Topic : 07/10 Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms

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Created on : Thursday, July 05, 2007, 02:31:45 pm
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Dr. Phil speaks with self-proclaimed slacker wives and moocher moms, who admit they fall short in the mom and wife categories. Keya is a stay-at-home mom who spends 18 hours a day in bed, while her husband, Tyrone, works and does everything around the house, including waiting on her hand and foot. Keya considers herself a “rich man’s wife, but Tyrone says he’s not rich at all, and he’s tired of feeling more like her maid than her husband. Dr. Phil has a surprise for Keya! Next, Nick and Tara turn in their mother, Rita, who is unemployed, living in her van -- when she’s not crashing at their homes -- and constantly receiving handouts from her family. Her family claims she’s even taken money from her grandson’s piggy bank! Are her kids to blame for always coming to her rescue? Then, a mooching mom makes her daughters feel guilty if they don’t pay her bills and give her cash. She has a job, so why is she taking her daughter’s student loan money? Talk about the show here.

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July 10, 2007, 4:19 pm PDT

I'm a stay-at-home mom

I'm a stay-at-home mom, but I could never just lie around like that.  I felt sorry for the toddler who just wanted her mom to play with her.  Whats wrong with Keya? I think she is depressed.  Why didn't Dr. Phil ask her who takes care of the kids?  I felt really sorry for her husband, I thought he seemed like a good guy.  She should try just going for a walk with the stroller, thats what I do every day with my 10 month old and it gets us out of the house plus its exercise.
 

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July 10, 2007, 4:23 pm PDT

07/10 Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms

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Yeah, I'm a mom, and I'm in bed for several hours a day..............because I've got MIGRAINES!!!!!!

It sure would be nice to have that nice house to clean, or that nice big yard to play outside with my kids.  I can not believe the hours that this mom is wasting away (WITH NO MEDICAL REASON)  watching her children grow, doing NOTHING!!!!   I have migraine headaches that keep me from doing housework, playing with my kids, cooking for MY husband, not to mention other things.  This woman is healthy and beautiful and hides in bed all day!  I WAS ALMOST IN TEARS AND THEN LOOKIN FOR SOMETHING TO THROW AT THE TV!!!!  What is wrong with people in this world ???     She really does not appreciate what she has.   There are people like me who are unable to do what SHE can and would love to, and for her to just be down right lazy and unappreciative.  One day when her kids are all gone, she'll wish she had spent more time with them.  WOW, its just so sad.

I agree with you 100%.  This woman is definitely wasting precious early years with her kids. 
 
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July 10, 2007, 4:37 pm PDT

Disturbed & sadded

When I saw the show on the slacker wife & how she looked out the window. I saw myself. I am not a wife or mother. I am an agoraphobic. I am scared to leave my home. I long to be able to go out on my back porch and just sit in the sun. I wasnt always this way. I was a singer, hard working customer service person. Until a tragic issue lost my abilities to leave my home or bed. Dont be so quick to judge her. There may be other reasons why she is not able to get out of bed. I lost my job 2 weeks ago cause they wanted to change my shift to a night shift. Going to work was the only reason I had to leave home. I am not able to job search cause I am scared of rejection and not being able to stop a panic attack in the middle of an interview. Please dont be so quick to judge her. That was me looking out the window hoping for the fear to leave and I will have a reason to leave my home again.

 
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July 10, 2007, 4:38 pm PDT

possible medical issue

I wonder if possibly she has a medical issue. I have narcolepsy and cataplexy. Even with meds, there are many  days that I stay in bed all day for days at a time . I look perfectly healthy but  there are many days when my body  doesn't work .  Like she said I have good intentions but I get up do a little and  that's all I am able to do . For years people called me lazy, ungrateful, etc.  I didnt know what was wrong I just knew I had zero energy  and couldn't seem to stay out of bed.  So  I suggest  she see a neurologist  or her pcp ASAPP just to rule out a medical issue. Then if she is just plain lazy  I know her husband can  find a woman who appreciates him .  eva   
 
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July 10, 2007, 4:41 pm PDT

07/10 Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms

Oh my gosh, I just can't believe this woman....I mean to stay in bed all day & eat & not get up for the kids, I mean what's wrong with her? Is she depressed or something? I mean something has to be wrong with her...no exercise or anything...I mean I get up exercise, work in the yard & do things to better myself so that my kids grow up to learn for me.
 
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July 10, 2007, 4:45 pm PDT

A GOOD used car can work out fine.

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 Hi, I just want to stick up for the ladies who bought a new car. I have been a finance director for a multi-franchise auto dealersip. I must say that if these ladies walked into my dealership,the first thing I would do,is tell the sales person to sit them down comfortably,while I went through inventory. I would try to find the ceapest NEW car I could find. I specialized in loans for folks with bad credit.

 Special finance lenders plan on the fact that they WILL re-posses. So if someone has bad credit,they will only approve loans on the newest,lowest milage cars. This way,when they(the bank) take it to auction ,they have a sellable asset. To approve them on a older car that is out of warranty would be a bad deal for the lender. Most people who have issues with bill paying,also have issues with oil changing etc.... Also in most bad credit cases,if the car has any mechanical problems,the buyer feels as though they shoud not have to continue payments. Therefore the lender gets back a car that does not run,and is out of warranty.

 Also,special finance lenders have strict guidelines about the percentage a car payment can be in relation to total income. Debt to income as well as payment to income are primary considerations for approval.

 Another option is the private note lot. Down payment is collected for what the car is actually worth,and the payments that the buyer makes is profit for the propriator. This type of car is usually in very unreliable or even unsafe condition.

 The truth is ,no matter what kind of car these folks were to buy,they will be up-side-down,ALOT. Mainly because of deferred equity,and high interest.

 Most lenders will loan on only $1000.00 down payment. At least in my part of the country,a car that runs ,drives and has a/c,brings much more than that at auction. It goes to a note lot where someone will pay $2500.00 down and $300.00 a month(or until it breaks down).

 It seems to me if you have a job, and money problems,then it is important to keep your job,and not loose it from having your car break down too often. 

 I do not know all the details of this particular situation, But in my expirience,for these ladies it  could very well have been NEW car  or NO car.

Just my two cents-

Katherine from Tx  

We haven't bought a NEW car since 1980. We have had used vehicles that have been dependable and God knows, a LOT less expensive. It just blows my mind to know how expensive new cars have become. It's just not worth it to have a HUGE payment every month. Around here where I live there are a lot of dealerships with nice used vehicles. We have always had good luck with our vehicles. Ironically the last new car we bought in 1980 was a LEMON. Of course there was a warranty on it, but we were constantly having to have something fixed.
 
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July 10, 2007, 4:54 pm PDT

Misty

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 my sister, mom, and I are the 3rd guests on the show ....my moms the moocher....Im really nervous to watch it......one of the scariest  and most embaressing things I have ever done....
Misty,  since being on the show, have you guys lost your house?
 
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July 10, 2007, 4:57 pm PDT

Don't feel alone

Quote From: mystikal8503

 my sister, mom, and I are the 3rd guests on the show ....my moms the moocher....Im really nervous to watch it......one of the scariest  and most embaressing things I have ever done....

My brother, sister and I have been mooched off by our mother for decades.  I'm 41 years old and she still called me this month to "borrow" the $250 she was over extended in her bank account for writing a bad check.  She got my sister last month and my brother no doubt in there too...I feel so guilty when I tell her that I can't or won't help her.  Your mother at least goes to work, our mother stays at home all day and is excellent at spending it when she does go out. 

 

You guys looked great on the program.  You definitely should take is advice, I'm going to try to as well.  Best of luck to you.

 

 

 
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July 10, 2007, 5:14 pm PDT

Slackers wife

Quote From: fredericawheat

I think that this woman is a disgrace to Black Women because there is no where in the world that she should be allowed to care for children. If I was her husband I would leave her.

If she wanted to change she would have. People stay at home and are productive. They take care of there family. Tyrone should not work 10-12 hours a day and have to come home to cook and clean.  My thing is that she thinks that this is funny. There is nothing funny about being lazy and nasty. People that are sick don't stay in the bed like she does unless they are made to stay in the bed. She thinks that cleaning the bathroom, taking out the trash and mopping the floor is a mans job. What if she didn't have a man and husband??? Then she would have a nasty house.

How can you as a mother sleep while your child is wake???? She is angry at her husband she has no right. He should stop asking her what she want and let her get up off her lazy_______ and do for herself.  Find a way to help your husband. Yes, he should help but he work all day your at home so he shouldn't have to come home and do too much of anything.

It's a shame that she doesn't know how to mop. That floor look like a bubble bath.

I hope that she watches a copy of the show and read some of these messages, I hope that it sinks in that mothers don't act like this and if you are lucky enough to stay at home with your children then take care of your children and your husband and your house.  Thank God you've got a good man that has provided you with a home and allowing you to stay home to take care of your children, which you don't.

You make it bad for women who are looking for good me.

To the husband STOP WAITING ON HER HAND AND FOOT . STOP ENABLING HER.

Tyrone son go to ( WAL-MART ) and buy yourself a  well needed BACKBONE . Stand up to your wife Keya. She is only doing this to you because you  are allowing her to. If you would stop waiting on her hand  & foot she would get her lazy self out of bed and do her part in this "so called marriage " that you don't even have in the first place . I would hope that you go home after the show sit down with you wife  to make some serious changes in your so called marriage and home life. If not for your sake at least for your children's. If she is not willing I would consider leaving her and taking the children with you.What kind of message is she sending to those little ones. Not a good one I can assure you that! You are not doing her any favors at all by allowing this mess to take place. In a way I feel sorry for you ,but on the other hand its hard for my heart to feel sorry for a grown man who should never have put up with this mean  a -  -  bully  from day one ... Tyrone what was you thinking to allow this to get this bad? I hope that when she looks at the tape *If she even  has the guts to* she doesn't find it as funny as she did on the show. I was embarrassed as a working wife and mother of two teens that a woman who seems to have it all  a wonderful husband who works his A - -  off, young children  who need a productive mother in their lives , very nice home in what looked like a pleasant neighborhood, brand new vehicle would just let life pass her by as she is doing . It literally made me sick to my stomach. Keya this is to you ------ >  Take a trip to a homeless shelter if it wasn't for your husband thats where you would probably be. You would just maybe realize what you truly do have. If you will open your selfish eyes long enough!

 
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July 10, 2007, 5:14 pm PDT

FURIOUS AT THE LAZY WOMAN IN BED ALL DAY

 

  I'M EXTREMLEY ANGRY AT THE WOMAN THAT CHOOSES TO STAY IN BED ALL DAY LONG, SHE SHOULD BE HAPPY THAT SHE CAN GET OUT OF BED ON HER OWN ....I HAD A HEART ATTACK & STROKE ON MAY 27, 2004 & I'M ONLY 37YRS. OLD I'M PARALYSED FROM THE WAIST DOWN & HAVE TO  SLEEP IN MY LIVINGROOM IN A  HOSPITAL BED & NEED HELP GETTING IN & OUT OF BED & TO GET ON THE TOILET.... I'VE  HAD LEUKEMIA & NEEDED A BONE MARROW TRANSPLANT , 7 NEEDED 6 MAJOR JOINT REPLACEMENT'S & A CORNEA TRANSPLANT ON MY RIGHT EYE ..... I WOUL GIVE  MY LEFT KIDNEY JUST TO BE ABE TO WALK AGAIN SO MY ADVISE TO THIS LAZY WOMAN IS TO GET YOUR *SS OUT OF BED & ENJOY YOUR CHILDREN (MY SON WAS IN THE 8 th GRADE WHEN I HAD MY STROKE & HEART ATTACK & HE IS NOW GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL  I HAVE  MISSED SO MUCH OF HIS LIFE BEING IN THE HOSPITAL ALL THE TIME....

IF I COULD CHANGE IT I WOULD BUT I CAN'T SO GET UP & BE WITH YOUR KID'S  & BE A MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!


 

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