Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

 When I read your story, I got goosebumps... My 13 yr old son just came home after 5 months in a behavioral facility... he had a very frightening manic explosion, I had to call 911, I have never been so terrified in my life.  He is my youngest and also is very bright, however on the flip side, he to is a master mind manipulater and can make his lies very believable and feel no remorse... he has been home one week and has smashed his PSP in a angry rage, lied and his favorite thing to do is 'disrespect' me...

I understand the finance end... the cost for his 5 month stay was $60,000.   I so understand your pain and the love we both share in common for our amazing and intelligent sons...  I also was advised to look into boarding schools, financially for me it is not an option...   I was told about a support group DBSA (depression bipolar support alliance), they may have resources and suggestions to help you find a   boarding school to place your son.... If your unable to locate them in your area, let me know and I'll do my best to get you some helpful information.... 

11/14/07

Hello. I am a 34 yr old female, trying to find a friend to talk to.

I want you to know, I will NEVER devulge my real name or where I live, so please dont ask. Sorry, but thats my boundries.

So if you can deal with that, and  you are a RESPONSIBLE ADULT, then write to me.

 I am at the end of my rope, hanging by a thread.

I am struggling everyday with ....well alot of hard issues, and I cry every single day, and try to forge through it. I only thought I had alot of problems before...but then November of last year my panic attacks got SEVERE, and I have been having problems controlling my balance ever since. I am freightened beyond control. It really stinks. It interfears with all of my daily tasks. And please dont try to scare me with diagnosis, I am FA-REAK-ED OUT enough as it is.

Thank you for your time.

PS. If you believe in GOD, I ask for your prayers, even though you dont know me,  HE does.

Sincerly,

Cinderella34

Wow;  I thought I had problems but when I read this I cry along with you.

Well; How long are you married and did you know all of t his before marriage and during mariage?

If  you did then you will have to take accountability for what happens. I am sorry but have to

deal with your emotions and all of the pain whether its in church or free counseling. They do

have support groups for this. You may want to check  into a 12-step program or coda. Codependent

anonymous because you might be an enabler. I say this because I am an enabler also only

I enabled an abusive man and let him get away with it.

You must have known this was coming and knew that a drug addict or bi-polar person wouldnt

help you financially or emotionally so now you have to worry about you and your daughter.

Can you stay with a family member or have one stay with you?

Why did you have to wait around for him to put money away for you. Why didnt you put money away for yourself knowing this was coming. I am not judging just trying to understand.

Are you going to wait for him or do you want a better life for you and your daughter for you know he

will do this again right? Get Help anyway you can. Church, CODA, Womens agencies, social services

whatever and fix YOU so that you dont keep repeating this pattern.

I am a 39 year old female and I am worried about several things.  First my 43 year old sister was told she has Breast Cancer.  I firmly believe that she will be fine when all is said and done.  Cancer does not run in our family so it was a HUGE shock.  The same week I found out about her my Husband of 6 years was told that his older brother has liver and stomach cancer and has very little time to live.  I worry about my husband and his feelings.  He lost his older sister a few years ago to cancer.  Cancer runs in his family.  My husband has a lot of health issues but his main issue is his weight.  He weighs in around 500 lbs.  I have tried everything to get him to loose weight.  The only reason I want him to loose weight is because I want him to live.  He is 51 years old.  I am so afraid every day that he will not be here the next day.  I don't know how to help him deal with his issues and still deal with my own issues.  I worry every day.  I don't eat very much because I am so worried all the time I get sick everytime I eat.  I don't know if my husband will be able to handle the loss of his brother.  I just don't know what to do.  Any advise any one can give me on any of the issues I have shared today please, please share.

Thanks

Sometimes we go through things, hardship, issues in our lives and we cannot get through them and I feel your pain, your panic attacks, everything,because i have been there. I lived through sexual abuse, I have been through homelessness, I have been through my own family members telling me that i am worthless, but yet I did not give up. I pray every night asking the Lord to make me better. And I will keep you in my prayers Miss Cinderella.

I do not want to know what problems you have but God sees us through hardtimes, and always remember that he is there, looking down. Take care and God bless you.

i didn't know that he was this way.  and i didn't know really what bi-polar was until he was diagnosed with it.  to answer some of ur questions i've been married for 6 yrs...he didn't use drugs up until 2 yrs ago...he did drink when we got together but i didn't find anything wrong with that until 3 yrs into the marriage when he couldn't stop.  he did though...and went about 2 years or more til he went through depression when his father died, was then diagnosed bi-polar.  then he started smoking weed.  no i honestly didn't know that a bi-polar person would do this.  this is all new to me.  i never knew anyone with the disease.  u've asked why didn't i put money away myself?  good question...one reason was because i was playing catch up and i did get a part time job to help myself out.  so in ways i thought that was helping myself.  but i guess as a husband/father...should HE have some responsibility?  he's the one that committed the crime...and i have to pay for something i had nothing to do with.  amy i going to b there when he gets out?  great question...i pray that this will make him a better person...but will i be there?  time will tell...i say that only because anything can happen from now until then.  and while he's got time to think...so do i.  plus i will be on my own growing independantly.  i have begun to go back to church...and i will take ur advice and look into some place to talk with some so that this doesn't happen again to me.  thank u...