Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

Dr. Phil,

Seriously, how many people are in this marriage? Heidi needs to stay out of her friends home and business.  I understand that she is just trying to be a friend, however, when there are multiple people living in your home, there is no privacy and really how can you get to know your spouse even better if there is a nosey friend living IN the home.  Heidi is not supporting her friend, she is telling her how to live, what to say and do.  I'm surprised she doesn't tell her what time to go to bed and wake up. Even if she is right about the husband, she needs to be around for her friend when she makes her final decision, no matter what the outcome!

A true friend sticks by your side, yeah a person must have boundaries but to cut off your best friend comletely b/c they aren't making choices u think is right, is upsurd....Amy probably needs Heidi most right now, more than ever.  You doin't have to have dinner with the 2 but be there emotionally for your friend, your gonna need her someday when she doesn't agree with your decisions.

YOU MADE  A VERY GOOD POINT. I NEVER THOUGHT OF EVEN AFTER SEEING THURS. PREVIEWS HIS

APPARENTLY HAD  ALLEGEDLY  MULTI. AFFAIRS WITH   NANNIES.  KNOWING THIS WHY DOES SHE KEEP HIRING THEM? DR. PHIL, NOW THERE'S ONE ONLY FOR YOU!!

MY PERSONAL OPINION, THERE IS ALOT OF PATH OLOGY IN THIS TRIO...

SINCERELY,

NANCYTS

Hi, I just wanted to say that I saw the show today, & I was floored this so called father/husband was sleeping with the 18 year old nanny.  It is bad enough when one spouse goes out and is unfaithful out of the home but in the home, with the person that is watching the kids.  The thing that I wonder about, is did the kids see any of this, cause they are feeling the backlash of it, wondering why daddy is there all the time?????  All I got to say is, I hope you had fun because you screwed up your marriage & your family, I hope it was worth it.  Giving her ( the nanny) narcatics...that's just low, and slimy.  If you where my husband I would have kicked your ass to the curb back in '99, when those woman where calling your wife!!!!!  The thing is, is that Amy will not be able to trust him, respect him as a husband, & that is a big thing in a marriage.  I think this nanny should have known better to, she is after all 18 and what ever ages the other ones were.  If you are working as a live in nanny you know there are married, your job is to watch the kids not the husbands!!!!!!!!

I hope you learned from this Brandon but I still think you are scum!!!!!

The nanny was in a subordinate role to the husband who was an employer by definition.  If he was inducing/seducing her with pain meds and flirtatious interaction:

1.) as a father he should know the nanny was a poor influence/caretaker of his children if she had a drug problem/interest in recreational drug abuse;

2.) he would be guilty of violating Federal controlled substances laws and contributing to the delinquency of a young person;

3.) his actions as a boss/superior with someone of such inexperience in the work world would be considered harrassment at least, and sexual exploitation of an employee.  It is a form of coercion to be in the employ of someone who is abusing you, and confusing for a young person who is inexperienced in both sex and workplace politics.  When a girl is that age, she is concerned about being accepted/liked and performing her job.

Bottom line, he is a predator of everyone around him.  Yes, the babysitter's behavior was immature and misguided, but that is what makes him even more culpable, as the adult and BOSS he should have had the better judgement.  It sounds like he was encouraging and playing along with the flirting because he is in love with a warped idea of himself and what sex is about.

BTW, DRIVING does not equate to MATURITY, this case is proof...