Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

Hey im Eric. I'm sorry for whats going on in your life right now. fighting parents does takes its toll on the kids involved. My take on this is that i dont think that the dr.phil show would help based on the reason that that your parents has been fighting on the consistant bases. I dont think they should get a divorce, but they should be away from eachother and ask themselves if this what I really want . meaning that they got to think hard to decide wether they should work out their problems by starting to forgive eachother. after that they can cleary decide wether they should be together or not. What I do know for sure is that  it is not fair to you or your brother to be going through that. Other than that any way you go about it its entirely up to you. my hopes and prayer are there as well.

yours truly

Eric 

Hey how are you doing today? I really want to say this with great sicerity that you are an overcomer and strong. I believe it is so because for starters that you took on a very difficul task of counseling your mom on the account that she was very abusive to you. I know that is something hard to deal with, espicially on a child. Evanthough you went through abuse and enternal conflict in your life, remember that you have overcame  and what courage it took what it continues to take. My gift to you is this the past  is over , and what we have is right now.  your husband is right the movie in your head you should find something that is good.... good thoughts.And  you should close your eyes and say out loud 'I FORGIVE MYSELF AND IM NO ONES VICTIM"  I hope you can leave a email or comment to let me know hows it working for you. take.

By the way.. Happiness is for real but it has to start within.

yours truly,

Eric Day  

Hello All!

I am so stressed and wish I had a punching bag right now.

I moved from NY to Canada when I married my husband and I'm very happy.  However, I am finding myself to be very disappointed in the health community out here.

As a woman, I was encouraged and lived by getting my annual pap smear 1 per year and  until I came here 5 years ago, I did.  My doctor in Canada will not give me one and his reason is " you are not promiscuous" 

I had to go to emergency and decided to ask the doctor who was seeing me as to how the routine of a pap smear is done her and was advised either yearly or every two years.  I informed him of my situation and he chose to tell my current doctor.

Had an appointment today for refills on medication and was approached by the office manager in the waiting room (no other patients there but me and the only other person in the room was the secretary) who told me the hospital was in contact with my doctor and that I would get a pap smear today (advised I could not due to my "monthly") - was told to leave the office and that my refills would not be done.

I am so hurt and angry that I just want to scream! I can't believe there is no such thing as doctor/patient confidentiality and that my doctor until being pushed, would not give me a pap smear!  I needed to get this out  of my system and I appreciate anyone who reads this and supports me as I figure out what to do next...

Debbie

I don't mind talking if you need someone to listen to.

I won't ask any question about name or location and I don't do diagnosis so if you want to chat, I'm here. 

I can relate to the panic attacks - have them myself - I hope that they get better for you soon. 

I really really appreciate the kind words, and sincerely appreciate the prayers, No I dont mind that your 57. Age is just a number to me, it is the person, standards, and morals that matter to me. Yes, I try everyting I can, but I mostly pray and cry, and get mad. I want you to know that I am surprised people care. I am glad that they care. I am really in a very low point, and just try not to sink down lower, somedays thats all I strive for. Sorry,  Im not a very good person to know. I mean Im in the worst place I have evr been and I have been below the bottom of the barrel several times, so Im sorry to seem like a complainer. Becasue I am grateful, This was just a place for me to air some of my bad feelings.

Well thank you.

C34

I appreciate the kind words and thank you very much.

C34

hello, i anderstand very much what you are saying, because i suffer the same. it is very god have someone to talk to, and someone that can share this things with me, because it is not easy to talk with someone the now us personaly.

if someone want to talk to me please reply

kisses***

if someone need some words of support, or just a kind word after a stressful day in work, i am here to help. when i was in very bad mood, depressed i always have good friends that support me, now that i feel just fine, i am here to help someone´s that need.

you can talk about what you want, troubles, stress, or just how the day was!!!

kisses

I am engaged to a wonderful man who lost his wife to cancer over 10 years ago during the Christmas holidays.  We love each other very much and have a very open and honest relationship. 

He is unable to celebrate this holiday and other significant days and I feel for him and understand to the extent that I am able, but how do I get through it with my own happiness about the season without making it harder for him? 

I have 2 older children and would like to keep our own traditions going and involve him in them.  He has done very well on other significant days in the past to keep his emotions in check and I didn't realize how hard it was for him until last night when we had planned on shopping for our families and he became very "hard" all of a sudden.  I didn't realize the impact of it until we came back home and I brought it up so that we could get it out in the open and to let him know that I can deal with it as long as I know what is happening. 

He was very open with me about his feelings and letting me see his vulnerability and even though I haven't been through it myself, I am very touched by the love and devotion he felt towards her.  It's one of the reasons for my attraction to him in the first place. 

My concern is adding to his already fragile state.  Ultimately, this season for me is about keeping up "traditions" with my own children and extended family, but just as importantly, for my fiancee and I to create our own nice memories of the season and based on our conversation last night, I don't see how that will happen with the grief he is still experiencing.  Any advice or experience with this from anyone here is very much appreciated.

Thank you