Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

 i was thinking the same thing. hope you are well?

I don't have any info on you.  All I know is that you need help. Dr. Phil has done it were nobody has to see your face. They will want to talk to you personally.  Do you have any other phone number they could use?

I would like to thank you all for your kind words, and yes i will fight on but it is very hard.
 We have no support groups on this forsaken island alcoholism is rampant but ignored by our authorities.
The family of my ex, stated initially that they would help to get him into a program but nothing has happened as always. I do not hate him and would like to see him get help, which in return will better our situation too, as he may finally get his life together and help with child support.
 The list of things I wish for and would like to remove from my life i have done a number of times, I have my goals but no means to reach them.
 I know what I need most is some family support, someone to help me to keep up a good fight even if it is just with kind words and listening when I need a open ear. Well, I said before I will keep on fighting .

Thank you all again and blessed be your path through this life
Ursula

Stand by I'll see if I get any answere back.

I am so confused!! I moved out of my moms house because she abused me and now i live with my dad! I talk to the assistant princapal about what happend and we have become VERY tight!! She is so amazing!! I love her to pieces!! Like she feels like my mom. There is a hole in my heart that my mom left but the assistant princapal fills that hole with love and laughter! All seem good right? Think again, i am so scared cause as you know school is almost over! I am not ready to leave her!! What can i do?¿? I cant leave her!! What do i do!?!?!

You seriously need to talk to your dad.   

   

She, I'm sorry to say is not your mother. Never will be and never could be. I'm sure she has a great heart and listen to all you went thru but what has she told you to do to help yourself? Has she sent you to the guidance councilor to get some help? I know you feel very close to her but it is only for 2 months which I realize feels like a lifetime right now but I think you should use this time to get closer with your dad and ask for his help. Think about it, OK?  

   i WAS BORN WITH NEAR COMPLETE AGENDUS CORPUS COLOSUM. WHERE THE TWO HALVES OF THE BRAIN ARE NEARLY SEVERED. i AM 55 YEARS OLD, AND HAVE ALWAYS KNOWN THAT THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME, BECAUSE i HAVE NEVER QUITE FIT IN WITH THE NORM. i FOUND OUT i HAVE THIS THREE YRS AGO WHEN i LOST BOTH OF MY KIDNEYS AND HAD CONGESTIVE HEART FAIKURE. hAD TO GO ON DIALYSIS. THEN ON FEB 14TH OF THIS YR, I RECEIVED A TRANSPLANT. MY POINT FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS IS TO FIND OUT HOW MANY HAVE DEALT WITH THIS AND HOW YOU HAVE COPED WITH IT. MY WAY OF COPING, AND I HOPE BY TELLING THIS THAT IT WILL ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO GO ON., IS TO KEEP YOURSELF BUSY LEARNING NEW THINGS LIKE CRAFTS OR SOMETHING YOIU ENJOY DOING. I HAVE BEEN VERY FORTUNATE THAT GOD HAS GIVEN ME MANY TALENTS. I STARTED SINGING AT AN EARLY  AGE AND MADE TWO RECORDS BY THE TIE I WAS 15. .I LEARNED TO CROCHET AT AGE 10, BECAUSE I WAS NOT ALLOWED TO PLAY WITH OTHER KIDS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD. i ALSO WRITE POETRY AND HAVE HAD SEVERAL PUBLISHED.IF YOU DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING ELSE FROM THIS I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT SOMEONE WQHO WAS BORN WITH THIS CAN REALIZE THAT IT DOES NOT HAVE TO DESTROY YOUR LIFE.IT IS AN UPHILL BATTLE I STRUGGLE WITH IT EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE, BUT GOD DID NOT BRING ME THIS FAR TO LET ME DOWN NOW.SO GOD BLESS EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU  

  

  

It appears to me that you are avoiding the most important part of your life, you. Until you find out who you are by working with a group or a professional, any other relatiponships will never be meaningfull. Stop all of this "other lives stuff" and consentrate on you.  

My boyfriend just lost his mother to cancer. I'm having a really hard time coping with his loss, cause I was kind of close to her. I find my self not knowing what to say or do in situations like this, I feel like I'm not supporting my boyfriend at times with the loss of his mother because I'm over analyizing everything I've done and didn't do. I'm sad about the loss for his family but I don't know how to express it whit any kind of emotion. I want to cry but I can't really. All these feeling of guilt and frustration and of not knowing are making me bottling all my emotions inside of me. How do I release these feelings, and feel like I'm helping and not just always saying are you okay, can I do anything. I know it takes time for this but, when will I feel these normal feelings, is this normal what I'm feeling? 

Jen 

I just want to say how sorry I am for what happened to you.  It does seem to be a common thing and noone does a heck of a lot about it.  Usually what happened to you...blame the victim.   That is SO wrong.  No matter what anyone says DO NOT blame yourself.   I did that for years and it makes you feel so worthless.  Get some help from where ever you can find it...if nothing else look in the front of your phone book-there should be a listing for mental help which is what I think might help you.   Your mother doesn't have to know.  You said you're 18.  You're an adult.  But if your mom knew she might be more supportive than you think.  Chances are she has been through something similar in her life.  I found that talking to people about it was very helpful in the healing process.   Good luck and keep fighting.