Quote From: wsantelopeOK. THIS is strange.
I believe your estranged husband (Bobby) is the man responsible for one of the strangest experiences of my entire life.
About 12-14 years ago when I was single I believe I met this man through a singles connection for horse-people.
He was an outdoor guide / outfitter in the northwestern US. (I'm leaving identifiying information out here).
I was a professional rodeo athlete.
We saw each other's profiles, exchanged pleasantries and then fell in love through the mail.....at least I thought we were in love....this was before email was real big.
We decided we needed to meet as we were talking about the possibilities of a life together.
We decided that I would drive the two solid days across the country to meet him and that he would pay 1/2 of my gas and expenses to come.
I was excited and drove to the beautiful mountains of the northwest and when I got to his place he wasn't home (But a roomate / ranchmate was and he showed me around and said this man would be along in awhile) ... which I thought was strange.
I remember this weekend as if it were yesterday.
When he finally showed up I joked with him and said that he took so long that I had fallen in love with his roomate. I was being real cute about it but I guess he didn't think it was funny.
After this I think he said only 7-10 WORDS to me in the two and a half days I was there.
We went packing on horseback to a hunting camp with a couple of horses and mules .... silence the whole time. I got scared in the night because I heard a large "Varmit" in the food tent they had me sleeping in as he slept in a tent with the guys (And I'm not a wimp either - been camping my whole life). He did NOTHING to comfort me, acknowledge me or anything.
The next morning I demanded that he pack me out of that wilderness and told him that I was leaving.
We rode the several hours home in silence the entire way and I told him I had never felt so decieved in all my life to which he said.....nothing. To top it off he was very reluctant to give me the gas money that he had promised me before i came and at the time I didn't have any funds to spare. He refused to pay for the lodging completely.
I didn't back down....he paid up and I left shaking my head.
It was so illogical that I had to just not think about it as it would never make sense.
I recognize that face as if it were YESTERDAY.
I'm GLAD you're getting out of this situation as this was, as I said, one of the strangest experiences of my life. What a strange man.
How strange your marriage must have been.
I feel like if someone drives across the country to meet you .... if you decided you weren't interested upon meeting them you could still be decent enough to show them a good time.
I'm reasonably attractive and had only said one sentence when he stopped talking so I hardly thing things could have changed so much between the letters and the face to face meeting.
It still makes no sense.
I just wanted you to know you're not alone.
(BTW, I'm very happily married ... going on 10 years. Thank GOODNESS Bobby didn't talk to me that weekend or I could be the one in your shoes getting divorced!)
Wierd.
Best of luck for your future!
Your wisecrack (taken badly) may have saved you years of misery!
Lucky for you!!
BTW, best of luck to you, Darlene, as you move forward.
maryann
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