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Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Created on : Friday, September 07, 2007, 03:33:20 pm

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(Original Air Date: 09/12/07) Affairs, fights, lies and dark secrets are tearing a family apart. Brandon and Amy have been married for 2 1/2 years and have three children. One year into their marriage, Brandon was caught having an affair with their teenage nanny. Was she the only one, or did he cheat with others? The couple's tumultuous relationship reached a breaking point when Amy, who said she feared for her life, obtained a restraining order against Brandon. What led him to file divorce papers? Then, five months into the proceedings, their relationship reignited. Why did Amy let Brandon back into her life? Amy's parents and her ex-best friend, Heidi, say Amy's heading down the road to disaster. So why do they doubt Brandon's recent revelations? And, why does Brandon say Amy's ruining his reputation? Talk about the show here.

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joey11

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September 12, 2007, 4:36 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

I think people have forgotten what the important things in life are and that is Family, Faith, Respect and Love. I think it is crucial to have these in order to live a fulfilling and nurturing life. I don't know these people personally so I cannot judge them one way or the other. Everyone has weaknesses but it is important to have boundaries. I think that he doesn't have much respect or love for himself and if this is the case then if he doesn't have it for himself he wont have it to offer to anyone else. I hope that they can work things out which ever way they decide to go and maybe this situation will encourage them to both grow in a more positive and productive manner to be good parents to their children. Life is too short to spend it unhappy. My advice to them is to both do some heavy duty soul searching and live life the fullest.

Good Luck.

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angel2008

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September 12, 2007, 4:40 pm PDT

He will never change and he is very dangerous

I really hope Amy reads this message board. Brandon is a controlling, manipulative person who hides most of his behavior from his wife and friends. It is very unlikely Brandon has any male friends. He would feel threatened by male competition. Brandon has probably slept with over 30 women or more. The women who called in 1999 were telling the truth. He goes after the nannies because they are young and innocent, he is preying on them and any women who are insecure or he can control or convenience that he is wonderful. He believes is good looking and irrestible, and smart. He is playing game and is always playing a game. He would make a pass at your best friend to prove every women wants him. I know someone just like him, he slept with over 100 women, including his wife's best friend, sister, neice, and mother. He slept with high school students, he was a teacher. When he first started his career as a teacher he got a 14 year old pregnant, but he convinced his community for years he was innocent, until he messed with the wrong daughter. He was forced to retire at an early age. There is a lot more to this man's story. The bottom line is you are not alone and you need to be strong for your children and divorce him and ignore him. Some women believe it is better to deal with the devil you know and to keep them happy. You deserve better and from I what I see you have friends and family that can help you. It will be very difficult because there will be charm and violence from Brandon because he needs to be in the control. You need to learn the law. The piece of paper means nothing. He is a liar and has not changed, simply playing a game and believes everyone is a fool. He does not know what love means and no therapy or about of love you give him will change him. He is a devil. Good Luck!

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tinygoddess

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September 12, 2007, 4:42 pm PDT

I felt the same thing

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The friend has me puzzled a little....while I don't doubt that she does have some "emotional" investment in Amy, I wonder if she hasn't done more with Brandon that either of them are admitting to.....

She doesn't strike me as a true friend....

Here's why: a true friend would know boundaries....she doesn't seem to know them.....overstepping too much into their marriage...

a true friend would not withdraw love and support.....and stop talking to her friend....she might set some boundaries for herself....because it is, after all, hard to watch someone putting themselves into a destructive situation.....but she seems to have gone beyond that point....

she might have limited her conversations.....etc....and just said, "You know, it's hard for me to see you so much in turmoil with Brandon....you know what my opinion is of him....but you need to get off the fence and make a decision and stick with it.....I won't be your audience to helping you kill yourself....but....I am here for you if you are wanting something better for yourself....." A true friend would lead, but not judge....

I think Heidi is HIDING something.....

I felt the the same way about Heidi. I kept thinking to myself what is going on with her. I have a friend that is going through a cheating husband right now. He wants to leave and she wants things to work out with them. (I have my own opinions of cheating men) I told her I loved her I understood what she is going through I would be there for her no matter what she decided. That is not how a true friend treats a friend that is hurting. Something just does not fit here.

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psychomommy

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September 12, 2007, 4:44 pm PDT

Nanny Affair

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Which girlfriend? Amy's friend or the string of nannies this guy slept with?

Amys friend of course. Didn't you read. He is wromg no doubt but if the girlfriend wasn't involved maybe the wife would of turned to him instead of him turning elsewhere.

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September 12, 2007, 4:48 pm PDT

Sociopathic Behavior

I believe the Fireman has no conscience, will never have one. I think he has banked on his charm and good looks all his life. Will do or say whatever it takes to keep him in his comfort zone. I feel the Wife is a doormat and knows in her heart and brain that he is using her up emotionally and physically and that it will never get any better. I want to go through the tv screen and take Fireman by the throat and make him admit that he doesn't love or care about anyone but himself. I also live in a similar stiuation sans the cheating. I want to scream at Wife to run from him. Forget his boyish charm, forget the timber of his lying voice. If Fireman, at this age, needs to hear advice on how he should behave from HIS parent, he does not feel the natural love a parent should feel for his child and in the long run will hurt all of them because he can not feel love! He feels no remorse no guilt, so that he can easily deny everything he has done that is not moral, legal, or abnormal! Anyway, I hope Dr Phil exposes Fireman's true motives for staying in his relationship. Wife's girlfriend needs to back off from the whole affair. Girlfriend has expressed her concern to her friend and should now let the professionals and the couple deal with the situation. If she cannot stay friends whithout interjecting her opinion then maybe she should back away from Wife period. Otherwise just be there for a shoulder to lean on and be a sounding board, no more.

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heerank

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September 12, 2007, 4:48 pm PDT

SHE IS BLIND

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He was sleeping with the TEENAGE nanny??? Isn't that... against the law down there in the States? Wouldn't that be classified as statutory rape? (Hm... guess I'll have to wait for the show to get the answers to THOSE questions...)

Anyway, I say once a cheater, always a cheater. I wouldn't bother with him. Of course, there are kids in the equation as well, and that would complicate things significantly wouldn't it? Hmmm.... Looking forward to seeing this one!!

Nightangel1282

This guy is completely ridiculous -- so immature, uncaring, and will not accept his responsibility in all this. He keeps deflecting the questions. His wife is the worst, though. How STUPID do you have to be to see this kind of behavior over and over and still believe he might change? She needs a lot of help. I feel bad for her friend, who is obviously trying to help open her shut eyes. The guy is a CAD. Plain and simple. This one is driving me crazy! WAKE UP LADY. YOU MARRIED A JERK.

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September 12, 2007, 4:49 pm PDT

Heidi

If Heidi is a 'former friend' then why doesn't she step out. This couple does seem to need help, what they don't need is a meddling third party. Heidi, get a life and get your nose out of their marriage.

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bobmarley72

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September 12, 2007, 4:49 pm PDT

PLEEEEAAAASE!!!!

Divorce his @%*!!!!!

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nancyts

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September 12, 2007, 4:50 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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I am with you. Mr. Psych. I am a psychologist myself and believe this young man, Brandon, is one sick puppy! With any luck, Dr. Phil will arrange for a thorough psychiatric assessment and treatment services for Brandon and a good divorce lawyer for his soon to be ex-wife... Dr. J in Alberta, Canada

DR. J.

AMEN AND AMEN...

NANCYTS

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heerank

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September 12, 2007, 4:50 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Her friend, Heidi, is a good friend, I think. She is sick of the woman being completely BLIND to her ridiculous, immature husband.

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