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Patients suffering from OCD have a challenge in overcoming their illness. Share your story and get support from those who understand.

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March 14, 2006, 3:02 pm CST

Spouse and parent of OCD family

I am hoping someone can tell me where to look for something to help my husband and daughter. 

He was dx with ocd years ago...the only problem is he refuses to keep on a tx for it long enough to know if it will help.  All of the emotional things going on are way far worse than the physical tendencies!  He is very criical of himself and our 4 girls that are still at home.  One has moved out.  He basically has alienated himself from everyone because of the fact that he is very abusive in the way he talks to everyone.  Nothing is ever good enough, nothing is ever done right, no one will ever hurt as much as he does, no one is ever as sick as he is...you get the idea.  And he hardly sleeps at all...maybe 3-4 hours and that is a good night.  He drinks, and plays pool...not for a couple of hours, but mostly 6-8 in a night.  Not every night, however pool league is a big thing, and that can carry over to a Friday and/or Sat. night.  HOURS!!!  As I understand it, drug/alcohol abuse goes with the compulsions???  If I am wrong, please someone tell me!  I would really like to think that isn't stereotypical of OCD pts. 

In 2002, our daughter was dx with Tourrette Syndrome, OCD and ADD.  She is on Risperdol and Zoloft.  She does quite well while on the meds, however, she is smart and doesn't always seem to "remember" her meds.  I work anywhere from 5:30-8pm to 2:00am--5 days/nights a week.  I am not there to make sure that Emmy gets her meds.  We have 4 girls together...the 16 and 14 year old are not willing to help.  They can be right there and will not help Emmy get her things.  And again, she too is very vocal on what she thinks.  I never help her, I never do anything for her, I never spend any time with her...there are alot of similarities between Emmy and Dad!  (The way they act, the way they talk, etc.)  So I am wondering if there is anything I can do to help them. 

If anyone has suggestions, please let me know...Thank you!   Very frustrated 

 
March 24, 2006, 12:43 am CST

amazing

Quote From: unclemtl

My OCD started about 14 years ago, when was 24 years old and in university. I didn't know it was OCD at the time. I was just searching for myself, trying to find out who I was, what I was meant to do with my life etc. After three years of reading and re-reading 30 or so books many times over concering the subjects of choosing a career and figuring out ones purpose in life, did I begin to think oddly.  

  

I am not regilous, but given the time frame, the new age movement, and that some of the books I read had a new age slant to them, I would question whether I was choosen for some higher purpose and believed that I would get signs from god about what that purpose was. When I saw a priest, nun, church, or a street with a religous name, I believed that god was telling me to become a priest and give my life to god. The problem was, as I know now, that I didn't want to do that. While I liked helping people I didn't want to become a priest or work in religion as I am have always been an agnostic (a fence sitter as I call it). However, at the time I was obsessing about this issue, I was a mess. I would avoid churches, crosses, religous people in dress, streets with religous names or with St. or Saint in front of them because I would obsess that I was getting a message from god. Sounds easy but I live in a french city and churchs and religous street names are everywhere. 

  

My obsession about finding the right job continued as I read and re-read many times the same books on the subject constantly hoping the next time I read the book, I would get the perfect answer (OCD).  

  

Other obsessions that drove me to seek help were my obsessions with hurting people. When I was with a pretty woman I would have thoughts about hurting her, stabbing her. When I held a knife, a pencil, or anything sharp I had thoughts and urges to stab people with the object. Given these unsettling thoughts of violence I wondered whether I was an evil person, so then I had obsessions with the number 6 as in 666, you know the number of the beast etc. I would add, divide, multiply, etc all numbers I saw anywhere (TV sports jerseys, civic address numbers, invoice numbers, licence plate numbers) if the number could be calculated to be a 6 (12/2=6 2x3=6 24 2+4+6, etc) I believed I was given a sign that I was an evil person. 

  

After seeing five therapists, I found one who knew what I had and withthe help of cognitive behavioral therapy, and lots of work, I was able to apply the techniques to rid myself of the bad obsessions. Now I am dealing with the neutral obsessions that are pervasive but I am working on them to get my life back. I have been avoiding working on them for many years because change is scary and takes work. 

  

What I have noticed after talking to people with OCD and reading on the subject a bit is I think the way to handle OCD is two-fold. 

  

First: You have to deal with the OCD through therapy and applying the theraputic techniques, in order to get the OCD symptoms under control & manageable. 

  

Second : I think the core issue is what needs to be worked on: Low self-esteem, low-self worth, need to be perfect, not feeling lovable until..., & not feeling good enough. I believe the condition of OCD is our brains way telling us we are thinking about ourselves unhealthly, like someone with an eating disorder, we manifest these unhealthy thinking patterns via the disorder OCD. " I am not good enough, I am not as good as or I am not as successful as my friends at....(comparing), I am inadequate". These thoughts, in my opinion are the basis for our obsessive condition. 

  

Any Thoughts?  

  

   

When i read your story i laughed a little...I do just discovered that i am not evil and my problem is OCD so my laugh was one of relief. It is absolutely amazing how honest you can be and how true everything you wrote is to me. I suffered from the fear of hurting people with sharp objects, also i still see things as signs by God or the Universe, but i try to laugh it off.  

  

In the past i was treated for depresion and anxiety but now i know. It was OCD and it led to anxiety because of the constant fight in my head. Anyways, Just knowing that it is OCD is helping my a lot. I now know!!!!! It's very freeing. I am trying to some herbs to treat my disorter. I also always made sure to have xanax (was given to me for anxiety) and it helps if things get really out of control. I am open to therapy (got to wait for that health insurance to kick in) but i want to make sure that i have tried natural ways of healing first. Also your views that OCD is our brains way of telling us something is true to me . As a child i never was confident and as an adult i feel that i have not done enough to help my parents out of debt. So i got to work on those issues too. Thanks for being brave enough to share your story.  Good luck in your healing process.   

 
March 27, 2006, 2:59 am CST

long distance dad

MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN GAMBLING AND DOING DRUGS FOR THE LAST TWO YEARS,SHE HAS STOLEN MONEY,CHECKS FROM MY E-WIFE,EVEN HAS TAKEN TIP JARS FROM COFFEE HOUSE EMPLOYEES.MY EX HAS SPENT THOUSANDS ON HER ,BUT MY DAUGHTER EVEN HAD HER BOYFRIEND BREAK IN AND STEAL MY EX'S PURSE(WHILE SHE WAS SLEEPING)THE BOYFRIEND WAS PUT IN JAIL FOR TWO WEEKS, AFTER ABUSE ON MY DAUGHTER.SHE HAS A N EIGHT YEAR OLD SON WHO SHE ISN'T ALLOWED TO SEE BECAUSE OF HER ACTIONS.HER MOTHER SPENT $9,000 FOR A 30 DAY PROGRAM  AND  SHE LEFT BEFORE FINISHING BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T NEED THE HELP.MY EX TOOK HER TO A LAST RESORT OPTION IN SAN DIEGO(SALAVATION ARMY CENTER) SHE LASTED LESS THAN THREE DAYS BECAUSE THE PEOPLE WHERE NASTY LOOKING,GETTING UP EARLY(4 AM.)WORK HARD.MY DAUGHTER CLAIMS SHE SAW WHAT CAN HAPPEN IF SHE DOESN'T GET IT TOGETHER,SHE FOUND ANOTHER REHAB FOR $7500(30 DAYS),AND WANTS MY EX TO PAY(I WILL NOT)THER ARE SO MANY OTHER THINGS TO SAY BUT NOT ENOUGH SPACE.WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO HELP A BEAUTIFUL,VERY SMART ,BUT SELF-DISTRUCTIVE LADY.....2000 MILES AWAY DAD
 
March 27, 2006, 10:02 am CST

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

i want to hear from some wemen out there that has or had an man who is addicted to porn and love i feel along this is new to me how do you know they are not going to do it agian or has quit
 
March 27, 2006, 4:04 pm CST

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Quote From: godzilla48

MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN GAMBLING AND DOING DRUGS FOR THE LAST TWO YEARS,SHE HAS STOLEN MONEY,CHECKS FROM MY E-WIFE,EVEN HAS TAKEN TIP JARS FROM COFFEE HOUSE EMPLOYEES.MY EX HAS SPENT THOUSANDS ON HER ,BUT MY DAUGHTER EVEN HAD HER BOYFRIEND BREAK IN AND STEAL MY EX'S PURSE(WHILE SHE WAS SLEEPING)THE BOYFRIEND WAS PUT IN JAIL FOR TWO WEEKS, AFTER ABUSE ON MY DAUGHTER.SHE HAS A N EIGHT YEAR OLD SON WHO SHE ISN'T ALLOWED TO SEE BECAUSE OF HER ACTIONS.HER MOTHER SPENT $9,000 FOR A 30 DAY PROGRAM  AND  SHE LEFT BEFORE FINISHING BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T NEED THE HELP.MY EX TOOK HER TO A LAST RESORT OPTION IN SAN DIEGO(SALAVATION ARMY CENTER) SHE LASTED LESS THAN THREE DAYS BECAUSE THE PEOPLE WHERE NASTY LOOKING,GETTING UP EARLY(4 AM.)WORK HARD.MY DAUGHTER CLAIMS SHE SAW WHAT CAN HAPPEN IF SHE DOESN'T GET IT TOGETHER,SHE FOUND ANOTHER REHAB FOR $7500(30 DAYS),AND WANTS MY EX TO PAY(I WILL NOT)THER ARE SO MANY OTHER THINGS TO SAY BUT NOT ENOUGH SPACE.WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO HELP A BEAUTIFUL,VERY SMART ,BUT SELF-DISTRUCTIVE LADY.....2000 MILES AWAY DAD

2000 Miles Away Dad 

  

As someone who used to be addicted to drugs (however not that badly, I quit on my own), you should know that you cannot force someone to quit.  A person has to be ready.  For most people, including myself, you have to hit rock bottom first.  If your daughter doesn't have a reason to quit, if she doesn't see the need, she's not going to.  You can't just take her to rehab and expect her to stay.  She's an addict.  She wants what she craves and she certainly is not going to let someone tell her that she can't have those things.  And she certainly is not going to let someone tell her how to live her life.  This is probably not the advice you are looking for, but it's reality.  You mentioned that your daughter has found another facility.  Since she sought this out on her own, maybe she is ready.  Hopefully she is ready.  The best advice that I can give you is to support your daughter.  Let her know how much you love her.  Let her know that you are there for her and are willing to do whatever it takes.  If she slips, don't treat her like a reject, that will only drive her back into her addiction.  I will pray for you and your daughter and I hope everything works out for the best. 

  

Someone who cares 

 
March 28, 2006, 3:30 am CST

thanks someone who cares

Quote From: txtwin

2000 Miles Away Dad 

  

As someone who used to be addicted to drugs (however not that badly, I quit on my own), you should know that you cannot force someone to quit.  A person has to be ready.  For most people, including myself, you have to hit rock bottom first.  If your daughter doesn't have a reason to quit, if she doesn't see the need, she's not going to.  You can't just take her to rehab and expect her to stay.  She's an addict.  She wants what she craves and she certainly is not going to let someone tell her that she can't have those things.  And she certainly is not going to let someone tell her how to live her life.  This is probably not the advice you are looking for, but it's reality.  You mentioned that your daughter has found another facility.  Since she sought this out on her own, maybe she is ready.  Hopefully she is ready.  The best advice that I can give you is to support your daughter.  Let her know how much you love her.  Let her know that you are there for her and are willing to do whatever it takes.  If she slips, don't treat her like a reject, that will only drive her back into her addiction.  I will pray for you and your daughter and I hope everything works out for the best. 

  

Someone who cares 

THANKS,MY ONLY CONCERN ABOUT THE RECENT REHAB IS THAT MY DAUGHTER HAS NO WHERE TO GO EVEN THOUGH MY EX WAS WILLING TO PAY FOR 6 WEEKS OF APARTMENT AND MY DAUGHTER GOT MAD BECAUSE IT WASN'T 3 MONTHS,THEY HAD A FIGHT AND MY EX TOOK HER BACK TO DROP HER OFF AT HER CAR.....I  HAVEN'T SPOKEN TO MY DAUGHTER IN MONTHS SO THE ONLY COMUNICATION IS THRU MY EX(WE GET ALONG FINE,BUT THIS IS WEARING HER OUT WITH MY DAUGHTER'S DISTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR)YOU MENTIONED "ROCK BOTTOM" I DON'T THINK MY DAUGHTER HAS GOT THERE YET .IS A 30 DAY PROGRAM ENOUGH?OR IS 6 MONTHS,OR A PROGRAM WHERE SHE HAS A SPONSER, WHO HAS BEEN THERE, SO SHE CAN CONFIDE,TALK,CRY,YELL AND VENT WITH SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THE PAIN SHE GOING THOUGH A  BETTER IDEA.....YOU MENTIONED DO WHATEVER IT TAKES ....WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE?DO YOU SAY I'LL HELP SO MUCH, BUT SHE NEEDS TO SHOW A WILLINGNESS TO FIGHT THE MADNESS.THANKS AGAIN.......D
 
March 30, 2006, 7:47 pm CST

obsessive compulsive disorder

Is there anyone that knows where to go to find a doctor that treats obsessive compulsive disorders in children? I saw an episode of Dr. Phil that had a child with OCD and she was treated, not only with therapy, but with antibiotics as well.  Therapists that I have spoken to have heard of low dose antibiotics treatments but they don't know of any doctor that uses this method.  I am in So. California.  Please respond with any advise. 

Thanks!!  

 
March 31, 2006, 6:08 am CST

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

I have had ocd since I was about 12, I am now 43. Does anyone out there know a very good dr. in louisville kentucky? I have been on meds but they either don't work, make me tired, anxious, etc.
 
March 31, 2006, 8:05 am CST

OCD

Quote From: ocdsuffer

I have had ocd since I was about 12, I am now 43. Does anyone out there know a very good dr. in louisville kentucky? I have been on meds but they either don't work, make me tired, anxious, etc.

Did you happen to have strep throat  quite a bit as a young child??  This is the case with my daughter who has OCD.  I understand that children who suffered with strep have ended up with OCD and can be treated with low dose antibiotics.  I have tried many times to contact Dr. Phil about this because he did a show on this, but have not heard back.   

Good luck! 

Angelsfan 

 
March 31, 2006, 10:21 am CST

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Quote From: angelsfan

Did you happen to have strep throat  quite a bit as a young child??  This is the case with my daughter who has OCD.  I understand that children who suffered with strep have ended up with OCD and can be treated with low dose antibiotics.  I have tried many times to contact Dr. Phil about this because he did a show on this, but have not heard back.   

Good luck! 

Angelsfan 

not that I remember but I did have scarlet Tina which is a form of scarlet fever. I will check into to this. thanks a bunch!
 
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