Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

For you to give such advice to convince another they have strength means that you have it and have only forgotten your own. No guilt, you have the right to choose to die, I want to remind you before you do so that you have a gift you do not see. Relating to others while convincing them to hang on may be a way to find a reason to live yourself and make a difference in the world. It is possible that if you change one mind you discover meaning and pride that you were created to do. You have the right to take your life but maybe saving another will give your pain a purpose and reason to live.  Just a suggestion, not a judgement. Before you take your life just consider those like yourself wishing for the same. it is possible your pain is a gift to help others and yourself. Just seeing your wish to help another not choose what you are preparing to do tells me your darkness offers light, you just don't see it. 

  

You cartainly can end it all now, you have the ability to do so. But maybe ending it all after preventing another will give reason to live or pride when you choose to leave. Reggardless, your life is your own and you have the ability to take it as long as no one is left behind to spend their life in pain because you gave that curse to them the day you gave up. 

  

There is a purpose you have here and a gift, maybe you will see it and then the darkness will lighten and find some hope or reason to make a difference in a world filled with indifference.  

  

I hope your will try this but I judge you not if you leave this world. We have choices in life and the choice to fight or give up is the legacy you leave behind, you write that history yourself. Good luck to you, your pain is real and I know how that is, for you to offer strength to another tells me you would convince them to live but not yourself. If you aren't there a life can be lost and that you must consider who would suffer from yor choice.  

  

I wish the spark of purpose to turn your despair into a driving force that empowers you to save those still in the dark needing a guide into the light. 

  

I could not agree more. i am actually more spiritual than religious for reasons you have given. This world and the bible is filled with interpretaions and madness preaching even another interpretaion is just a man with a mike telling us what God wants. Soon the money pot is passed and stares and sermons guilt you into buying your way into heaven or a  new car for the preacher!  

   

Wow! I am bitter today! Sorry! I just know that God creates us and this world (if we allow) make his creation a mistake. Those who use the bible to justify their judgement and hate are who claim to to be chrisitians the most while sinning by judging as if they deserve none of the same.. Not all are my description, certainly. But those who lack compasion for those with a life of cruelty and consider it a choice convince me the strongest of all are those who fight to be themselves unafraid of the judgement they must face.  

Hi, This is the first time that I have posted a message on this Message Boards and I have posted other messages on sites for depression and grief.  I have a letter one of many that I got from my brothers lawyer.  This is over the last will of my father, which died on Jan. 26 2006.  My brother only can to see dad one time in the 28days that he was in the hopital.  Also was not there when I buried our father.  But he could go and have the locks changed on dad's home the day of the funeral.   I would like to share this letter with someone but I do not know if anyone be interested in it.  My problem is that I can not afford a lawyer and my brother has lied from day one.   I have sent many messages to Dr. Phil, and I know that he is a very busy man.  I now feel that there is no one anywhere that is willing to help me.   There is times now that I not only lost my father on the 26 of Jan. but I have also lost all my family.  My aunt and uncle on my mom's side do not want to get into this mess even when they know that all this is lies.   

  

I am sorry  I just do not know what to do anymore. 

I went through alot of emotional and physical abuse over the last three years, I've been kidnapped and kept without food, raped, and 6 houses broken into the last house someone broke into and beat me, and tied me up for four and a half hours telling me how he was going to despose of my body, it left me with broken ribs and other injuries, my old friends use to tell these people where i was so they could cause me more harm. 

  

 It has caused me to be fearful of men and group situations where I would have no physical control, I don't trust people but sometimes I do and it is usually used against me or to there advantage or I am laughed at. I never had time to grieve and I don't even feel I deserve to have this effect me. I have anxiety attack's I don't want to disclose this info to everyone but because I seam wierd it causes people to judge and make fun at. Help I feel lost. 

I have been married 3 times and they have all ended in divorce.  The men I seem to pick has to have other women while married.  The first one had to go to clubs to watch women , then the other two had to have estra martial affairs.  My last marriage I really cared and loved this man.   He and my so called best friend was having sex not long after we where married.  I did not find out until we where married for about five years.  I confronted him and he said he wasn't.  After a while I had gotten so depressed that I just wanted to die.  So I left and went to a therispt and he went also.  So we tried to work it out again.  It worked for a little while but then he fell back into affairs again.   I left and move away.  I felt as if there was something really wrong with me.  I ended up having an affair with a married man.  He made me feel special and not dirty or disgusting.   I knew this was wrong and I felt that I reach the bottom of the pit so I tried to commit suicide.  As you can see it didn't work.   My daughter wanted me to come and live with her. So I did for about 2 1/2 years .   I have moved back to the area where I had the affair.   I work and visit family.  But just the other day I went on a blind date.   This brought up some serious feelings.  I don't even know how to date anymore.  I'm so very afraid of giving any part of myself to anyone anymore.   As a child I was molested and I know this has some to do with the reaction I have of myself still.

Hello.  I hope someone could help me.  I recently broke up with an old-boyfriend from my past.  I was with him for 6 yr. a long time ago, and then again for 3 more yrs.  Years ago, I left because he couldn't commit.  I gave him 6 yrs. so as not to pressure him.  He never talked about marriage.  He never ask me to go with him to visit his homestate and see his mom.  I guess I gave him the 'either or', but he came over (on the last day I saw him) and just with a angry voice, "come on let's go out and find a ring".  That was the breaking point, because I would never wanted to force him to do anything.  We started dating years after, and basically the same thing happen...He goes back each Thanksgiving, and says he won't take me...because, it's his and his mom's time...I understand that, I'm a mom too...but, she's 94, and I'm afraid I won't ever get the chance.  He said another time, and yet he never talked to me about it...I told him all I wanted was Thanksgiving Day, to spend with her over a meal.  Something, I'll always remember and cherish...Then, he can spend the rest of the time helping her out...He calls it as ONLY a working vacation...and says I don't understand...He takes 1 wk. there, then 1 week recovering...In this relationship too, he's called me the 'b' word, and a few others...(just as bad) when he gets angry...I told him I want him to make an appt. to talk to a counselor, and then I will go with him for the rest...So, far he's not going to do it...I then said well then that's it...He won't talk to me, or even compromise...PLEASE someone help me, so I can go on and be happy...I need some advice, if I did the right thing....Thank-You SO VER MUCH!!

  Hi my name is Debbie , I have recently separated from my husband of 16yrs .although he was very abusive it is very hard for me. I have never really been on my own and alone. Sometimes I feel like know one knows the hurt  or pain that I have to live with even though I know that there are people with stories just like mine . As  I am sure anyone can see that today has been a very bad day for me .I really do want to stay strong and make a better life for myself and my family they worry about me so much.  I am just taking it one day at a time. Always,Debbie                                                                                                                   

I see there is a section for "diseases and illinesses: But no section for syndromes. I like to see one because I have Treacher Collins Syndrome and like to find others with it.