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Created on : Friday, August 31, 2007, 10:20:09 am
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Dr. Phil checks back in with Christy and Stacy, two squabbling sisters who captivated viewers and lit up the message boards! Christy thinks Stacy’s husband is a pedophile, and she reported them both to Child Protective Services for physical abuse and allegedly downloading child porn. The drama continued after the show. Find out what happened when the women returned home. Then, Christy and her husband, Alan, say the previous show was one-sided and portrayed them in a negative light. Dr. Phil gives the disgruntled guests a chance to air their grievances, but will Christy be appeased? And, Stacy’s children say their aunt’s allegations have turned their lives upside down. Hear why the youngest kids say they live in constant fear. Plus, both sisters take a four-hour polygraph test to see who’s really telling the truth. Tell us what you think!

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September 5, 2007, 12:03 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: kathyvan

The answers that were truthful about removing the computer with permission and that the sister had asked her for help.   The fact that she had not placed porn on their computer while it was in her possession.  I think that someone needs to look a little harder at this family.  The way I understood it  from these answers, is that the mom originally asked for her sister's help and thought that the computer may have contained porn or she would not have let her sister take it to check the hard drive.  I still don't know what to think about this show and who is really telling the truth!
The issue is not "did the computer contain porn?" (it did contain legal porn and Stacy considered it a marital deal breaker at the time; not unusual here in the Bible Belt).
 
September 5, 2007, 12:36 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: butterfly7926

As a sexually abused child (not by family members) I know the seriousness first hand.  I have experienced the long term effects and the life chaning event.  I feel there is enough proof and evidence to say that these children are not being physically or sexually abused.  The sister needs to mind her own business and leave them along.  Drop it and let this family heal.  The younger kids are paying for the situation and will continue to pay if she keeps dragging this on.    As a law enforcement officer you learn to tell by a persons actions, body language, choice of words the type of person they are.   The crazy sister showed her true colors yet again.   While the other was curtious, and a lot calmer than I would have been given the accusations towards my family.
As a sexually abused child (abused by both my father and my brother), I also know the seriousness of this first hand. I also know that my mother covered up for my abusive father and threatened me when I went to the authorities. I ended up not saying anything more about it. Authorities investigated, and even though my mother knew about the abuse and I was refusing to speak, CPS and the police found there was nothing substantiated. SO. For those of you who say that the authorities catch pedophiles, you are sadly mistaken. Often times they don't. Pedophiles are usually very charming. My father and brother are both active in their church, btw--and probably are abusing the children in the youth groups. Sleep soundly tonight.
 
September 5, 2007, 12:40 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: nanafor9

I've been in this situation and believe me, our problem was just like the sister who is doing the blaming and it has destroyed several relationships because it was all unfounded and our family member was a total drama queen - just trying to get attention.  It's much easier to just walk away from these types of people, change your phone number and leave no forwarding address and let it be.  If they continue to contact, report them for harrassment.  They can be evil people who need attention and will do anything to get what they want.  I believe that Stacy has been cleared by so many agencies/people that her sister needs to realize that SHE is the problem and needs to get counseling.  Of course, that doesn't always work because in my situation, our drama queen was told that the rest of us were "out to get her" and she was being mistreated.  Believe me - it's much easier to turn your back on it and forget they exist than continue to let them keep your life in an uproar! 
I've been in this situation too--as the crazy aunt. And let me tell YOU,  I called CPS on my brother because he is  evil, not because I am.  It would have been much easier for me to walk away and brush it under the carpet, but sometimes doing the RIGHT thing is not the EASIEST thing.


 
September 5, 2007, 12:48 pm CDT

Accusations

I am a 51 year old man. I met my wife 10 years ago. My first marriage. When we first met she was going through a divorce. I had always refused to be alone with her three daughters because I felt that I could never be accused of anything like abuse if there was never an opportunity to put myself in the situation. I know of situations in which innocent people have been destroyed by false accusations made for whatever reasons so I am always dubious of anyone making these kinds of claims, especially when children deny it. Sometimes we have to realize that some people have an agenda, sometimes ill conceived, and NOBODY can absolutely know all the facts.
 
September 5, 2007, 1:11 pm CDT

I hope this can be put to rest.

I'm so glad that DrP managed to get to the bottom of this and hopefully this family can move forward peacefully now. I find myself trusting the science of polygraghs. (IF they are administered by VERY experienced professionals) Christy,I hope you can move forward also. I don't think you're crazy. I just think you were very determined. And you indicated that you have a lot of baggage from your past. If you are able, try and feel good about the results of today's show. I really wish there could be some way that you and Stacey could be sisters again. Evidently you were close at one time. I only have 1 sister and I would be very sad to think that we couldn't have a good relationship. Our parents are gone now and we siblings are all we have left to cling to. Best wishes to all.
 
September 5, 2007, 1:11 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: zacademy

My only question or concern to this entire situation is "where was the father of these children and why was he not present on the show to defend such allegations?  If he really has nothing to hide, he should have been there in order to show his children that it is extremely important to stand up when you are right and have nothing to be ashamed of or to hide from.  Something is amiss when the wife (mother) and older children are the only representatives in a situation where allegations are against the father.  I hope and pray that these children can come through this ordeal with no scars.  As for dad...stand up old man and defend yourself...don't rely on your wife and kids to do it for you...what sort of lesson is that to them???!!!

I suppose the lesson would be that the false accusation of pedophilia is like a parasite that sucks the good name from a person and affects their ability to live in their community and earn a living.  Gee, I can't imagine why he would not want to have his face on TV with "accused pedophile" under his face - go figure...
 
September 5, 2007, 1:20 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: ydoiwatch

Clearly, Christy is mentally ill. I found the follow-up show to be quite upsetting, actually. I don't think that Dr. Phil should waste his time (or mine) producing a show to answer the unfounded accusations of clearly disturbed people. (Even in the name of "fairness") Her whining that she needed Dr. Phil to meet with her personally and privately was the icing on the cake. Folks, it's all about a really messed up woman needing public validation to quiet the demons in her private life.

 

In the future, I think that it would be advisable for the Dr. Phil staff to screen guests a bit more thouroughly. Folks already under the care of a therapist should be approached warily. I don't like tuning in to be taken on a ride by a mental case. I just hope her sister is able to pull together her marriage and her family...good luck with that Stacy.

Let's be clear here.  Stacy went to Christy in the first place because of her finding porn in her husband's possession.  You will never convince me that abuse is NOT taking place in that home until I see her husband strapped to a lie detector machine.  As a victim of sexual abuse by a family member, I can tell you that I will deny, deny, deny to this day (35 years later) if confronted about it.  Putting your children on TV to deny that their father is a pervert does not convince me one bit. 

 

 
September 5, 2007, 1:25 pm CDT

09/05 Family Follow-up

Quote From: manofgoods

First of all, I'm glad to hear the results of this tests & that they can finally put this all to rest. Second, for those of you who are wondering where Stacy's husband is, don't forget that both of them have nine kids to take care of. He can't just leave them behind, because who is going to look after them? Duh!
I hope this is sarcasm.  A man that does not take a polygraph himself to deny these allegations should not be watching the children. 
 
September 5, 2007, 1:30 pm CDT

Sisters

I hope that Stacy  can go home today with a warmed heart that her and her family will be free of this crazy mess she has been in with her sister... God bless her and her kids ... They are the ones that are suffering ....Good luck Stacy and kids.
 
September 5, 2007, 1:32 pm CDT

I believe it's time someone investigates Christy

I feel so very badly for Stacy's family.  Christy--no matter how much she may deny it--obviously has some significant emotional issues.  If there were child abuse actually going on in this family, I would fully support Christy's efforts, but there is not the tiniest bit of evidence to support her accusations.  Christy's actions are harassment, pure and simple, and I hope that Stacy will make use of every law in her state, both criminal and civil, to put a permanent stop to her sister's behavior. 
 
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