My partner Jeremy whom I've known for the last 8 yrs & have been with in a long term comitted relationship for the last 7 1/2 yrs , suffers from OCD . When Jeremy & i first got together I did not notice his OCD , how ever told me two weeks into our relationship that he was ADHD and Bipolar . now me on the other hand i'm not perfect , i suffer from ADD so my life has had its share of challanges. The first three yrs that Jeremy & i were together we're rough , Jeremy & I both had indivual issues in our lives that we needed to work on . Sadly in Dec 2003 jeremy & i split up and went our seperate ways for about 18 months to two yrs . Then in may 2005 we started talking again & thaught that we might give our relationship another try . That was 5 yrs ago , since then Jeremy & I have been throug,h alot , our relationship has survived Jail, home house arrest, prison , probation , crack cocaine addiction , a miscarriage , you name it we've been through it . The only thing that puts a strain on our relationship is Jeremy's OCD , i did not notice his OCD until we moved in together in 2006 , at first I thaught that his OCD was just a reaction to being completely sober for the first time in yrs , not to menton the fact that we were living in a small one bed/ one bath basement apartment . We lived in this tiny apartment for 2 1/2 yrs , it was during that time that Jeremy's OCD got extremely bad , it started to cause argueements between us , his OCD got so bad that I actually left him for two weeks and went to my mother's . Then in January of 2008 , we moved to a bigger one bed room one bath apartment , I thaught that the move would do us some good and would help jeremy's ocd calm down , i was wrong - it was not long after we moved into this apartment that Jeremy's OCD got worse , our agrueements got worse. Then 11 1/2 months later we moved into Jeremy's bother's 2 bed/ 2 bath trailor to help his brother out with the morgage payments for a while , until Jeremy & i could save up enough money to where we could put down on our own single wide trailor. now because we are in jeremy's brother's trailor , Jeremy's OCD has gone from worse to bad . Jeremy's OCD has gotten so bad, that it takes him practically most of the morning or after noon to get out of the house , all because everything in the house has to be a certain way before he can leave , Jeremy has to check everything and recheck everything to make sure the lights are off , everything has to be in a straight line , jeremy will spend 10 minutes touching and re touching the kitchen mat , he feels as tho he has to touch and retouch and straighten the picture of us that we have in our dinning room . IF I clean jeremy will go behind me and grade me on the cleaning job that i did and if i do not clean things to his standards , he'll knit pick @ me until an agrueement gets started. i don't know what else to do , Jeremy's family is incredibly disfunctional , none his family member's really understand him , nor do they support him in the way he needs to be supported . none of jeremy's family members help him in any way , they never show their appreciaton for him , they never show any compassion towards him . The worst part is the state in which we live in has no mental health services for those who have medicaid and medicare , not menton the fact that we can't even get couples counseling even tho we have medicaid and medicare. Now I know if jeremy was put on meication for his ocd , that being medicated might actually do him more harm than good , wish that there was some sort of Cbt that he could take but medicaid / medicare be accepted.
