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Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Created on : Friday, September 07, 2007, 03:33:20 pm

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(Original Air Date: 09/12/07) Affairs, fights, lies and dark secrets are tearing a family apart. Brandon and Amy have been married for 2 1/2 years and have three children. One year into their marriage, Brandon was caught having an affair with their teenage nanny. Was she the only one, or did he cheat with others? The couple's tumultuous relationship reached a breaking point when Amy, who said she feared for her life, obtained a restraining order against Brandon. What led him to file divorce papers? Then, five months into the proceedings, their relationship reignited. Why did Amy let Brandon back into her life? Amy's parents and her ex-best friend, Heidi, say Amy's heading down the road to disaster. So why do they doubt Brandon's recent revelations? And, why does Brandon say Amy's ruining his reputation? Talk about the show here.

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soapydisher

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September 12, 2007, 3:32 pm PDT

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Wow. Your husband is saying all the right things, that he wants to work things out, be a happy family, these are the words we want to hear when there is trouble. I don't know your husband, I don't know you. If you have had enough of him and his disgusting affairs, then leave. There are men out there that aren't full of themselves and want to treat their woman and family like they should be treated....with respect. If your heart tells you that he is trying to change and that things will be better ( and that the words are not empty words) if you trust him to try and change and your heart still feels love for him, then give him a chance. You will never be able to trust him again, you will always wonder what he is doing, you will always doubt what he says to you, it won't be easy. I was married briefly to a man who was a womanizer. He didn't mind staring at other women, he didn't mind seeing other women when I wasn't around. He broke my heart. He said all the right words after a 6 month seperation, I went back. He continued his out of marriage behavior. When I finally left for good I felt like I had been set free. I could look at the world differently and not have to wonder what he said was true or not. It has definitely affected the rest of my life so far, but we as women have to do what our hearts tell us to do. My prayers are with you and your family, and I hope you are strong enough to make the best decision for your well being and be able to have self-respect. If we don't have self-respect for ourselves how can we expect our children to respect us? In my humble opinion your husband isn't through by any means with his extra marital flings. He is as cute as he can be and he knows it. Remember what Dr. Phil said on the show today that "this is NOT a dress rehearsal" this is our one shot at life.... I was lucky enough to get out of my first marriage without any children involved. I can also tell you this that had I had children, the man I have been married to for 27 years would have taken them on as his own. There are great men out there that won't do to you what your husband has done. I hope Dr. Phil will be able to get you and your husband some help and lead you in the direction that will be best for you and your children.

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thelynn

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September 12, 2007, 3:32 pm PDT

Deny, Deny, Deny!

The husband is in total denial of his actions and the consequences to those actions. He proclaims that he is a changed man - but he doesn't seem to want to accept much responsibility for what he has done. How can you change something you don't acknowledge? I hope Dr. Phil rips him a new one!

I actually hate to say this but I feel sorry for the wife. I can understand she wants her marriage to work but at what cost? The sense I got from todays show was that the husband is just talking the talk and walking the walk - basically "pulling the wool" over his wifes eyes once again!

The girlfriend (bless her heart) has good intentions of protecting her friend but she needs to un-involve herself, take about 100 steps back. She made the comment on todays show "we" need help - that struck me as a very odd comment. Maybe there is transference and she thinks "she's" his wife and he needs to answer to her.

Good Luck!!

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September 12, 2007, 3:33 pm PDT

WHAT'S SAID IN THE FIREHOUSE STAYS IN THE FIREHOUSE

I NOTICED SOME PEOPLE ASKING WHY BRANDON DOESN'T HAVE ANY OF HIS FRIENDS WITH HIM. THAT'S BECAUSE WHAT'S SAID AT THE FIREHOUSE STAYS IN THE FIREHOUSE. IF HIS BUDDIES WOULD HAVE COME TO SUPPORT HIM AND DR. PHIL ASKED ANY TOUGH QUESTIONS THEY WOULD BE MORE DAMNING TO BRANDON. I HOPE HIS WIFE REALIZES THAT HE IS JUST PLAYING GAMES WITH HER AND THAT IF SHE REALLY WANTS THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW MANY NANNIES HAVE BEEN WITH HER HUSBAND SHE SHOULD ASK AROUND THE FIREHOUSE. TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THE FIREHOUSE IS JUST LIKE THE LOCKER ROOM IN HIGH SCHOOL.

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darnel

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September 12, 2007, 3:33 pm PDT

Doomed Marriage

This marriage is doomed unless 3 things change:

1). The husband has to be honest with others, and more importantly, HIMSELF. It doesn't take a lie detector test to realize that this guy has not been honest about many things.

2). The wife has to be more stern, and stop accepting his behavior. She seemed like she was so easy to accept him back without any real significant change. She talks of divorce, but has lifted his restraining order, and is admitidly still intimate with him. She is making matters worse by not holding him accountable for his actions.

3). The best friend needs to BUTT OUT! I understand her concern for her best friend, but she really has no business in this matter. If this guy has any chance of changing, it will have to be without the best friend being present. The wife is a grown woman, and needs to make her own decisions without the opinions of her best friend interfering. The husband and best friend argue as if they are married.

THE SAD PART ABOUT THIS IS THAT CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED!

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September 12, 2007, 3:34 pm PDT

he`s lying

as a registered sex offender,i can tell you he is lying.the wifes friend is trying to run there lives she needs too stay out .

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tommycoleman

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September 12, 2007, 3:34 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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You are right the red head need to butt out. It sounds like she is jealous of her friends family.

But also the man needs to grow up accept his role in what is happening. Quit blaming others for his mistakes. He had the affair and will again. He more than likely came on to the friend. He protest to much in not liking her, finding her ugly. That is usually a sign that they are covering up an attraction. The wife had better watch the 2 of them and find out what really happened between the 2 of them. I hink they had an affair and are trying to hide it. Trying to hard that is, not liking each other, most times hides an attraction.

You may have a good point about the husband and friend.

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kaykwilts

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September 12, 2007, 3:35 pm PDT

That man is lying thru his teeth

I am not a trained pyschologist like Dr. Phil but even I can tell the man is lying thru his teeth. His wife knows he's lying so why is she wanting to preserve the marriage. He does the same thing over and over again according to the wife's friend. I don't reallyt think he has changed much. He still is trying to place the blame on everyone but himself. I hope if the wife takes him back she is on birth control. He just can't control himself from scr*wing the nannies.

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September 12, 2007, 3:37 pm PDT

Counselor is no help to him

He says at first he had no counselor,then on the show he does he thinks he has 2? How many counselors does one need?!!! He cant keep his story straight,looks like he isnt getting help the way he keeps on lying trying to cover his tale. I think she should just divorce him and leave him alone.DONOT RECONSIDER MARRIAGE WITH THIS GUY...Like you say "Are you kidding me?"

From Michelle

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kaykwilts

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September 12, 2007, 3:37 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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I am really good at reading people and I can tell the husband is lying and has no intention of changing. I think the wife doesn't speak up because she is so emotionally beat up and she is afraid of him. She somehow thinks she can't do better than that. Heidi is frustrated and can't stand to watch her friend be in this relationship. I don't blame her. The wife is enabling the husband if she stays with him after all the cards are laid out on the table. She needs her self-esteem to be built back up and a way to support her children to get out of this mess. I hope she listens to Dr. Phil.

My thoughts exactly!

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designsintime

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September 12, 2007, 3:38 pm PDT

Liar!!!

That man is the 1 of the biggest B.S.ers I've ever encountered. I've been on my own since I was 12, learned things the hard way. And I can see and smell BS long before it gets 2 me. The eyes are the window to the soul...and that man has none! No respect, no remorse, nothing. I wouldn't trust him with a rubber inflated woman! The smirk on his face tells the story, and Dr. Phil I know you saw it.

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