Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

Dr. Phil would say a child raping ax murder is a “good person” just misguided!     Regarding the Sept. 12th show.  A “man” who considers hosing down a child as an alternative to whipping, is just a child abuser!  Is that not one of the methods used in correction camps to correct their victims.  Why should this child suffer at the hands of this “good person”?  I can’t understand this man; and obviously do not subscribe to his interpretations; some people are just, (yes I’ll say it) rotten and don’t deserve the privilege of being around their children. 

    Because, the baby was adopted, he make me sick.

        .It's not her fault, and he is taking out on her, his work pressure, venting on her, and the mother looks like better you than me, my turn will be tomorrow, but it's only for good cause I get to be with the pretty boy. Just stay with me and you can beat my kids?!

I am an avid viewer of the Dr. Phil Show.  I Tivo the show because I work during the day. I usually agree with the advice of Dr. Phil but I was very disappointed in Dr. Phil concerning this show.  Dr. Phil should have told the "best friend" to mind her own business.  I don't know if others noticed, but the friend had much more to say than the wife.  When the husband made a comment, the friend would respond, not the wife.  Yes, the husband called the friend a "whore" but the friend called him names during the entire show.  Also, the friend said he made a pass at her a couple of times.  If this is true, why in the heck was she living in their house?  Also, the friend accused the wife of not seeing people for what they really are, but it seems the friend is running her own agenda.  She acts as if she is jealous of her friend's life.  The friend doesn't want the father to see the children, as if that's her decision to make.  The friend is very judegemental of her friend and appears to get upset if the wife doesn't agree with her comments.  Something is not right with that relationship.  The wife appears to be a little "weak".  She is listening to everyone's opinions, her parent's, husband, and friend's, and now it's difficult for her to know what to do.  I think the husband should "be a man" and own up to his mistakes, ALL OF THEM.  If the wife wants to take him back, well.........she's an adult and she has to live with the decisions she makes.  I do hope she thinks with her mind and not her heart!

I agree whole heartedly with the comparison of Brandon to Scott Peterson. After watching daily the Scott Peterson trial some years back, the similarities between Brandon's behaviour and personality, and Scott Peterson's, is alarming.

Anythng I've read about sociopaths, and I've done considerable research, thearpy does not help; the immoral behaviour, infidelity, and pathological lying is what you get. I do not profess to be all knowledgeable, or an expert, but I was married to what my research has lead me to believe, a scoiopath. In hindsight, I was very lucky. When the violence, and the premeditated meaness started, I had enough sense to ge out,. I do believe, if I had stayed in the relationship, I would have come to great harm. 

This guy is no more a "sociopath" than any other married guy who has affairs, and there are plenty of them; not many go on national TV and admit to it, however.  So most likely he wasn't getting any at home since she's "disabled" and all and succumbed to the temptation of a Lolita put right under his nose, 24/7, by the wife, no doubt, who's too lazy to care for her own children even though she presumably doesn't work outside the house (being "disabled" and all, but not too "disabled" to carry a baby car sear around as shown in the film clip).  Here I was wondering how they could afford a live-in nanny and nice house on a fireman's salary when I learned that she was "disabled" in a car crash (and did I hear the best friend was, as well)?  For "disabled" people, they seem to have a lot of energy...  These women have too much time on their hands.

I'd be interested to know how many of these dysfunctional people appearing on the show have actual jobs and how many are living off government handouts; looks like too many of the latter.

Dr. Phil,

I always admire the way you keep it "real", but I have to say I was disappointed that you let Brandon off the hook so easily without coming down on him a little harder.  I mean spraying his 5 year old daughter with the water hose?  Or cheating and lying repeatedly to his wife?  I understand that he's had a hard time in his life, but c'mon!  I sat there through the entire show just waiting for you to "do your thing" with him and it never came.  Heidi was way too involved in their personal lives and although her processes about life are not Amy's processes, that should have been said too.  I was frustrated and really wanted more accountability from all sides.  Just because Brandon showed up on national TV doesn't excuse him from having to take "your" medicine.

I hope someone will be keeping a very close eye on those kids and that you will follow up with this story.

Gina

No, I would not call him a sociopath, He is a LIAR. He thought he was actually going to pull one over on Dr. Phil by half way admitting to one little indiscretion with a past nanny, but that did not fly did it?

I was married to the best liar and cheater and like her I was stupid enough to continue to buy his ridiculous lies for two and a half years after I found who he really was. She has no idea how many times he has cheated on her and how many more times he will cheat on her if she stays. It is a matter of time before she walks away, she should save herself the heartache and leave now.

At least the father of my child the one that did all of that to me, came to me about 13 years later with a broken heart because he had been lied to and cheated on and he was devestated, and he wanted to let me know how sorry he was for treating me the way he did. I forgave him, but I had forgiven years before for the sake of my child.

To the avid drphil watcher.....tivo's the show.

Did we watch the same show?

There is something not right about that guy. He can say however many I'm sorry's he wants and admit to his partial role in the nanny escapade, and say he has acted badly in the past and he wants change but I do not buy his little made up story. He continually said the same things over and over and if most people could not tell that man was LYING, I have some ocean front property in Arizona just for YOU!

Your comment about the wife being weak is true, she is weak and she needs the help of her friend to get out. Perhaps her friend is not handling the situation in the best way, but she is on the outside looking in and she can see him for the lying SOB he is. She is tired of seeing him hurt her friend and making a fool of her friend.

As a children's advocate, that man should only have supervised visitation with his children, if that.

I did not see the second show, but if he broke down crying and admitted all of his sins, she probably stayed with him, but it won't be long before he is at it again. A tiger's stripes rarely change!