Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

I'm no therapist but it seems to me that all three of these people need counseling.  I sincerely hope that Dr. Phil muzzles Heidi for Part II.  She's really annoying with all of her interuptions.  I understand that she's loyal to and supportive of Amy, but good grief!!  She needs to butt out and maybe ask herself why she's so emotionally vested in this marriage that  is not hers.

Brandon seemed to be lying and trying to keep his story straight - and failing miserably.  Just own up to what happened and move on.  If he's really changed then prove it.  He needs to be a man and admit what (and all) that he's done...accept the consequences of his actions and go forward.  He should continue counseling (like he says he has) or if  he's  stopped, say so and start back again.

Amy has some issues as well that she needs to address.  Brandon mentioned an affair -sounds like this couple has been in trouble for awhile now. 

And what is with all the pain pill taking between the two of them?  That can surely cloud your judgement as well as make communication pretty difficult.

As for the nanny, I don't care if she paraded  half naked, he still could have said 'no.  I know, I know, she's legal at 18 but that doesn't mean she has the knowledge and experience to make good decisions. And if he did indeed drug her, he should be in jail.

Part II shouldbe interesting....

  Although I believe Brandon is a liar and a cheater.... I  also believe that the best friend needs to get out of their home and  out of their marriage...and stay out!!  It is very obvious she has nothing but contempt for her best friend's husband...with good reason...BUT could it also be there is some jealousy because her best friend's attententions are now focused on family first? (pardon the pun, Dr Phil)  I am in no way condoning what Brandon has done . but if he is sincere in his words of trying to change, his actions will eventually either prove or disprove it.  However, the marriage stands zero chance of getting back on track as long as there  are friends and family who are way tooooo personally involved.  I think both people in this marriage need to grow up and realize it is NOT about them any more...it is about the kids.

As Princess Di once said of her marriage.. "There were three people in this marriage."

It is time for the best friend to stay out of their lives...

Brandon needs to get counseling...and lots of it before Amy even begins the slightest consideration of a reconciliation....as well as counseling together.  Then and only then, can the process of healing and reconciliation begin.

I too think this absurd generalization is unfair and mean spirited.  Not all teenagers are immature and irresponsible.  And it sounds like you have taken the necessary steps to insure that you are capable of being trusted with someone's children.  I commend you for your character.

We have a 22-year-old daughter who at 18 would have also been more than capable of taking care of someone's children.  She has always been responsible and caring but she was far too involved at school and in sports to have the time to be a nanny.  As well we have taught her to have some self worth and know that she doesn't need the attention of an older, married man to feel good about herself.  This obviously wasn't the case with the 18-year-old nanny involved with this couple, unless of course these drugging accusations are correct. 

And frankly you and my daughter and the majority of her friends sound far more mature than any of the adults involved in this situation, including the best friend that is far too involved with her friend's marriage. 

I wish you great success in whatever you wish to achieve with  your life and know that not all of us adults feel the same as this stereotyping poster.