Topic : Giving and Receiving Support

My husband goes to the Dr. again tomorrow and I will try to get him on medicaide tomorrow so he can have an ultra sound of his stomach , they think there is fulid building up .!! But the hospital wants us to pay  for half, thats 150.00 !! Ha ha why does it take so long to get him on medicade?? The stress is over whelming, I say a lot of prayers, thanks for listening

 we are going threw the same thing, the Dr. put him on laculose, this is supposed to help with his memory , mental alertness . He starts it tomorrow , I will let you know  how it works .You are in my prayers

 My husband has been put on laculose, this is supposed to help with memory,  , he starts it tomorrow. He is seeing the Dr. tomorrow to for his bypolar to , FINALLY, I hope some meds will help him , his mood swings are awfull !! Is there such a thing as a Happy Pill!! lol ha ha I have to laugh to keep from cryin all the time and I say a lot of prayers, I will check the board tomorrow Thanks for listening

It sounds as though you are taking some positive steps toward recovery. Do you have a good support system (close friends, family, etc)? Surrounding yourself with the right kind of people during a time like this can be very important. You need people in your life who will build you up and encourage you, but also those who won't be afraid to speak a little truth into your life if it looks like you're about to make the same mistake again (by this I mean fall for the same kind of guy).  Don't try to go through this alone.

 

I would encourage you to look into some individual or group counseling as well, for help in processing all you've been through. 

 

Breaking things off with this guy is a giant step toward regaining control of your life. Know it or not, that is a tremendous accomplishment! There are many women who continue to suffer in silence because they don't have your courage.

 

Also, it sounds as though you're learning to enjoy life again--that's awesome! Be proud of yourself and learn to enjoy the journey--you only get the one trip!

  I injured myself at work a couple of weeks ago. I prolapsed my C4/5 disc. Normally it gets better with rest and analgesia inside of 14 days for most people.Mine unfortunately has not. I am swallowing Panadeine Forte & Tramal ( at times) for the pain.  I cannot tolerate NSAIDs. Regardless of how full my stomach is when I take it I get gastritis and diarrhoea after more than one dose and no pain relief. I feel like a zombie. I can't take any analgesia when I have to see the doctor or physiotherapist so it is always a painful session either way I am also taking Lyrica 75mg twice a day. I've been getting neuropathic pain down my arms and into my hands. The Lyrica is helping that pain but at the price of not being able to drive my car because it makes me drowsy , dizzy and affects my balance. I've been told I will have to take it for  some time and the side effect will lessen. I've been taking it for two weeks now and still sway and stagger.

 

  The doctor and physio are going to start some rehab work on Friday to get me fit for work ASAP. In my job there are no light duties so I have to be100% fit to return to work.  I have given my  7mth puppy to my cousins to babysit until I can bend forward to feed and play with her. However, I am having problems doing the housework , cooking meals and grocery shopping. I am single and live alone. My parents live in another state and can do little more than speak to me on the phone. The rest of my family , one brother , one sister and countless cousins, Aunts and Uncles live here in my state. They all keep me at arm's length and offer platitudes. I have asked for actual physical assistance but none of them can manage one hour of their time. If the boot were on the other foot I would drop what I was doing and dig in and help them. They know this because I've done it countless times in the past.

 

  I feel that if I died  tomorrow the only people who would notice would be my employer and the bank. My family don't ever phone me so how would they even know something wasn't right? I feel truly alone. I cannot get support beyond well wishes from my family and I have only one friend. His mother was diagnosed with bowel cancer last week. He relies on me to keep him strong and give him explanations / education about his mother's path fom here on.

 

  Am I just being self-absorbed ? I am normally a very strong woman but I can't cope with this. I'm not simply depressed or an emotional wreck I cannot physically manage to do basic chores due to the pain. I just feel so alone. My physio gave me some exercises to do at home and making the assumption most people do, he told me to get someone to hold my shoulder down while I did the exercises. I have no one unless I can train my Jack Russell pup to sit on my shoulder. Everybody tells me to make sure I'm not too modest to ask for help. Well I'm asking and nobody is willng or able? There is no community service I can use as I'm not considered aged or disabled. I am starting to lose weight from an inadequate diet. I don't know what I can do?

I am 27, single mother and I suffer from PMDD (Pre-menstrual dymorphic disorder) which affects approx. 7% of women. When I am suffering, some of the symptoms are extreme uncontrollable rage, in which often times i have to seperate myself from my two year old because i feel so out of controll that I am afraid that i may oneday inflict injury on him. (I have never). I have no patience and yell and scream like a crazy women over the dumbest things that normally i could care less about ie, spilled juice. I am extremely fatigued, as if I have mono, and can't get enough sleep. my eating becomes out of control,and i binge eat all day long when i normally barley eat duringh the day and I cry over the smallest of things, and then as soon as that one week is over, i am a completely normal functioning happy person, who has the patience of a GOD. I am wondering if anyone else suffers from this, and how they are able to cope with it. I absolutely feel for the one week I experience PMDD like a complete crazy women, and it affects every part of my life. I guess I'm just hoping that im not the only one here feeling/experiencing this.

 I have been watching brat camp this week on Dr. Phil and I can definitely relate to these families.  I as a mother let our daughter manipulate me and be a brat.  I as a mother did not do what I needed to do. We adopted her when she was a year old and she has been angry about being adopted or rejected by her birth parents.  I was not a good parent for her.  I feel like I messed up a lot.
I needed help and did not know how to ask.  Now our daughter is 20.  She left home at 18 and moved in with a 16 yr old boy and his family allowed it.  We have helped them out of jams because we feel sorry for the grandmother that they are living with and mooching off of.   They recently married and had a baby.
The husband has the education of a 6th grader and is lazy.  The grandmother coddles him and is trying to support them.  Our daughter does have a part time job.  Whenever she asks for help, and I say that he needs to work and support them financially she says that he does.  She just gets mad at me and thinks that he is wonderful.  She is very defensive.  I know that we should not help them financially.  Is there anything that we can do to help her help herself?  If anyone has any ideas I would appreciate it.

i know how you feel.where do we end & what are our rights?my daughter is married-11yr- & has 2 children that i usually babysit for full time. her husband is trying to keep a home maintenance  company going that caused his father to go bankrupt but he thinks he can make it work.she is a full time teacher.in the last year they have had their vehicle repossed-we gave them money to get it back-almost lost their house-we gave them money to save it.borrowed money from my mother to fix a truck for his business. they finally lost the house,  had the vehicle repossed for good, have not paid anyone back & haven't paid me-babysitting- for 10 weeks.if he does get a contract he doesn't get paid -so he says. they screw up the job, because he isn't good at this stuff & the 2 guys he hired drink & he drives around "getting new business" instead of staying & doing the work himself. he wants to "run the business not do the work." i finally told my daughter that i felt they would be better off him staying home to daycare & not worry about paying anyone-me.he had decided to get a job but says there are no office jobs out there. he is so not an office job person.so he is keeping the business-not- & now they are mad at me because of what i suggested.noi am not babysitting, they got his mother  who got fired from her job.& he pretends to run this business.Im so disapointed in her for not standing u to him, & for turning on me.

Is there anyone out there who has a spouse or someone they know who has lost their nose, top lip, upper palate, facial and forehead bones and part of their brain to  a cancer of any kind, especially, Ameloblastic carcinoma.

My husband lost all of that to this cancer and we haven't met anyone yet who suffers from this.I called the American Cancer society and they couldn't help.

It has been so hard. I think it would help to see, talk to and hear from others who have gone through this. We often feel so alone.