Topic : 07/11 What’s Up, Doc?

I am soooo upset at the posts I am seeing about this poor family, and how bad they are being bashed.

 

I have a 5 year old autistic child with encopresis that has now developed into megacolon, and it is a MEDICAL CONDITION people!  He has been to a gastro physician who has told me his colon is so terribly stretched out that he has absolutely no feeling. 

 

I took him to a doctor because of the autism and he cannot explain to me what is wrong, but I can see a parent with "normal" children just thinking their kid is being bad or disobedient, and it getting way out of control

 

Have a little compassion people.

 

I had breast recontruction a year ago June 8 2006. Old implants of at lease twenty years taken out and new ones and a lift done. I have a very nice and well known surgent, and I have seen his work,like you say.. I did my home work. I dont know if this matters Im African American and I was smoking at that time and trying to quit.........Now the night mare begin. After the first surgery my right  nipple got infected and the left nipple was'nt healing right and implant on the right shifted so it had to be redone. Surgery two he cut off my nipple and the nurse who put me to sleep tuck the needle in my nerve now I have tingling in my left arm, healing was very painful. six months later,surgery three to fix the implant. Now six months later Im having surgery four in August. Im a mess I looked better before I went in. I now have a big lump,maybe scar tissue in my left breast an a big dent and no nipple on the right. The surgent has know answers why this happened and I feel mutilated.I have silently suffered for a year and two months. I hope and pray he can fix me. I save my money and I lost weight and at 57years of age I just wanted a pick me up. It's like I tossed eight thousand dollars in the garbage.......Do you have any advice

You seem like a person who has a good head on their shoulders and a good sense of self which is great, but there are many women like me who have the same "belly" as the woman on the show.  Although I would never put up money for plastic surgery if I was taking anything away from my family in any way, I would LOVE to get my tummy done because it does interfere with your entire life.  People constantly ask you if you're pregnant, NOTHING fits in a flattering way, pants fall down, shirts ride up and you have this disfigurement which is inadvertently exposed.  I would tell you that if someone had a facial disfigurement that caused them to have extremely diminished self esteem, no one would even second guess why they would try to fix it!  And as such, though I am SO VERY thankful that it is not my face, If I had the means, I would not hesitate to get the surgery.

Wow! What a show and man could I relate to the woman with the "baby belly".  If I would have known sooner about Dr. Phil having this show I would've wrote in myself. Having 5 kids of my own I know what it's like having that belly. Every single day of my life it depresses me. It can change my mood just thinking about my belly. If there was one thing I would change about myself it would be that without a doubt.  I have done sit ups after sit ups and nothing. It's very frustrating. Oh, I wouldn't change having any of my kids but I do wish we had a break when a came to child bearing. Our bodies really do take a toll.

I have one of those kids his age is 10. He has been doing this since age 5. And I'm telling you it has nothing to do with the parent. I don't abuse him physically or mentally I love him so very much. And I've tried all the help mentally and medically and it has not help yet. I know that this is not funny for him and he also suffers from it. So please people be considerate and don't judge other people until you've been in the same place.

To all of you who have posted in regards to the 2 boys that have stooling issues,

Shame on you!!!

Maybe you all need an education, if you don't have a child with these issues you could never understand what it is like.

There is "NO" abuse involved.

My son was co,mpletely toilet trained and at 3 years old he started having problems.

He was hospitalized 3 times, having an NG tube placed and a golytely clean out.

First time was at age 5 and it was horrifying for him.

I cannot tell you how difficult this has been as a parent and your child tells you that he/she does not know when they have to go to the bathroom.

After years of problems, there is significant distention of the bowels and the children do not have any sensation of having to go.

YES it does smell and is very embarrasing as a parent, and is even worse for he child.

Psychological intervention along with a group of GI specialists work together to try to get the children with this problem better.

Unfortunately it takes many years to fix the distention problem before the child knows that they need to go to the bathroom.

I just cannot believe that all of you who posted here who have obviously never had to experience this would say the things you have said.

God forbid a child with this problem would read how ignorant all of you are!!!!!

I can't believe that GYN just told that couple to take a break, and they would get pregnant.  The only way I can see stress having an impact on fertility is if the female is so stressed that she stops ovulating.  It makes me so angry when people say things like "Take a vacation.  You'll get pregnant then."  I'm sure that my friends and family who saw the show will start calling me and telling me how they've been right all along because a doctor on the Dr. Phil show just said that stress can stop a couple from getting pregnant.  (How do some rape victims end up pregnant then?)   It has taken me almost a year to convince them that stress is not causing our infertility problems.

 

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost three years.  All of our tests have been normal, so we fit in the unexplained fertility category.  I did get pregnant once, but it ended in an early miscarriage.  We have been on plenty of vacations, but I still haven't gotten pregnant.  It has been only the past year that we "stressed" about not getting pregnant.  We've tried 6 Clomid cycles and 3 injectables/IUI cycles and participated in an IVF study.  None of it has resulted in a pregnancy but neither did just relaxing.

 

I also hate it when the doctors (like the GYN today) say, "Oh, you're still young.  You have plenty of time."  I'm 34, and I've heard that from several doctors.  Of course, if I get pregnant after 35, I'm considered to have reached "advanced maternal age." 

 

I think doctors like the one on the show today just perpetuate the shame and silence surrounding infertility.

You should be ashamed of yourself!  Read the posts here from parents (including myself) with a child that suffers with this.  Unless you walk in our shoes, butt out!  You are VERY CRUEL!

UNTIL YOU HAVE A KID WHO HAS THE PROBLEM DON'T TALK. THESE KIDS WHO HAVE THIS PROBLEM DON'T HAVE CONTROL OF THEIR BOWELS IT CAN GET ROUGH BUT ITS SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO STAY ON. IT SOMETHING THESE KIDS AND MINE WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFES.GO TO THE INTERNET AND READ UP ON THE PROBLEM AND MAYBE YOU WILL HAVE A LITTLE MORE KNOWLEDGE AND COMPASSION FOR THESE KIDS INSTEAD OF CUTTING THEM DOWN

Having taught for many years, in many schools, I really think there is a link between school attendance and repressed natural urges in students leading to health issues such as this. First of all the bathrooms are generally dirty and lack tiolet tissue.  There is generally no privacy, so they can not relax.  In some schools there are no doors.  After meals, like breakfast and lunch, students are not allowed to leave the class to go to the bathroom which is the best time to relieve themselves.  If any one student defaces a bathroom, it may be locked for the remainder of the school year, thus penalizing all the students.  Some teachers attempt to control student behavior by denying water and bathroom privileges.  Water is also very necessary for ease of movements.  As a past science and health teacher,  I know that any repression of natural urges, sets a person up for illness (perhaps lifelong illness).  Also, it is also difficult to teach students who need to relieve themselves, because they have difficulty concentrating, due to discomfort.  I've spent time contacting parents, but in the long run they tend to not step to the plate or back down when administrators assure them that things are not as bad as they think.  Children often get blamed by their parents for soiled under garments, when it is not always their fault when they can't get to the bathroom on time.  It's unfortunate how powerless many students find themselves in these schools.  It is my hope that someday parents will really come to the defense of their children (because they have the power to do something about this).  They need to talk to their children about these problems and stand up for them.  Students have a right to go to the bathroom, to have clean toilets, to have definite times when they can use the bathrooms and to have some privacy, because other students can be cruel and say unkind things.  In fact, it may be necessary to make this a legal issue because I have seen too much insensitivity among teachers and school administrators.