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September 6, 2006, 10:22 am PDT

thanks for the welcome...I thought nobody was listening

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i know you won't believe this -- but this is my third attempt to write to you!  so... because i seem to have gremlins in the 'puter this afternoon, this one will be brief.

 

  • 1.  you are brave and courageous.
  • 2.  is there a doctor within all the specialists who could eyeball the list of all meds once a month or whenever a dose or new drug comes into play?
  • 3.  is it really okay to have OT leave you black and blue?
  • 4.  when you have the inclination, would you tell us about long QT syndrome?  (i am curious as to whether you were ever put on rythmol -- when my left ventricle took a dirt nap, that's what "helped"
  • -- but it was a living nightmare.)
  • 5. sleep hygiene is something i preached about recently... it has its good points but then it has some ridiculous stuff as well.  no napping is one that makes me chortle... and that the bed is only for sex and sleep -- well, ha! 
  • 6.if you don't mind -- what is it like to have narcolepsy?  there is someone on this board who also suffers with it.  did it precede all of these other sicknesses? "my guy" was put on provigil when he was diagnosed with ADHD in 2001.  it made him completely useless -- and made me anxious for him.  i do understand that it has different outcomes for differing people and differing diseases... but that seems so extremely odd.  he was slow as molasses and so sleepy and tired.  can you explain the differences? (i am not a patient, i just play one on the internet...) 
  • 7.  we don't have a hot tub, unhappily!  i have hearded that sometimes cardiac patients need to be on the watch for symptoms.
  • 8.  i am honored that you're here and hope you can stay. this is an interesting place -- sort of a place to be with others who understand -- laughter and tears are what i imagine going on (simultaneously)!
  • 9.  as for the infamous toilet water post... it was probably posted on august 11 or so.

 

a hearty welcome to you -- and please do stick around as you deal with these challenges -- you could lift us up and maybe we can be there for you.

 

profderien

I've been mostly on the Bipolar Disorder board, but have also posted to the Borderline Personality board, the Sleep Issues board, the Plastic Surgery board, and the Unforgettable Weight Stories board (under August 2006 shows), the Teen Wake Up Calls, the Newlywed part 1 board, and the Biggest Parenting Problems board (all three under August 2006 shows).  "I've been everywhere, man, I've been everywhere" (a song).LOL  I'll check out the toilet water posting.

 

Long QT syndrome is a congenital heart arrhythmia, which, for me and two of my kids, was diagnosed through genetic testing.  It is a transient arrhythmia, which is characterized by a lengthened QT wave on and EKG.  It can be aggravated (and deadly, also called Sudden Arrhythmia Death Syndrome, or SADS) by certain medications that cause vasodialation, or a rapid heart beat.  A pulse rate of 140 or greater can cause a deadly heart rhythm, which causes the heart to stop (hasn't happened to me, but often the first symptom of this disorder is sudden death).  Many cases of SIDS are now being attributed to Long QT syndrome.  It is passed from parent to child, when the parent has the gene, and one in 7000 people have it, although, I am one of 12 kids, and more than half of us and our kids have it...there is a 50/50 chance of a parent with Long QT syndrome passing it on to their kids.  Most anti-arrythmia drugs will aggravate the arrhythmia associated with Long QT Syndrome.  There is a 5-page list of drugs NOT to take with this condition, including most dental anesthetics, SSRIs, some antibiotics, decongestant, asthma meds, and the list goes on.  It is treated with Beta Blockers, but I can't take those because it would aggravate my asthma and make the rescue inhaler not work.

 

Narcolepsy is one of over 200 sleep disorders.  It is characterized by extreme daytime sleepiness and falling asleep while doing passive activities like driving and reading.  Before Provigil, I had to sleep a lot (I felt like a slug) just to be able to stay awake to drive and help the kids with their homework.  One of my kids, who had an ADHD diagnosis for years, actually has Narcolepsy too.  Adderall and Ritalin made him extremely shakey and destabilized his moods (depression and anger).  I would recommend for your son to have a sleep study...many ADHD cases can be attributed to a sleep disorder.  My other two boys with ADHD symptoms actually have Restless Leg Syndrome, a sleep disorder that wakes them up over 250 times a night because of excessive leg movement.  They are both taking Requip, and their moods and ability to get along with each other have improved immensly.  My 13 year old still has had trouble in school.  I would also recommend for your son to be evaluated by an eye doctor who does vision therapy.  Both of my younger two sons have Esophoria, a vision problem, where their eyes do not work well together, and they only see partial words, when reading.  They also have sloppy, disjointed handwriting.  The 13 year old often refuses to do his work at school and lies about having homework.  They have been doing vision therapy all summer, we'll see if it helps.

 

This info has nothing to do with chronic pain, I'm just answering questions asked of me, I hope everybody else doesn' mind.

 

Besides breast cancer (recent mastectomy and current reconstructive process), Asthma, Narcolepsy, former Obesity and cholesterol problems, five major surgeries in the last year, Bipolar Disorder,  Long QT Syndrome, and chronic pain from Fibromyalgia  I am managing to care for my family and volunteer a little at school and scouting with my boys.  I am on SSI disability because of all of my health and mental health problems.  I am currently in a lot of pain...neck and shoulder, and major migraine headaches.  I saw the chiropractor yesterday, after many months of not seeing him because of the surgeries.  He adjusted my neck and back, but today I am worse.  This happened the first time I saw him, but with my second visit, things went much better.  Last year, after suffering through months of headaches, the visits with the chiropractor improved my condition immensly.  He is recommending some kind of specialty pillow.  Somebody on the Bipolar board recommended a "memory foam" pillow.  Has anybody out there had success with a specialty pillow?  I'd be interested to hear before I buy one.

 

I will pray for all with chronic pain...I know how difficult it is to live with.  My wonderful husband has remained steadfast and true...we understand each other...he has depression and diabetic neuropathy and has a lot of pain.

 
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September 6, 2006, 10:34 am PDT

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I have a 5 y/o son who is Type 1 Diabetic and insulin dependant. I feel pain in my heart for him. Each day is a struggle for him. He has to have 3 shots of insulin a day. He is angry. He yells: " I dont want diabeties! I dont want no shot, it hurts! "  I know he has to have these shots in order to live, but he doesnt understand that yet. I have done alot of research on diabeties. His life span is 10 years shorter than someone without it. He is at a higher risk for heart failure, kidney disease. He is subject to start having heart attacks and strokes in his late twenties, early thirties. His vision will eventually get poor. If his blood sugar gets too high or too low he is subject to go into a coma or even death. We/he have to take special care of his feet or he will lose them later on in life. He has some days where he will scream and hit the walls and cry if his sugar is too high or too low. All of this is tearing my heart up. I keep asking God, why? Why him? Why did he get this? I sometimes sit in my room and cry. My 5 y/o son came in one day and saw me crying and said: " I have diabeties, what's wrong with you "? I know he can live a healthy, productive life if we take good care of his diabeties. He was diagnosed in November, 2004 when he was 4 y/o. His blood sugar was over 600 when he went into the hospital. God saved him. When ever I feel depressed and have  a problem, I think about my sons life and my problem is no longer a problem.  We monitor him closely. We check his sugar 4-6 times a day. He is on a special diet. He starts kindergarten this year and I am worried about him going to school. I know he will be fine, but I cant help but worry. There is an old poem that really helps us in times of desparation. It is called: "footrints in the sand". I feel for everyone who has to live their life with some type of pain, but with the Grace of God, he will carry us all through it. Just wanted to share our story. God Bless you all. jb7ctx

My husband has been on an insulin pump for a few years now.  He was on six shots a day before the pump.  He has been diabetic all his life.  The insulin pump has changed his life.  He is no longer chained to such a regimented schedule.  The pump gives a constant dose of insulin, and he sets it to give him a dose of insulin related to the amount of carbs he is eating and his current glucose levels at meal times and snack times.  He uses a test meter to frequently check his blood sugars.

 

Call 1-800-Minimed to get info on the pump.  They can send you a video and info on how to discuss it with the doctor.  They have just come out with a new system where there is constant monitoring of the blood sugars and automatic adjustment of the insulin pump. I think this would be ideal for a child, who may not realize when their blood sugar goes too low or too high.  Insulin reactions make a person rather grumpy and uncooperative, I have first-hand experience with this. My husband's doctor wants him to consider the new system.  Most insurances will cover the cost of the pump and the supplies needed.  My husband changes his site every three days (a poke every three days is better than multiple times a day). 

 

 We have several friends with young children on a pump.  Good control of the blood sugars when a person is young can help them avoid the common problems associated with having type 1 diabetes.

 

I'll keep you and your son in my prayers.

Becky

 

PS  sorry to be a "board hog"

 
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September 6, 2006, 12:27 pm PDT

sorry to hog the board

Hey, this might be of interest to all who have chronic pain:

 

September is Pain Awareness Month.  Please visit http://www.painawareness.org

There are lectures on pain physiology and treatment there.

 
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September 6, 2006, 7:42 pm PDT

Hi Diana

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Hey, so glad you are hanging in there with us..

 

If I remember right, you were in a car accident?? There are a two others on here I know for sure that were also in terrible car accidents and did some major damage..

 

If you don't mind me asking, whats going on with you?? Do you have a good doctor??

 

I was injured in 2002 while working.. the good old neck and shoulder and seems to effected my left side pretty good and then along the way, I picked up Raynard's in both hands.. But, the good news is that I have a doctor that I trust and really do love... and a great family unit.. one hubby and a grown Son that just turned 21 and my Mom lives 200 yards from me also...

 

AND what has really helped me, this Board.. I have gained some wonderful friends on here and this gives me something to look forward every day..

 

Sending you a hug and hope... Love Diana

 

 

I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I'm not on any medication and I'm not seeing a doctor. I just deal with it to be honest. I try to keep busy and the more active I am, the better off I am, but the mornings and the nights are really rough for me. I have joint pain too so I don't know what's up with that, but there's no swelling or anything like that.

 

I've had many injuries as a result of 11 years of gymnastics, diving, etc. I used to be very athletic. Even with those injuries, I was fully functional and did not need to have PT or see a doctor too often, rare really. But since the car accident 5/13/04 I've been to PT 4 times, seen multiple doctors, and went to a chiropractor too. I'm not sure what I want to do now. I am finishing up...hopefully with a lawsuit. I just hate suing, it's definitely not something I want to ever have to do again that's for sure.

 

So as I said, I'm just dealing with this on my own and found this board and thought I'd see what it was like.

 

Thanks so much for writing back to me. I appreciate your warm response.

 

:o)

 

 
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September 7, 2006, 5:42 am PDT

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 Hi I am 23 and have been suffering from Kidney stones for 10 years now.  It's not just the kidney stones but with it comes kidney and bladder infections and Fibromalagia (excuse the spelling).  I have had now almost 40 kidney stones and this has crippled me in many ways, I am unable to keep a job, due to sometimes weeks of pain.  I still live at home because i need help when I get sick and am unable to be by myself.  Don't get me wrong I am not enjoying having my parents still looking after me.  They are very loving and supportive but because it has been this long I am starting to see them getting intolerant, I guess because they feel so helpless.  I don't blame them I feel the same but to a much larger degree.  I am a prisoner in my body, unable to do the normal things people my age are doing.  I try my best for some form of normality I am studying through correspondence.  At this very moment I am sitting with a stone that I have had for tomorrow it will be two weeks, the pain is driving me nuts and I am living from pill to pill.  I feel like there is no way out because the doctors aren't even sure what is the route of the problem.  I have changed my diet, been put on meds to manage it, and have done everything and anything to try and get well but none of it helps.  I am having a really bad week and I have no one to talk to so I thought I would give this a bash because maybe someone out there will be able to give me something to keep trudging forwards.  I just feel like giving up!  The problem all the life line that stops me from ending it, is the fact that I love and don't want to hurt my family.
 
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September 7, 2006, 7:34 am PDT

Living with Chronic Pain

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 Hi I am 23 and have been suffering from Kidney stones for 10 years now.  It's not just the kidney stones but with it comes kidney and bladder infections and Fibromalagia (excuse the spelling).  I have had now almost 40 kidney stones and this has crippled me in many ways, I am unable to keep a job, due to sometimes weeks of pain.  I still live at home because i need help when I get sick and am unable to be by myself.  Don't get me wrong I am not enjoying having my parents still looking after me.  They are very loving and supportive but because it has been this long I am starting to see them getting intolerant, I guess because they feel so helpless.  I don't blame them I feel the same but to a much larger degree.  I am a prisoner in my body, unable to do the normal things people my age are doing.  I try my best for some form of normality I am studying through correspondence.  At this very moment I am sitting with a stone that I have had for tomorrow it will be two weeks, the pain is driving me nuts and I am living from pill to pill.  I feel like there is no way out because the doctors aren't even sure what is the route of the problem.  I have changed my diet, been put on meds to manage it, and have done everything and anything to try and get well but none of it helps.  I am having a really bad week and I have no one to talk to so I thought I would give this a bash because maybe someone out there will be able to give me something to keep trudging forwards.  I just feel like giving up!  The problem all the life line that stops me from ending it, is the fact that I love and don't want to hurt my family.

Good Morning

 

I wanted to send you a huge "welcome" to the board.

 

I really hope that you will stick around here and find the love and support that I have with hanging out on here.. I now have some of the best friends on this board and it gives me something to look forward to Everyday...

 

And whats so wonderful is that All of us suffer from some kind of Chronic Pain. We all understand the really "bad days" and even the really "good days' that each on of us are dealing with. And the huge thing, we understand the word Pain..

 

Also, please know that you are not "alone". And we all have had "bad" thoughts on really bad pain days also. And you are so right, the reason We all keep going is the love we carry in our hearts. Our family's are so wonderful and do not Ever deserve the horrible pain that the "ending" would cause them.. We all know that this would cause them a "life time" of pain in their hearts!!!

 

But, on here, you can cut loose and cry and scream and the big one, laugh... We all understand and will listen and be here everyday for you...

 

Okay kiddo, I have an apt out of town today, so need to get ready.. Ha, at my age 41, takes me a while..

 

I am sending you a hug and hope for today and all my Love.. Your new friend.. Diana

 
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September 7, 2006, 7:44 am PDT

Living with Chronic Pain

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I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I'm not on any medication and I'm not seeing a doctor. I just deal with it to be honest. I try to keep busy and the more active I am, the better off I am, but the mornings and the nights are really rough for me. I have joint pain too so I don't know what's up with that, but there's no swelling or anything like that.

 

I've had many injuries as a result of 11 years of gymnastics, diving, etc. I used to be very athletic. Even with those injuries, I was fully functional and did not need to have PT or see a doctor too often, rare really. But since the car accident 5/13/04 I've been to PT 4 times, seen multiple doctors, and went to a chiropractor too. I'm not sure what I want to do now. I am finishing up...hopefully with a lawsuit. I just hate suing, it's definitely not something I want to ever have to do again that's for sure.

 

So as I said, I'm just dealing with this on my own and found this board and thought I'd see what it was like.

 

Thanks so much for writing back to me. I appreciate your warm response.

 

:o)

 

Good Morning

 

Hey, thanks for sharing your story..

 

I love the picture... of course I am a huge horse fan, anything with horses.

 

And as for your suit, hey, that is why we all have Insurance. Hey, it's there if we need it. Don't beat yourself up over it. Accidents happen and those of us who car responsible and carry Ins. it's there, just in case, we hit someone or they hit us..

But I do understand how you feel, know one likes the hassle or the fight or the thought of having to do this.

 

Have to run, but wanted to say hello.

 

Sending you a hug and all my love.... Diana

 
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September 7, 2006, 7:47 am PDT

Living with Chronic Pain

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Hey, this might be of interest to all who have chronic pain:

 

September is Pain Awareness Month.  Please visit http://www.painawareness.org

There are lectures on pain physiology and treatment there.

Hi there Lady

 

Thank You so much for the info. I can't wait to hop on and check this site out..

 

How are you doing??

 

Have a good day and sending you a hug.. Love Diana

 
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September 7, 2006, 8:41 am PDT

Life without pain?

Life without pain....for me this is a distant memory which from time to time I have a glimmer of what that was like.... I am a 40 year old female with 2 teenage boys, also a widow, so doing all this on my own.  I suffer from fibromyalgia, have been told I have cervical degenerative disc disease, and I am in pain everyday.  I think the most frustrating thing is that it is not an outwardly forward pain, meaning when people look at me they see just a person, they have no idea that everyday is filled with tremendous pain.  Sure there are days that are better than others, but no day is without pain.  Exercise they say, sure I go for a walk (about the most I can tolerate) but it isnt long til the joint are aching and I have to get home, take a pain med, and hope the burning tingling pain will subside.  What a crazy kind of pain too... from joint pain to muscles that feel like they are knotted and will never break free.  You never know how you will wake up, if you will have a bad day or a tolerable day.  I am thankful that my kids are so helpful.  When I first started having symptoms of fibro, I had never heard of it....just knew that I was having so much pain... that was 6 years ago.  I had been to my family doctor he offered no help or knowledge of why I felt like I was in so much pain.  Then one day my orthopedic said, you know I really think you have "fibromyalgia" I asked what that was and he gave me some reading material.  I went home and poured over the information and cried, I felt like I was reading a biography.  I could have written that material!  When I talked to my family doctor about the "fibro" he hit me with an, "oh I don't believe in that".  I was stunned, confused, and said what do you mean.  He shrugged and left the room.  Needless to say that day I found a new doctor who sent me to a Rhumatologist.  I was then properly diagnossed.  I have been thru PT, but mostly exersise on my own and use a combination of motrin & percocet to help control the pain.  Meaning lessen it, because it is certainly never gone.  Well thanks so much for giving me a place to discuss this as many people have no idea what we live with.  Have a great day and God Bless you all...

 

Lisa

 
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September 7, 2006, 11:48 am PDT

have been living with pain, MS and spine and neck surgeries

Hi, I am new to this board. Have read some of the messages and like most, I live with pain every day. I have had MS since I was a teen. Now 65 and still have MS, back and neck disk pain and some sergeries on neck and looking at back surgery soon. I am so depressed not just with the pain and worry about surgery. I have 4 adult children and 8 grandchildren. None of my kids talk to each other. My best bday present would be to have them all in one room at the same time, with their kids and just having a good time. I had my own business and a few million in investments. My business partner stole from me, both in business money and my personal money. I was so upset with finding out that I was close to loosing my house, Had my brand new car repoed. Had to sell my beautiful house and lost so ;much money. I now live on SS and SSI with $1034.00 each month.

I took an overdose of meds and fell into a coma and one of my legs was caught in the bed when I fell off it, that when I awoke in the hospital I was facing major surgery to fix my leg. They called it compartment syndrome. It was treated by cutting open my lower leg from knee to ankle. Then it was treated like a burn. Scraping dead skin, that was eating my live tissue. After 2 weeks in the hospital, I was sent home with open wounds  there was nothing to sew up. So after months of pain and real depression, I ;moved in with my youngest daughter and her 3 year old son. My kids treat me like I was something that they have to talk to and see, sometimes. They hate me for "LOOSING THEIR IHERITENCE". I admit that I should have known what was going on with my business partner but with the MS and the pain, I did not. SOOOOO, I now live with that same daug;hter and her now 15 year old son. I love my kids, but don't like them much. I really love and enjoy being with my grandchildren. I must admit that they (my kids) let me see them and do not infulence them with their feelings about me. :My Bday is tomorrow and I am so depressed that I feel lke just going away. Dont know where and no money to go. Sorry for such a long and depressing message. Thaks for listening.Sugarjoyce

 
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