Topic : 07/10 Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms

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Dr. Phil speaks with self-proclaimed slacker wives and moocher moms, who admit they fall short in the mom and wife categories. Keya is a stay-at-home mom who spends 18 hours a day in bed, while her husband, Tyrone, works and does everything around the house, including waiting on her hand and foot. Keya considers herself a “rich man’s wife, but Tyrone says he’s not rich at all, and he’s tired of feeling more like her maid than her husband. Dr. Phil has a surprise for Keya! Next, Nick and Tara turn in their mother, Rita, who is unemployed, living in her van -- when she’s not crashing at their homes -- and constantly receiving handouts from her family. Her family claims she’s even taken money from her grandson’s piggy bank! Are her kids to blame for always coming to her rescue? Then, a mooching mom makes her daughters feel guilty if they don’t pay her bills and give her cash. She has a job, so why is she taking her daughter’s student loan money? Talk about the show here.

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July 12, 2007, 10:11 pm PDT

SLACKER WIVES AND MOOCHER MOMS

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First I would need to ask what has happened in this womans life that she would want to lay around and be a non productive parent to her children and a lazy spouse to her hubby?  If you feel that a man should be the one to "take care" of you in 2007 there is something seriously wrong. Get up, get out and be someone in this lifetime. Do fun things with the children they are the future imagine the affect this has and will have on them in the future. Be a "PARTNER" to your husband help him financially and emotionally making him be your slave man is absolute insanity. Do not think your all that please. I think women like this are a disgrace to productive women in society and ruins it for us good decent single women who have a lot to offer a man. 

I'm a stay @ home mother too. We all aren't ones who lay around all day long. We are very productive woman we make sure the house is clean, we have to feed the kids breakfast, lunch, and make sure we we have supper done when our husbands are @ home from a hard day of work.Still, in "2007" there are husbands that love for their to stay @ home. Me, my sister, and alot of woman @ my church are stay @ home moms and home school moms too. We love being @ home with our children. We have play dates. There's alot we do with our children that most people in this fast past world don't get time to do and that is we can give them all our time and attention when ever they need it. It's all in your beliefs.  we are "PARTNERS" to our husbands we are one with them. We have to remember who is the head of the household with us it's our husbands. We help make decisions, but over all the one that gives us grace is the Lord Almighty. He is the one who has put our husbands as the head-of-the-household. We put God first, our husbands second, the wives are next, then children, and everything else comes after that. So, don't put down all of stay @ home moms we aren't that bad. We have a job too we just don't get a pay check.  Thank you and God Bless.

 
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July 13, 2007, 5:45 am PDT

Wow! Hit A Nerve Did I????

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The topic of the show was slacker wives and moocher moms, had the topic been about anything else, then we would have touched on any other issues we may or may not have.   Yes the situation is real and we expected people to have their opinions, but please realize that they are only opinions.  Furthermore, "The Dr." never stated that she was not a good mother to our kids, she simply doesnt cook or clean.  But Heck, I love to cook, I bet Emeril's wife doesnt cook, or Paula Dean's Husband doesnt cook.  By the way our kids are doing just fine, my 9 year old daughter is ranked at the top of ther class, consecutive honor roll, while in the 3rd grade - she reads at the end of the 5th grade level, need i say more.  My son, who was only in kindergarten at the time as received numerous awards in school and also recognized by his artwork by the mayor of our city. -  You stated "reality would have it that you are not in a healthy marriage" shiz, who's to say that ur marriage is healthy, with the time you took to read all of these messages you could have had the floor mopped, the garbage out and dinner ready for your husband, YOU DO HAVE A HUSBAND DONT U???.  Our children didnt have anything to do with this show, sorry for your misunderstanding, the only painting that i have done is the "red wine color" in my kitchen and the "lime green color" in my dining room.                                                                                                                                                                                                                Like i stated before, some of yall take this stuff way overboard, the show was fun, period...  It was a light hearted, very uncommon Dr. Phil Show, not the usual about to cry about Dr. Phil shows.  As other people had stated, what about the men that don't do anything and run over their wives, have their bath water ran and slippers put on their feet when they walk in?  In closing, I love all of the comments, I am glad that we were able to touch certain places within each one of you, but da mm  nnn,   Ohh one more thing, in regards to "think about it next time you decide to quote unquote play on national television" - the majority of the stuff on t.v. now is someone playin, maybe me and you can go on maury together and he can say,  "Tyrone you are NOT the Father" and i can stand up and do the crip walk while you run off the stage and the cameras follow you.  LMMAO, sorry i didnt mean that, well....................................................yes i did, it's a free trip to Chicago.  For everyone else, look for my debue on Guys Gone Wild, Survivor, I love New York season 2, 1 vs. 100, Deal or No Deal, Wanna be Celebrity Fit Club, Big Brother, Oprah, Jerry - Jerry - Jerry!!!, CSI Miami, Miami Ink, Law and Order and My Sweet 16, so i can really show you how i play on national tv.    This is fun, you must be kinda "hatin" that you didnt have your time to shine, but please reply, i will log in later when i get home to continue.    OHH ONE MORE THING, how can a brotha get down with the DG's - I LOVE CANADA - go rockies!!!

Wow, hit a nerve did I?  I need not say much more, your response to defend the stupidity that was put on television says it all.  You may laugh now, however, you may end up crying yourself a river if you don't take some of the advice that has been shared with you and your slacker wife.  She said she was a slacker and you agreed.  I didn't.

 

Your further replies are not needed because you have said it all. 

 

 

 
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July 13, 2007, 12:48 pm PDT

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I have no sympathy for Keya.  There is no excuse for her claiming she is a "rich man's wife" and laying in bed all day.  Whether she is wealthy or not, she needs to get up off her butt and at the very least get her kids dressed and take them to school.  What is even more pathetic is Keya blaming her husband.  He does all the work because she won't get up off her fat lazy butt and do it herself!!!  Even when he is cleaning and helping, she is too lazy to tell him no.  Kudos to Dr. Phil for making her mop that whole floor!  Mopping isn't  man's work honey, taking care of your house and your family is being a good wife and mother.  GET WITH THE PROGRAM!!! 
 As for Keya saying that mopping is "nasty", it isn't unless you don't mop often enough. Regular mopping keeps the floor from getting "nasty". And, she doesn't need the kind of mop and bucket Dr Phil gave her. She could use a "Swiffer".
 
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July 13, 2007, 4:50 pm PDT

Hey Tyrone!

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The topic of the show was slacker wives and moocher moms, had the topic been about anything else, then we would have touched on any other issues we may or may not have.   Yes the situation is real and we expected people to have their opinions, but please realize that they are only opinions.  Furthermore, "The Dr." never stated that she was not a good mother to our kids, she simply doesnt cook or clean.  But Heck, I love to cook, I bet Emeril's wife doesnt cook, or Paula Dean's Husband doesnt cook.  By the way our kids are doing just fine, my 9 year old daughter is ranked at the top of ther class, consecutive honor roll, while in the 3rd grade - she reads at the end of the 5th grade level, need i say more.  My son, who was only in kindergarten at the time as received numerous awards in school and also recognized by his artwork by the mayor of our city. -  You stated "reality would have it that you are not in a healthy marriage" shiz, who's to say that ur marriage is healthy, with the time you took to read all of these messages you could have had the floor mopped, the garbage out and dinner ready for your husband, YOU DO HAVE A HUSBAND DONT U???.  Our children didnt have anything to do with this show, sorry for your misunderstanding, the only painting that i have done is the "red wine color" in my kitchen and the "lime green color" in my dining room.                                                                                                                                                                                                                Like i stated before, some of yall take this stuff way overboard, the show was fun, period...  It was a light hearted, very uncommon Dr. Phil Show, not the usual about to cry about Dr. Phil shows.  As other people had stated, what about the men that don't do anything and run over their wives, have their bath water ran and slippers put on their feet when they walk in?  In closing, I love all of the comments, I am glad that we were able to touch certain places within each one of you, but da mm  nnn,   Ohh one more thing, in regards to "think about it next time you decide to quote unquote play on national television" - the majority of the stuff on t.v. now is someone playin, maybe me and you can go on maury together and he can say,  "Tyrone you are NOT the Father" and i can stand up and do the crip walk while you run off the stage and the cameras follow you.  LMMAO, sorry i didnt mean that, well....................................................yes i did, it's a free trip to Chicago.  For everyone else, look for my debue on Guys Gone Wild, Survivor, I love New York season 2, 1 vs. 100, Deal or No Deal, Wanna be Celebrity Fit Club, Big Brother, Oprah, Jerry - Jerry - Jerry!!!, CSI Miami, Miami Ink, Law and Order and My Sweet 16, so i can really show you how i play on national tv.    This is fun, you must be kinda "hatin" that you didnt have your time to shine, but please reply, i will log in later when i get home to continue.    OHH ONE MORE THING, how can a brotha get down with the DG's - I LOVE CANADA - go rockies!!!

I realize that you are taking a very lighthearted tone about the show. And, while I DO understand that you were actually THERE on the stage, have you watched a tape of the show? If you do, you might get an idea of what we, the viewers saw. And Keya has posted things that were not brought up on the show. What I ,personally, got out of the show is that Keya is not really happy with the way things are. She has said that she wants to change. I saw a beautiful young woman who was betrayed by her husband. The way things have ended up, is not a very productive way to handle the situation.I think there are still a lot of things that remain unresolved. I think she has gotten into a rut with her life. If ya'll all are truly happy with your situation, then more power to you. But, on the outside looking in, I see a beautiful young woman spending way too much of her life in bed. Do you REALLY think she's happy?YOU know her much better than any of us know her. Is this really the life she wants? If it is, then fine. If not , wouldn't you want her to be as fulfilled as possible in her life? To me it's not about all of the other baggage, it's about her happiness and piece of mind.
 
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July 13, 2007, 5:14 pm PDT

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I realize that you are taking a very lighthearted tone about the show. And, while I DO understand that you were actually THERE on the stage, have you watched a tape of the show? If you do, you might get an idea of what we, the viewers saw. And Keya has posted things that were not brought up on the show. What I ,personally, got out of the show is that Keya is not really happy with the way things are. She has said that she wants to change. I saw a beautiful young woman who was betrayed by her husband. The way things have ended up, is not a very productive way to handle the situation.I think there are still a lot of things that remain unresolved. I think she has gotten into a rut with her life. If ya'll all are truly happy with your situation, then more power to you. But, on the outside looking in, I see a beautiful young woman spending way too much of her life in bed. Do you REALLY think she's happy?YOU know her much better than any of us know her. Is this really the life she wants? If it is, then fine. If not , wouldn't you want her to be as fulfilled as possible in her life? To me it's not about all of the other baggage, it's about her happiness and piece of mind.
 
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July 13, 2007, 5:22 pm PDT

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I realize that you are taking a very lighthearted tone about the show. And, while I DO understand that you were actually THERE on the stage, have you watched a tape of the show? If you do, you might get an idea of what we, the viewers saw. And Keya has posted things that were not brought up on the show. What I ,personally, got out of the show is that Keya is not really happy with the way things are. She has said that she wants to change. I saw a beautiful young woman who was betrayed by her husband. The way things have ended up, is not a very productive way to handle the situation.I think there are still a lot of things that remain unresolved. I think she has gotten into a rut with her life. If ya'll all are truly happy with your situation, then more power to you. But, on the outside looking in, I see a beautiful young woman spending way too much of her life in bed. Do you REALLY think she's happy?YOU know her much better than any of us know her. Is this really the life she wants? If it is, then fine. If not , wouldn't you want her to be as fulfilled as possible in her life? To me it's not about all of the other baggage, it's about her happiness and piece of mind.
You are right, this is not the life I signed up for but its the life I have. Now I'm struggling with the reality of dealing with the life I was giving. I also have a big problem with forgiveness I don't know where to start. Everyone keep telling me if you can't forgive him leave him, but I don't want to leave, I want to forgive him I just don't know how. I get mental pictures and flash backs of all the wrong he has done to me in the past 9 yrs. And it hurts like hell. I sometimes lie in bed and pray that when I wake up my memories of the past are complety gone, so I can move on. But then that would mean forgetting my kids memories too and I don't want to loose those memories. Anyway you are so right I'm not complety happy with the life I have, but I'm trying to learn how to make myself happy. For me and my kids.
 
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July 13, 2007, 5:27 pm PDT

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I realize that you are taking a very lighthearted tone about the show. And, while I DO understand that you were actually THERE on the stage, have you watched a tape of the show? If you do, you might get an idea of what we, the viewers saw. And Keya has posted things that were not brought up on the show. What I ,personally, got out of the show is that Keya is not really happy with the way things are. She has said that she wants to change. I saw a beautiful young woman who was betrayed by her husband. The way things have ended up, is not a very productive way to handle the situation.I think there are still a lot of things that remain unresolved. I think she has gotten into a rut with her life. If ya'll all are truly happy with your situation, then more power to you. But, on the outside looking in, I see a beautiful young woman spending way too much of her life in bed. Do you REALLY think she's happy?YOU know her much better than any of us know her. Is this really the life she wants? If it is, then fine. If not , wouldn't you want her to be as fulfilled as possible in her life? To me it's not about all of the other baggage, it's about her happiness and piece of mind.
Out of everyone that has posted I can see that you have been able to see the show as only a surface problem and then taking into consideration what keys posted, you have a better understanding of our situation. Yes I did see the show the day it aired as well as 100's of people I work wit, not including family and friends that I told before it aired. Yeah we have some trials and tribulations to get pass, times can get crazy, yes I do believe she can be happier than she is now. You know marriage is a constant thing to work on, not something that you don't have to think about after you say I do. Things are a have gotten a bit better since we taped the show in February, but still a lot we are workin on as well, or let me say, things I am workin on to make myself better. Glad to see that someone can take the time to evaluate the situation as a whole instead of picking out bits and pieces like others. Any other suggestions on makin things work?


 
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July 14, 2007, 5:20 am PDT

Hey Tyrone!

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Out of everyone that has posted I can see that you have been able to see the show as only a surface problem and then taking into consideration what keys posted, you have a better understanding of our situation. Yes I did see the show the day it aired as well as 100's of people I work wit, not including family and friends that I told before it aired. Yeah we have some trials and tribulations to get pass, times can get crazy, yes I do believe she can be happier than she is now. You know marriage is a constant thing to work on, not something that you don't have to think about after you say I do. Things are a have gotten a bit better since we taped the show in February, but still a lot we are workin on as well, or let me say, things I am workin on to make myself better. Glad to see that someone can take the time to evaluate the situation as a whole instead of picking out bits and pieces like others. Any other suggestions on makin things work?


Well, I don't really know exactly what to tell you about how to make things work. What I think might help is a good marriage counselor. A GOOD one would probably be able to give ya'll some ideas, I do know that what DrP always says is that until you understand EXACTLY how it made your wife feel when she found out about the indiscretions then you can't move forward with the healing. And I'm not sure how that comes about. I would try some counseling with hopefully a really GOOD counselor. I wish ya'll a wonderfully long happy life together and the best of everything.
 
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July 14, 2007, 6:09 am PDT

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July 16, 2007, 7:38 am PDT

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You are right, this is not the life I signed up for but its the life I have. Now I'm struggling with the reality of dealing with the life I was giving. I also have a big problem with forgiveness I don't know where to start. Everyone keep telling me if you can't forgive him leave him, but I don't want to leave, I want to forgive him I just don't know how. I get mental pictures and flash backs of all the wrong he has done to me in the past 9 yrs. And it hurts like hell. I sometimes lie in bed and pray that when I wake up my memories of the past are complety gone, so I can move on. But then that would mean forgetting my kids memories too and I don't want to loose those memories. Anyway you are so right I'm not complety happy with the life I have, but I'm trying to learn how to make myself happy. For me and my kids.
You get those "mental pictures" and "flash backs" because you're a woman. And, as Dr Phil has often said, "women have loooooooong memories". Especially when someone has done them wrong. Since you've already been a guest on his show, perhaps Dr Phil can help in some way. Such as arranging some counselling for you and Tyrone.
 

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