Topic : How I Got Help

If this is too much for you just say so.  

  

I think I know the answer but I do not want to assume. 

  

Did you give your daughter up for adoption?   

  

I want to tell you something but will wait for your reply so that I don't go into a big long post and find out I am wrong. 

  

I hope you continue to do well. 

  

tammy 

Sorry I had a bad couple of days sorry...It was the anniversay of my fathers death and I of course would never do anything to upset you.....I was so mad yesterday I could see stars....Let me send this so it wont delete then Ill be back I need a cup of coffee...Tel you more in a few minutes boy am I just about to implode...xooxox

I cannot even get into it..sorry  I will latter in the week.....sorry...It really has nothing to do with you at all...I didnt know you were a MOMMA!  You go girl!....Talk to you soon....xoox

Hi, there is a rumor floating that you have left certain boards because...of well.... lets just say rumor points finger at me. 

  

I do not know that I have ever spoken to you so hold this to be just a rumor. However with your post today I thought I would take this opportunity to open the subject up. 

  

If I have done anything to YOU that you find offensive, please let me know personally, so that I can be respectful of you and not offend you in the future. 

  

I am kind of a direct person and do not appreciate people spreading rumors or talking behind my back. I would rather get things settled if I have offended you. 

  

I hope, if there is a problem, we as adults can discuss it, 

  

Thanks ever so much for your time, 

Tammy 

I do not react nor do I respond to rumors.. I left the other board based on private matters that had zero to do with you.  I know you are also on the depression board and I actually had very little if any conversation with you. 

  

Fear not you have done nothing to me.  This is where me and annanut have been logging our HOW WE got help chronicles...Our little Eccentric Genius club if you will.. 

  

I am also a direct person and I am not into the rumors game either.  I find that immature and VERY so very middle school. 

  

Believe me If any one EVER offend me they would be the first person to know it ;) 

  

No problems at all///Im just upset at my doctor, and my spouse and I really do not feel like going into at this point but thank you for being understanding. 

seems to be working with me this a.m. really.  These new meds are going to beaccess denied and I just might tell this Dr. To take a walk.  I gained 5 pounds from the last vist which is ok because "my friend is on the way" if you catch what I mean"  however I also asked about this new stuff and weight gain  "OH DO NOT WORRY...Its when you are happy and social and you go out and eat thats how you gain the weight...blah blah blah.... 

  

  

I have seen people pack on up to 80 pounds on neurton buddy...BS... 

  

Anyway I started feeling great and happy then POOF....The Dr. Put my HUS on ANTI depressants now I am to blame for that too....whatever..This endless cycle of abuse here...he is like a RAT on a cycle I cant get off...I have been sad now for 4 days....write soon. 

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. You don't ever have to worry about upsetting me, though. You can say anything you want, but equally I understand if you don't want to, either b/c you're not ready or b/c you don't want to post it on the boards.

But hey, we're EG's, so don't you ever worry about upsetting me by saying something.

Kat.

No, it's not too much to ask. Unfortunately I did not put my daughter up for adoption...it's more complicated...

I was seeing this girl named Maria when I was sixteen, and she got pregnant. We decided to keep the baby and raise her together. We named her Elizabeth; she was born exactly one week after I turned seventeen, on 21 April, 2000.

Somewhere in June, M. decided she couldn't take it - either the responsibility or her drug-free lifestyle; it's up for grabs - and left us alone. Which was eventually fine, b/c I love my daughter and had some financial help from a mutual friend. When I started dating Julien in the winter (whom I later agreed to marry) everything was great, and he was just like her dad.

Long story short, her biological father spontaneously decided he wanted her some time in June 2001, and after much legal strategizing we had no choice but to give her back (thanks to the then-status of gay cohabitation laws, and the fact that M. hadn't disappeared long enough to be declared legally dead, although her will did specify that I was supossed to retain guardianship).

This was okay for a while, b/c Brian - her father - was not always able to take care of her, so I saw her a lot. Then, he spontaneously decided he'd made a mistake and handed Elizabeth over to her maternal grandparents (????), presumably b/c I still wasn't legally eligible to take her. This was alright at the begginning. but they did't agree with the 'lifestyle' their daughter and I had had, so gradually fazed out allowing me to see her or talk to her on the phone.

Long long incomprehensible complicated and sad story. They moved, so now I don't even know where she is.

Kat.

I am so sorry that is heartbreaking. 

  

I wish people would think about the childrens lives they affect rather than their own. 

  

Seems like your daughter had a wonderful life with two people to call parents and to have her ripped away from you like that and shuffled around seems very stupid to say it nicely. 

  

I wish I could comfort you some but I know this is something that no amount of words can make it better.  

  

Thank you for sharing part of yourself with me. I am honored. 

  

Have a peaceful evening Tammy 

Our space kinda got invaded so then lets poof poof her away 

 

then well have our deep meanfuls later....I do miss you very much...I had a great week last week in times of sadness I was TAPED on ABC PRIME TIME it's like a news magazine have you ever heard of it?  It was a lot of sitting around and wait time but alot of VERY VERY interesting people that was fun but the DR. and the "actual test"  I was put in the "HOT seat"  He was lets say A COLD CUP OF COFFEE WITHOUT THE SUGAR... 

  

Or as dull as a monotone ALIEN IN human flesh no RAZZ-MA TAZZ for prime time TV....UGH!