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November 4, 2007, 8:55 am CST

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Dr. Phil,
My sister continues to raid garage sales, rescue mission, dumpsters, etc to collect things.  Her home reminds me of the CLEAN HOUSE shows that I see.  I think there is a problem that is deeper that just a lack of good housekeeping skills.  She doesn't allow anyone in the family to enter her home.  I often get a view from the from door and the inside of the home is packed like a storage warehouse.  The back yard is full, the inside of the house is full.  The overflow is now spilling over into the carpor, front porch and front yard.  She has elementary school children and I really hate that she is teaching them that this is an acceptable way to live.  Why does she have this overwhelming need to hord things?  What can be done to help her?  Can you address this topic on one of your shows?
 
November 7, 2007, 10:15 pm CST

Hoarding Information - Randy Frost

Quote From: val2722

Dr. Phil,
My sister continues to raid garage sales, rescue mission, dumpsters, etc to collect things.  Her home reminds me of the CLEAN HOUSE shows that I see.  I think there is a problem that is deeper that just a lack of good housekeeping skills.  She doesn't allow anyone in the family to enter her home.  I often get a view from the from door and the inside of the home is packed like a storage warehouse.  The back yard is full, the inside of the house is full.  The overflow is now spilling over into the carpor, front porch and front yard.  She has elementary school children and I really hate that she is teaching them that this is an acceptable way to live.  Why does she have this overwhelming need to hord things?  What can be done to help her?  Can you address this topic on one of your shows?

You might want to read "Buried in Treasurers" by Randy Frost and Gail Steketee. Both are the leading experts on Compulsive Hoarding. Randy Frost works out of Smith College in Massachusetts. Hoarding is considered one of the hardest disorders to treat but with hard work and committment to change, improvements can be made. 

 

You can view a web site on hoarding at: http://www.ocfoundation.org/hoarding/index.php

 

I almost forgot, Randy Frost has indicated that Oprah Winfrey show will do a show on hoarding in November or early December. Stay Tuned... 

 

James Rankine

President

Quebec OCD Foundation

 
November 7, 2007, 10:37 pm CST

Seems Like OCD

Quote From: tiffany478

Things have been rocky in my household for some time. My husband and I are fighting and it mainly deals with the fact that he won't admit that he has OCD tendencies (ie the handwashing, cleaning, arranging things just so, counting the number of times that he rubs lotion onto each ear, and a ton more). These problems have become very hard for me to ignore and I am tired of running around doing things for him because he just can't handle it or I just can't handle him constantly asking me to check things (his hands, feet, clothes, etc) over to make sure they are ok (10 times). It makes me feel like I am an enabler, a role that I don't want. When I do say no, he tells me I am not being nice to him and cops an attitude. The more stress he is under, the worse this all gets. He snaps when the children (ages 3 and 1) don't clean up every few minutes while playing with their toys or they don't arrange things in an order that suits him. I have also noticed that my son (3 years old) is picking up on my husband's "habits" and I am very concerned about this and wonder if my daughter will be next. My questions are how much of OCD is habit that can be unlearned and how much is not. I am tired of this problem controlling our family. If he continues to ignore the issues, this constant strain is going to cause our family to split. Can anyone suggest anything to help me cope with this problem and suggestions for help for him? I just don't want my children to grow up in this unhealthy environment and hate me later on for not trying to do something about it.

From what you have stated, it seems your husband has OCD but it would be best for him to be evaluated by a trained psychologist who has trainning in OCD and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). OCD left untreated does not improve. Cognitive Behavior Therapy with Exposure and Response Prevention is the standard treatment.

 

OCD is not a thought or habit disorder but an anxiety disorder. What therapy would help your husband do is to not give into the urge to do the ritual. What's happening now to your husband is he's having thoughts that are causing him anxiety. To alleviate the anxiety he is and you are performing rituals (actions) to alleviate his anxiety (the compulsion). The focus in therapy is not on the thoughts, which honestly we can't control, infact it makes it worse if you try and control your thoughts. The focus is learning how to live with the anxiety and not perform the ritual. The anxiety will dissapate over time.

 

While it is tempting to perform therapy yourself on your husband there are techniques therapists use to make therapy more successful. I would make an appointment ASAP. This can be worked on and treated. He may not be 100% cured but will have large improvements.

 

See also articles by Steve Phillipson. They should be of some help as well.

 

James Rankine

OCD Foundation  

 
November 8, 2007, 4:08 pm CST

OCD Groups

Quote From: nbuddy

My husband has a serious case of OCD and we desperately need to find someone that specifically treats OCD and a support group for me.  Does anyone know anyone in the Orange Co. are of So. California that could recommend someone?

Below is a website that lists OCD support groups and organisations. I have looked and there are many in California.

 

http://www.viryours.com/showcase/ocd/ocf1170d.htm

 

James

QOCDF

 
November 8, 2007, 6:54 pm CST

Steven Phillipson - OCD Online

Quote From: ocdguy26

     I am a 26 year old male and have suffered from OCD my entire life.  My symptoms were at their worst when I was 21, at which point I was in my sophomore year of college.  I just kept getting these terrible thoughts in my head that wouldn't go away.  I honestly felt like I was going insane.  My psychiatrist diagnosed me with OCD with anxiety and depression.  I was prescribed Zoloft and Risperdal.  I took medication for about 6 months after which I thought I was completely cured.  I have since graduated from college and I held a job for 3 years.  I quit my job 4 months ago because my thoughts started coming back uncontrollably.  It's almost as if OCD gets progressively worse if left untreated.  I'm in terrible condition now though.  I'm unemployed, living at home, and have no health coverage.  I've never been able to hold down a solid relationship because the women I'm involved with cannot deal with my "OCDness."  I hate this disease so much.  I am so afraid about my future.  I have so many goals that I want to achieve....getting my own place, eventually getting married, the normal stuff that everyone wants in life.  My OCD has even affected my job search.  Sometimes I'll set up interviews then not go to them due to some crazy thought that pops up in my head.  I just feel so lost right now.

Try this web site by Dr. Steven Phillipson called OCD Online. He has many articles on different types of OCD and techniques on how to handle OCD. The website address below is his article about Pure Obsessions. The techinques he suggests are the ones I used to rid myself of my horrible obsessions. Now I have to handle the not so horrible ones but the process is the same.

 

Pure Obsessions:  http://www.ocdonline.com/articlephillipson1.php

 

Also, I have a personal testimony online called "Saints Sixes and the Search for Self"  via a Canadian web site: http://fqtoc.mtl.rtss.qc.ca/témoignages_en.htm

 

I hope this is of some help.

 

James

QOCDF

 
November 10, 2007, 6:19 pm CST

hmmmm

Quote From: fenicole0228

My ex-husband was dignosed wit OCD n he did some strang things that he blamed on OCD i was wondering if these things were really cuzed by his OCD....lookin at porn sites n gay porn...chatting to gay men very nasty...that n lookin at little children n thinking nasty about them....he said that he didnt wann look at the porn or talk to those gay men the way he was or look at childrent hat way but i just feel that if he didnt wanna do those things then fight urself no to do them its one thing to think but anouther to act i might b wrong thinkin bout this but is that apart of his OCD n another thing i can understand i guess doin it once but why do it over n over n over again n carry on hours n hours of converstations back nback if u ddint wanna talk to them that way...or the porn...well just lemme kno somthing thanks so much!

 I suffer from OCD as well... The behaviors your describing seem to be that he has more of an addictive personality, which I have as well.

 
November 11, 2007, 8:12 pm CST

Is It OCD?

Quote From: fenicole0228

My ex-husband was dignosed wit OCD n he did some strang things that he blamed on OCD i was wondering if these things were really cuzed by his OCD....lookin at porn sites n gay porn...chatting to gay men very nasty...that n lookin at little children n thinking nasty about them....he said that he didnt wann look at the porn or talk to those gay men the way he was or look at childrent hat way but i just feel that if he didnt wanna do those things then fight urself no to do them its one thing to think but anouther to act i might b wrong thinkin bout this but is that apart of his OCD n another thing i can understand i guess doin it once but why do it over n over n over again n carry on hours n hours of converstations back nback if u ddint wanna talk to them that way...or the porn...well just lemme kno somthing thanks so much!

To determine whiether someone has OCD the main issue has to deal with the reason a person performs the compulsion. If a person performs the compulsion in order to relieve anxiety, feelings of depression, feelings of  uncertainty or doubt, in order to solve a problem (find the perfect answer), or out of fear of any type, chances are it's OCD. The main reason people with OCD perform these compulsions is to relieve themselves of unpleasant feelings or thoughts. There is no high or euphoria in performing the compulsion, just feelings of relief.

 

If some is drawn to perform  a compulsion because they get excited about it, they may suffer from either an addictive personality or an impulse control disorder. In any case, if a person is doing any action which is causing a problem in their life, they would be best to reach out for help. However, the person has to admit that they have a problem for them to get the most from therapy.

 

James   

 
November 12, 2007, 11:51 am CST

Reassurance Seeking and OCD

Quote From: kazecloud

Hi. I've been a fan of Dr.Phil for awihle, and tought Id come here to adress one of my problems. I'm a High School Junior and I must tell people, usually online, everything that I think of. Like sometimes If I looked at a clock when I talked to them, I have to tell them I looked at the clock, or maybe sometimes I must have the other person understand exactly what I said and tell them my thought process, or I will feel uncomfortable. This has bothered me for awhile, for I have to tell everybody every useless detail. Now that I say this I have to tell you guys my story on how I became like this which I have told quite a few times. -_- When I was in elementary school, I must have to tidy things up, and I've seen a teacher about this and they said it was obsessive compulsive disorder, I still do sometimes. But then I became lazy and I stopped doing it way too much. So now it came back in this form. I had an  urge to look it up online and found that telling people everything was also a category of Ocd. It became worst when I found out. Haha. So maybe if you guys have any input or tips, I'd like that. Thanks for reading. =D

Edit: Aw I didn't know there was a whole board for this! I Posted in Self Matters thinking it was about yourself. X_X. I have to type perfectly too thats apart of my ocd.
 

The type OCD compulsions you are refering to in your posting are reassurance seeking. That's when your anxiety decreases the more you confess or tell people about what you're thinking or by seeking other peoples reassurance that things are alright. The cure for this type of compulsion is the same with all types of compulsions, Exposure Response Prevention or in English, not to perform the compulsion when you have the thoughts that cause you the anxiety to seek reassurance. Is it easy....NO! It takes time, effort, and the willingness to feel very uncomfortable for a period of time BUT with effort and courage, it does get better. Performing the therapy is not  very pleasant and it's not easy but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I've added two websites that maybe of some help, one a support group web site that has all forms of OCD and people posting their experiences and another for understanding OCD.

 

Support Group: http://www.stuckinadoorway.co.uk/

 

Info on OCD and Treatment (Dr. Steven Phillipson): http://www.ocdonline.com/

 

James

QOCDF

 
November 26, 2007, 1:18 pm CST

My OCD

I am on the high end of the Autism Spectrum.  I have this thing before I go to bed where all of the tables and chairs have to be pushed in, I have to ask my dad about the weather (is it going to thunderstorm), the living room furniture have to be a certain way, and I always have to have my reassurances--is my mom mad at me.

 

I have one obsession that is good.  I am obsessed with the soap opera Passions.

 
December 8, 2007, 5:26 pm CST

What kinds of meds has she tried?

Quote From: rosebush

My daughter was diagnosed withh ocd last year and after being treated with medication is now free of her obsessive thoughts. Problem is she says  after 16  years of living with ocd she now no longer knows how to  "function".  She doesn't care about getting her school work done, has difficulty with motivation and most importantly doesn't feel like herself.  She thinks she would be better off as she used to be because she knew how to "function" better with ocd.  I think  getting lower grades has caused some of this since prior to treatment she was an A+ student and in now getting B's.  She attributes better grades to ocd since her coping mechanism was studying. 

  

Any thougts? I worry that she will stop meds to return to former patterns. 

My 16 year old has just begun to need medication and some have made her symptoms worse.
 
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