Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

i know that writing will be very usefull here i just asked for answer because u need to know if u are the one who donot understand

i had tryed every way to make my family and friends here understand that people could have deffrent wayes to solve there proplems and in the end i find my self alone and need some one to tell me that iam inthe rigth path in my live

Hi.. I would like to talk to you, and listen..

Rizwan.massani2@gmail.com

I had been going through depression since my middle school years (so about 7 years).. Just recently, I stopped caring about making 'others' happy, and to focus on myself.. The only problem is that my life has shattered into millions of pieces in front of me. I have bad grades at school, my relationships have completely fallen apart, I have no job, I have no life, and I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life..! When I picture myself standing in a dark room trying to put together glass that has broken into millions of pieces around me. This thought is really frustrating, because I don't know where and how to start! Please help!

I was hired as a Emergency Department Secretary and over time I was also asked to perform clinical duties such as take a patients first vitals, help with transport from ambulance stretch to er stretcher, put patients on bed pans and commodes. Transport patients to inpatient bed on other floors, operating rooms, helped with catherization of patients (male and female), cleaned up bodily fluids, helped patients from stretchers into wheel chairs, helped with suture care, cleaned patience's, transported deceased patients from emergency room to cooler located on the other side of hospital. Transported patients with and without oxygen. This is to mention a few. I resigned from my position with a letter. The policy give an employee 3 days to contact and I did call in the first two days to explain I was ill and had been seeing a doctor. I became very depressed as I knew I could not fulfill my secretarial duties while caring for patients as requested by nurses and doctors of the emergency department. They put in my record that I abandoned my job and they did not hear from me again. I have not beable to get a job in medical offices (where I live) are affiliated with this Hospital cannot hire me as a result of the determination. The human resource manager refuses to change the status (she wasn't employed by hospital at the time of occurrence and will not even consider listing to me. I received unemployment as it was determined I left due to the demands put on me. I had NO certification and was not even CPR certified. This just give you an idea why I need help to correct this emotionally disturbing situation say nothing about all the money I could have made during this time.

 The hospital had no right to ask you to perform nursing & cleaning duties if you were employed in the capacity of secretary. You need to recruit evidence such as affidavits from other employees who witnessed the requests for you to undertake these duties. The hospital is liable for any claims made against them by patients you cared for at their request.

I am so glad I do not work for a private hospital system and know I and my fellow employees all know where the lines are. I would never ask the unit secretary of our pediatric ICU to watch a patient while I went to lunch ,went to bathroom or to assist in any patient care at all. She is not qualified and cannot be held responsible for any orders I may give her other than secretarial. This situation is disgusting and typical of a private system where important rules are flaunted. I have seen people in Australia placed in similar situations by a private system intent on profit before people at any cost to the people even endangering their lives. If you can prove that the hospital insisted you perform these duties then you have a case. Gather evidence carefully and you can send them to the wall for putting you in this situation. There are medicolegal implications for allowing unqualified staff to care for patients.It would be like me as an RN performing surgery !

I can't thank you enough for your response.  My sister is a nurse also she works in the Operating room at a totally different hospital.  I hate the fact that a health facility can have such an impact on the health of an individual.  I am going to contact a lawyer (they get paid if I get paid). I never had the intention of getting money out of this, however I have lost so much money in the past because of this situation.  I had only asked to have my status changed in my human resource file from abandonment to resigned or even quit.  I then could at least get back in the field I have been an Lab secretary and became a EKG/phlebotomist. What this hospital did to me had totally prevented my to get any type of job connected to them.

I also think that patients would be very unhappy to know about this.

Hi all,

I think I'm depressed, have been for a long time now.  The history is long, my mother was very mentally abusive and mentally ill, father couldn't cope and started to drink. We had money and perhaps I was spoiled in other ways, but I always was my moms therapist and keeper. She yelled, screamed and tried to kill my father on several occasions. In public she told lies about us. She made several suicide attempts to keep us in line(and telling us so)

In school I was tortured by my classmates. Both parents died in short succcession under weird circumstances when i finally fled the nest at an age I should have long gone. Several years have passed. my life has changed for the better. Many of my dreams have come true.  Still I cannot be happy about that. There is always the nagging fear of betrayal (my spouse has done so before), My old interests don't interest me anymore, I cannot be at home for a long time without getting extremely antsy, I'm always afraid of catastrophe in my life,nothing makes me happy anymore, I blow up easily and have no self-esteem., always think nobody loves or likes me and that I'm stupid.

How long does baggage from youth stick with a person?  My husband says I'm constantly playing old videos in my head and just have "to decide" to "just live".  Is that so easy? How does one do that? I'm afraid to take medication. I don't want to get dependent and I don't want to live in a fog. Are other people "happy"? Is there such a thing? Am I just an idiot and blowing things out of proportion?

I am 56 and my husband is 63 and he had a massive stroke in august.  almost every doctor said he would not make it.  so for more than 3 weeks i waited for the words no one wants to hear.  well he opened his eyes and he is still here.  He is in a rehab hospital and will probably be there for months.  his disablities are major.   i am too sad for words. I cry every day.  I go to the hospital 2 times a day  I am so completely overwhelmed i dont know what to do  I feel like i have lost myself and have no hope to coming back.   I dont know who i am i feel like a zombie and that i am hanging on to the world by my finger tips.  i do go to therepy i am on an anti depressant but i still feel this way.  I would like to hear from someone