Topic : 07/10 Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms

It's funny just how much my husband and I differ on this issue. I am a stay at home mom. And, my husband feels that it's unfair of me to ask him to help me out around the house.  However, when we started having money issues. He didn't have a problem asking me to get a job and help him pay the bills. I worked, picked the kids up and still managed to cook and clean. He still didn't help out around the house. He thinks that stay at home moms don't work.

 

So, when the first couple was on. I was actually jealous of her. Her man comes home from work and actually does housework. I actually found myself saying you lucky girl. I hope she realizes just how lucky she is. To have a man that loves her enough to try and make her life easier. I would say to her. Please don't take him for granted. Actually, get up and clean. Your house doesn't have to be spotless. Because, with kids we all know that's not possible.

 

 

 You know I am a stay at home mom and I have 4 kids. I cook, clean, wash clothes and defintely clean myself that is just an excuse for that slacker mom you have children how can you lay in bed for 18 hours with kids do you bath them feed them help them with there home work. where are your morals and what do you think you kids think of you. Y ou say you are a rich man wife act like it show him you appriecate him by at least cooking a meal or to after he has worked all day like my self I am satisfied in my life I take care of my children and my husband and he takes care of all our needs. It really got on my nerves to see you acting in that way. I just couldnt do it yes you get tired but dont blame things on your husband because he ask you do you want something to drink and take it that he wants to serve you dont you think he thinks he is tring to be kind. To me it is nasty just thinking about it i just cant see it NASTY, NASTY , NASTY you arent a stay at home mom you are just another fly on the wall waiting for something to eat. alot of women would love to have that man you have if you dont watch it someone will do your JOB and show the love.

 keya sounds like she wants to help but since everything is done for her she isnt sure how to go about it.(your way) Also it seem over whelming when it is really easy. Just start with a little bit and you can add later. I know a great site that helps show you how to go about it a little at a time. Just give it 15 minutes each day to be up around and have your morning routine done. its called flylady.net 

So I thought I would spend some time reading the posts. I saw the one that Keya (sorry if I spelled your name wrong) I'm kinda shocked at them. I don't know if you realize it but you came off looking real bad in the show. If these posts are really from you then you should of stood up for yourself better in the show. The reason your getting all these bad posts cause you looked like a lazy wife and mother and even said your a lazy wife and mother and that you through fits when he brings you food you don't want. I mean come on you need to stop and think before you tell people how your life is cause people will judge on what they see, we all assume the whole story is being told. I think I would of been more understanding watching this part of the show about you if all the truth came out.

 

Good Luck to you

having chronic fatigue syndrome is not an excuse for laying in bed all day. I know plenty of people with the condition that still work and clean house and take care of things that have to be done. I myself have fibromylgia, Degenartive Disk Disease and arthritis and I work 45 hrs a week plus I take care of my home and 6 other people. I am 45 and I am exhausted all the time but I don't just lay around and use my illnesses as an excuse to be lazy.

I think that woman needs to sit back and teke a real good look at her life and reevaluate. How can you even call your self a mom when you tell your child to leave the room cause mommy is taking a nap!!!!!! Come on and get real now.

 

Those kids are going to resent her in the end anyhow because she is obviously slacking in the fun, loving, cuddling, caring and nurturing department.  I am ashamed and embarassed for that woman. I can't believe that she even classifies herself as a mom.

Reality is that the formatting of your post has left me to read between the lines....that's okay, I'm pretty good at that.

 

I hope that I do not disappoint you by saying that you did not "ruffle my feathers".

 

I do not recall posting that I was disabled when I replied to a poster that I could relate to as a SAHM.  I am not - I merely have physical challenges that I face at times that hinder my own performance as the type of SAHM I wish to be.

 

I concur with your statement that the women on the show were physically normal and functional.  Not functioning at their full potential...certainly they have the potential, imo.

 

I do not believe that the show denigrated Afro. American women in the least bit.   Not "Dr. P's" style.

 

There are all kinds of shows - daytime and night along with their forums.  Dr. Phil's is just another.  I will admit, his intrigues me the most, and I have learned a bit from some of his wise words - and Robin is very inspirational.  As long as I am allowed...I will post my opinions....and when I get off topic, I'm sure the moderators will do their jobs.

 

IF I were a "sounding board" for his show, as I define it....it would be an asset to the program.  I'm sure the show does just fine without my 2 cents.

 

I have no resentments toward your reply...quite the opposite.  And I do apologize for my deferred post-reply....I am in the process of moving into a new house - it's quite exciting....and painful.  No complaints, though.

 

Maybe it's time I changed my handle.  Have a good day!!

I am glad to see that you love your wife. This should matter more than cleaning the toilets and making gourmet meals. This is a new world, not 1950. Get a cleaning lady and keep up the good work!

By the way, Future Shop has a great 52" T.V. on sale right now. Get yourself right down there, they might even deliver today.

Babs and Wani

Keya is just fine, thank you. Just because she isn't a stepford wife doesn't make her a bad wife and mother.  Too many people are judgemental.

Babs and Wani

Keya, we are hoping you are getting all our emails. We replied to lots of them before we realized you can just post. We love you!

Babs and Wani