stressful at times and sometimes I feel like I cant take anymore but my husband and I have a wonderful relationship and he understands that its also hard on me and the kids but I also know he cant help it and he doesn't want this mess either. He's been out of work this time for 2 weeks and he's been keeping busy, walking exercising, etc and seems to be doing better. God I hope so!!! He was starting to feel depressed because he cant work and he feels like a failure. I just tell him that if it was me, he would be here to help me through it too. I really do love him and I know we will get through this!

Thank you for your stick it out message. It gives me more hope!!!

 Hi Everyone,

Im 28 years old and have a Phobia of frogs. I can do the 100 mile dash in no time flat when I see one. Anyone else have this problem and what are you doing to help overcome it?

Jenn