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Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Created on : Friday, September 07, 2007, 03:33:20 pm

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(Original Air Date: 09/12/07) Affairs, fights, lies and dark secrets are tearing a family apart. Brandon and Amy have been married for 2 1/2 years and have three children. One year into their marriage, Brandon was caught having an affair with their teenage nanny. Was she the only one, or did he cheat with others? The couple's tumultuous relationship reached a breaking point when Amy, who said she feared for her life, obtained a restraining order against Brandon. What led him to file divorce papers? Then, five months into the proceedings, their relationship reignited. Why did Amy let Brandon back into her life? Amy's parents and her ex-best friend, Heidi, say Amy's heading down the road to disaster. So why do they doubt Brandon's recent revelations? And, why does Brandon say Amy's ruining his reputation? Talk about the show here.

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mrswayne

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September 12, 2007, 9:52 pm PDT

Who is divorcing who

Regardless of what has happened in the past, the husband is divorcing the wife. He is asking for help to rekindle his marriage after his mistakes in his judgement. She will either accept him as is or get on with her life.

The wife is wanting to give him a second chance. He is divorcing her, she is not divorcing him for all of his mistakes. Doesn't look like she is in control of anything.

Of course, if he does, she will have to figure out how she will support herself and her children in the fashion she is accustomed.

I think they should part ways and keep focused on getting healthy emotionally. I realize they have children, but sometimes it would be best at this time if they divorce and get their act together. If it is true love, weeks, months, or even years will only bring them together if it is meant to be.

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hunkleheimer

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September 12, 2007, 10:01 pm PDT

BRAVO !!

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I was going to say that Dr. Phil let the husband off easy tonight (Wednesday), but it looks like he really goes after him on the Thursday show. Good.

The guy reminds me of Scott Peterson, emotionally immature, self-centered and narcissistic, always ready with an excuse for his bad behaviors, unable to keep all his lies straight. A pathological liar, probably a sociopath.

And his wife is sick in her own enabling/dependent/rationalizing way. Too bad for the kids.

The girlfriend needs to get away from this sick relationship and build a life of her own. The husband and wife will probably get back together until he takes that final step and buys the concrete.

Very well said ! I agree entirely !

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mijamarlow

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September 12, 2007, 10:03 pm PDT

Wow!

I watched the first of the two shows tonight and in the clips when he hugged her he just patted her back instead of giving her a full hug. He also seemed to smile when Dr. Phil asked him about the affair. I mean does that seem right? The kids are an important factor in this even though they aren't very old. I also feel that Heidi shouldn't be there on the stage because she, undoubtedly is Amy's friend, but this is between Amy and Brandon! I still think Amy should try to get a straight head on her shoulders. It is hard to let go of someone you love, but sometimes it is the right thing to do!

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turtle96

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September 12, 2007, 10:08 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Amy seems to be made out to be so innocent. I really just don't think so. As for Heidi, isn't there a reason she's no longer a best friend? Personally she seems a little to involved in this relationship. Tell her to get her own! While I do not condone infidelity, I surely don't think Amy is blameless for all the trouble here. Brandon does seem a bit arrogant, but doesn't he have a reason to feel a bit defensive? I keep hearing about all the things he needs to admitt to. What about Amy? I'm sure that he isn't totally responsible. As for Heidi, well...she is Amy's friend, therefore Amy is responsible for making her butt the hell out!

You are right...she is not innocent. You have a good radar.

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hunkleheimer

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September 12, 2007, 10:10 pm PDT

SOUNDS FAMILIAR...

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I am 20 years old and have a beautiful baby girl in which her father was abusive to me. I got out of the relationship before she was even born b/c I don't want her raised around that. So my thing with "The Nanny Affair, Part 1" is that not only has he cheated on her with a teenager and even more nannys is that he is abusive towards Amy mentally, verbally, and prob. even abusive. He has treatened her more times than she can count most likely. So Amy why put up with it? I understand where the best friend is coming from but she doesn't need to not talk to Amy what Amy needs is someone to talk to. And Amy, you need to get a grip on life, you have children, do you really want your kids raised around this person? I know what love is and I know what being abused and cheated on feels like from experience. If I can walk away from it when I was 18/19 years old and stand my ground for my child then you can for yours. Being a single-mom, going to school full-time, and working is a hard job and yea sometimes I wish my daughter's father was here but it ain't worth my daughter being put through all that pain or growing up thinking its ok for her dad to act that way. Do you honestly think this is healthy for your kids or yourself? Just leave him because regardless of how many times he says he will change, he ain't evenually that same part of him will come out and next time you may really be dead and then your kids are left without a mom. THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS if you ain't going to think of anyone else. And if he is going to change then let him do it alone. Its going to take years to fix his problem if he can even be fixed.

From experience...

I had the same experience that you did and was a single mom going back to school. I graduated with a BA in 2000 and I'm now 37 and remarried. I've often said I'd like to shake the hand of the women he cheated with because if I hadn't been for her, I might not have seen his true nature so early on in our relationship. My current marriage is wonderful and I've been married for 12 years. I hope she starts to see him for his true self but she might not until she gets some self esteem. Congrats to you on your strength! We are women, hear us roar!!!

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iareme41

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September 12, 2007, 10:22 pm PDT

Nanny Affair

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He was sleeping with the TEENAGE nanny??? Isn't that... against the law down there in the States? Wouldn't that be classified as statutory rape? (Hm... guess I'll have to wait for the show to get the answers to THOSE questions...)

Anyway, I say once a cheater, always a cheater. I wouldn't bother with him. Of course, there are kids in the equation as well, and that would complicate things significantly wouldn't it? Hmmm.... Looking forward to seeing this one!!

Nightangel1282

Take it from someone who has been there done that, he will never change. Run fast and run far. He wouldn't make a pimple on a good mans hindend.

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gilly_pillie

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September 12, 2007, 10:22 pm PDT

WHAT ARE YOU ON?

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Finally, a person of true reason.

Thank you

HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT? THE NANY CLAIMS TO HAVE BEEN RAPED BY THIS MAN, AND ANOTHER CLAIMS TO HAVE BEEN PROPERSITIONED BY HIM. DR. PHIL DOESNT EVEN BELIEVE THAT THIS WAS A ONCE OFF.

DID YOU NOT NOTICE THE PART WHERE AMY SAW BRANDON PUTTING PAIN KILLERS IN THE MOUTH OF THE NANNY, OR THAT ANOTHER NANNY QUIT BECAUSE HE ASKED HER FOR A BLOW JOB? WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU ON?

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greengabels

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September 12, 2007, 10:25 pm PDT

The Firefighter and Amy have to work together for the sake of the children

How vile is Heidi to continue to stir the pot while this family is being destroyed.

Who is the real devil??? HEIDI is a mess! stalking her friends house?

I am not saying this husband has given his wife any reason to take him back, or deserves to be taken back but as the parents of two children they will always have some type of relationship. Is Heidi going to be around when the children are crying for their father? Or when the children go away to their father's new home?

Th husband is on national TV being made a fool all to save his marriage. That should count for something. He really needs help. He has anger issues, and communication issues. But marriage works best with out a condemning audience. Some people do not change. Some people do. Who is Heidi to say that the intimacy of a marriage can not be restored.

The wife is so torn between what her heart says to do, and what outside sources are telling her. She needs to learn how to communicate too. She cant take her guard dog with her everywhere. Heidi needs to go back to the dog house.

I would lash out against someone who constantly keeps bringing up my deepest regrets, and flaws- just like the husband.

Dr. Phil please get rid of Heidi, and help this couple communicate better, and get out of the vicious cycle.

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turtle96

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September 12, 2007, 10:29 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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women that have abused for this long are trained not to speak and she just sits there because she is afriad of the idiot talking beside her. seen it for years and years of abused people.

I would agree with you in a different circumstance. I happen to know both of these people, and you are not seeing the whole picture. I wish I could share what I know. Like I said before, my main concern is for the children....not these self absorbed, spolied people. They both need individual therapy.

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lea0476

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September 12, 2007, 10:31 pm PDT

Who is he kidding?

When Brandon became defensive I knew he was not being honest, he is only going through the motions because that is what he does best, and she is falling for it, he is smug and arrogant and has not changed one bit, however, the friend needs to be a friend and butt out. The first time he hit on Heidi 8 yrs. ago should have given all of them a clue to his personality. Why do women think they can't do better than what they have?

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