Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

I cant find a place on the message boards to find out where DrPhil has moved to...

He use to come on at 10am on our network....but for some reason i cant find him at all

Neone have ne advice on how i can find out what channel and time??? he comes on????

Thanks soo much!!

     I was a teenager too. (I know it is hard to believe).

             I tried everything to get my way and get away with it. It seamed like a good idea at the time. I was not allowed to have a job.

        My mom used to say :"You going to work rest of your life!" and she was right.

      The only problem in my teenage life was my father, he was very strict and he watched me like a      eagle.

       I hated it and now I know it was only for good cause.

       He prevented me of making a lot of mistakes.

My biggest concern is the children. Having a father who lies and threatens and cheats and a mother who can't make up her mind about him, even after she filed a restraining order and feared for her life. I think she needs to take a minute and think, is she really putting her kids first? I understand that people make mistakes and can change, but isn't there such a thing as too many second-chances? For one thing, if your husband made remarks about being able to get away with your murder, I would want to keep him as far away from my kids and myself as I could. Saying stuff like that is just not normal. And putting holes in the walls is obviously a sign that he has a violent temper and could lose control and really hurt someone in his family. And giving painkillers to the nanny? Brandon obviously has a lot of issues. I think it's great that Amy gave him the chance to change, but to me he seems fake and unable to keep his story straight. I don't think he's changed at all, but just wants to get back with his wife. If I were her I would divorce him and not take him back. As was said on the show, he had cycles of hurting his wife, then apologizing and promising to never do it again, and then doing it again anyway. I don't think he's going to change any time soon, and until he does, I think she should get him out of her life and concentrate on raising her kids. He would be more of a threat than a help as far as raising his children.

And as for the best friend, I'm glad that she's involved as much as she is and supporting her best friend. I think if he made those remarks about getting away with killing Amy and punching holes in the wall, she and her kids are in danger and Heidi could not be involved enough. And since he talked to Heidi about putting his wife in a cement block and not to mention hit on her, she has every right to speak her mind and try to help Amy. If it were just marital arguments and there were no indications of potential violence or children involved, then that would not be as much of her business. Because Amy feared for her life, she should be doing what she can to protect herself and her children and keep Brandon away. But since she is not, I think the children are potentially at risk and Heidi and Amy's parents have every right to be as involved as they are. Someone needs to think of the children.  

Brandon - A classic con man.  He twists what he says to fit the situation and has gotten very good at it.  He also tries to deflect the blame and make it about anyone but himself...."i will make myself look better, by making everyone else look bad".  Heidi is just feeding in to this.  I believe he is very good at regurgitating(sp?) what counselers or other people have said to him....although, he almost didn't get that right.  I saw no emotion from him about his marriage or kids...only when he was in the "hot" seat.  He is still a selfish man.  I saw no tail between his legs, which is where he should be right now.

Amy - He feeds off of you because you have little self esteem.  You are a beautiful woman and deserve much more....I know that is cliche, but I haven't seen any evidence of Brandon treating you the way a women should be treated.  Like a queen...and nothing less.  I have only seen excuses and ...well, more excuses.  I know that there is so many more levels to your situation, but sometimes taking a step back and looking at the big picture is the best way.  Dr. Phil was a great move.  You may have faults too, but no matter, it is never a reason to be treated the way you were.

Heidi - Tough love is not what your friend needs.  Nor does she need you bashing her "husband".  She needs someone that can boost her confidence.  Putting Brandon down, doesn't help Amy out.  It only makes her feel worse....after all, it was her decision to be with and to stay with him...so aren't you putting her down too? ...indirectly?  She is all alone, support her and be with her no matter what, but let her know that her family and everyone will still love her even if she takes those kids away from their father.  They will be better off in the long run.

Exactly. The 18 year old has her whole life ahead of her, & she, & the other nannies who he had sexual relations with all have their lives ahead of them. They don't need to be blamed, & they certainly don't need to be taken advantage of men like him. I'm glad that she's 18, because if she wasn't, he would already be in jail for statutory rape, & he will deserve it. There will be more of this tomorrow, & I'm anxious to see how all of this ends.