Quote From: truth2knowTrying to figure out the truth from this guy is equivalent to splitting hairs on a dead horse. He has no integrity with himself, and that is no kind of person to try to partner a lifelong stability and journey with.
If he were serious about counseling and the life-changes that he needs to make, he would be going on a regular frequency of at least once per week with additional group meetings. It would be a large part of his life, and he would show commitment to it. He is rather flippant about his efforts, and is very arrogant about being accountable for his time and effort. This tells me he takes not only others but his own time and effort lightly, and it is just motions with no earnest intent. He is obviously very immature and emotionally and cognitively incapable of an honest relationship. He seems to be telling stories in order to make a believable facade, to tell people what he thinks they want to hear.
He has already destroyed all that was good in his life, and he is now seeing that what he has to lose is much more inconvenient to him than trying to salvage what remains and live the charade. He is willing to admit only enough to make him appear accountable without taking full responsibility for his behavior. He redirects conversation to shift blame and attention away from his culpability. His case and personality is very similar to the rash of fathers who killed their wives and families in the spring of 2007 in order to "be free" and get out of paying child support. It is only a matter of time and his ability to sneak around when he acts out and gets caught again. He would rather lie to his wife and make her entire life a lie for his own vile convenience.
Shall we list them? Lacey Peterson is one...
This woman is being totally blind and deaf to the blaringly obvious signs that this guy is a sociopath willing to risk the sanctity and lives of others to indulge his carnal and narcissistic sicknesses, and then be able to live with himself and expect forgiveness without empathy. He is in denial about many acts that he is only alluding to, he is a liar about things he has admitted and things he will not, and he is sick in many ways. For anyone to discuss how he would kill and dispose of a person is a premeditation of a violent homocidal act which has yet to occur. She is in danger in my opinion, and it is only a matter of time before he totally unravels. Children, marriage, and family are a lifelong labor of love which fewer people are capable of, and some should never consider because they are too sick and will never have the capacity or the will.
Narcissism and his other aberrant personality traits are not conducive to fatherhood or husbandhood, and will be a lifelong battle for him even when he decides to take his illness seriously and do something about it for real.
All he has really done is figured out how to tell a good story and put up a facade that is good enough to fool the one person whose decision matters ultimately in the direction his life will take.
No matter what he says or does now, any man who is capable of cheating on a wife at all, let alone within months of having their baby, while she is recovering from a car accident and surgeries, is sick, unstable, unprepared and incapable of participating as a husband and father in the reality of a marriage, or in reality at all. What he did is a direct reflection of what he is inside, and he is a vacuous, heartless sexual predator and opportunist.
She is young, beautiful, a wonderful caring mother with a great family and friends who DEARLY care about her, and she can much more easily move on and be her best without him rather than struggle through a trying and destructive relationship with his sicknesses. I hope she can accept the futility of this guy and move on cleanly, and be in deep and genuine connection with her family and friends and raise those children in the best way. Men these days are warped by the many sexually deviant influences and sexual entitlement that persists in this culture, and it is best to stay away from those that exhibit any of these signs. In the distant future, after she balances her life to focus on her children and her wellness, she may find a man in her life. Believe me, a life without men is much more fulfilling than trying to be in a relationship with a bad, lying man. She should divorce him and work on herself as an independent woman and mother and live like there is nothing else to want.
There are so many guys like him out there, it is really a social disease beyond the scope of this show. If that is any consolation to her, she should find strength in the numbers of other women who have had to make similar choices. There is a lot of support for her in her family and friends. But she should always protect herself, because these kind of guys are the ones who take revenge and take the lives of the women and children they want to control for their own needs.
(Original Air Date: 09/12/07) Affairs, fights, lies and dark secrets are tearing a family apart. Brandon and Amy have been married for 2 1/2 years and have three children. One year into their marriage, Brandon was caught having an affair with their teenage nanny. Was she the only one, or did he cheat with others? The couple's tumultuous relationship reached a breaking point when Amy, who said she feared for her life, obtained a restraining order against Brandon. What led him to file divorce papers? Then, five months into the proceedings, their relationship reignited. Why did Amy let Brandon back into her life? Amy's parents and her ex-best friend, Heidi, say Amy's heading down the road to disaster. So why do they doubt Brandon's recent revelations? And, why does Brandon say Amy's ruining his reputation? Talk about the show here.
