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Topic : 12/26 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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Created on : Friday, September 07, 2007, 03:33:20 pm

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(Original Air Date: 09/12/07) Affairs, fights, lies and dark secrets are tearing a family apart. Brandon and Amy have been married for 2 1/2 years and have three children. One year into their marriage, Brandon was caught having an affair with their teenage nanny. Was she the only one, or did he cheat with others? The couple's tumultuous relationship reached a breaking point when Amy, who said she feared for her life, obtained a restraining order against Brandon. What led him to file divorce papers? Then, five months into the proceedings, their relationship reignited. Why did Amy let Brandon back into her life? Amy's parents and her ex-best friend, Heidi, say Amy's heading down the road to disaster. So why do they doubt Brandon's recent revelations? And, why does Brandon say Amy's ruining his reputation? Talk about the show here.

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womenoffaith

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September 14, 2007, 12:39 pm PDT

I really hated this show

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It says she was a teenager. Could be 18 or 19. Of course thats of age in Oregon.
Maybe they will say the age on the show.

I wonder why they didn't get one of Brandon's friends to be on the show????

I dont understand why if someone is on there wanting help, they cant just get it without being attacked again and again for things. The best friend and the wife both suck, best friend needs to go, I couldnt even watch the whole show so I dont even really know what happened toward the end of second show.

Why cant we talk about the weisely little wifes affair, I do not trust her at all. Sounds like they all had perscription pill problems and maybe the wife should stop always having to have someone live with them and get both of them counceling and let them get on with their lives and their family.

I am pretty sure there isnt a one of us who havent made mistakes but if you are ready to grow up and get past them then so be it.

Personally at this point, if I were Brandon, I would have already decided I dont want to be with her. It is really too bad there are kids involved otherwise he could really walk away.

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September 14, 2007, 12:48 pm PDT

I DVR the show daily as well

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To the avid drphil watcher.....tivo's the show.

Did we watch the same show?

There is something not right about that guy. He can say however many I'm sorry's he wants and admit to his partial role in the nanny escapade, and say he has acted badly in the past and he wants change but I do not buy his little made up story. He continually said the same things over and over and if most people could not tell that man was LYING, I have some ocean front property in Arizona just for YOU!

Your comment about the wife being weak is true, she is weak and she needs the help of her friend to get out. Perhaps her friend is not handling the situation in the best way, but she is on the outside looking in and she can see him for the lying SOB he is. She is tired of seeing him hurt her friend and making a fool of her friend.

As a children's advocate, that man should only have supervised visitation with his children, if that.

I did not see the second show, but if he broke down crying and admitted all of his sins, she probably stayed with him, but it won't be long before he is at it again. A tiger's stripes rarely change!

I was just able to watch it myself, couldnt even finish. I already sent one response in because I was also very disappointed. I totally worship Dr Phil in every way, I even got to see him on stage with his wife in Portland Oregon last year and thought I was surely going to die. He was on my screen saver even though you couldnt really tell it was him, it was so awesome. My husband makes fun of me because I live and breath him.

ANYWAY. to the point. The show was horrible and the best friend has to go and I dont care for the wife either. I really dont trust her., I think they all have pill problems and they all need counceling, give it to them and let them grow up past old mistakes and move on with life. We all make mistakes especially when younger but when you are ready to grow up and move on then do it.

If it wasnt for the children, I would want Brandon to tell her he doesnt want to be with her and move on, but since there is children involved can we get rid of the best friend and get the wife and husband in counceling and get on with it?

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Very frustrated with this show.

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September 14, 2007, 12:54 pm PDT

A sociopath?

This guy is a true sociopath! I have run into a few people in my life that come close, but have never seen one in action. This interview (excuses, excuses, excuses) was an eye opener for a lot of people, I think. Maybe he is not "the Devil incarnate" or truly "evil", but he is wired wrong. The only time I saw any awareness or pain in his face was when he was crying for himself. The wife (if she keeps him out of her life) will dodge a big bullet on this one and the kids will too. This guy is a man that takes advantage of young girls and is quite possibly a rapist. He should be defending himself in a courtroom, not defending (if you can call it that) himself to his wife and her best friend. His whole interview was nothing but a bunch of lies. If you watch his eyes, you can see the wheels turning while he wonders "how am I going to get out of this one", oh yeah, attack my wife and her friend and Dr. Phil too". There comes a point in life that you confront the past and grow as a person. This guy is a waste of skin.

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September 14, 2007, 1:07 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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This guy is no more a "sociopath" than any other married guy who has affairs, and there are plenty of them; not many go on national TV and admit to it, however. So most likely he wasn't getting any at home since she's "disabled" and all and succumbed to the temptation of a Lolita put right under his nose, 24/7, by the wife, no doubt, who's too lazy to care for her own children even though she presumably doesn't work outside the house (being "disabled" and all, but not too "disabled" to carry a baby car sear around as shown in the film clip). Here I was wondering how they could afford a live-in nanny and nice house on a fireman's salary when I learned that she was "disabled" in a car crash (and did I hear the best friend was, as well)? For "disabled" people, they seem to have a lot of energy... These women have too much time on their hands.

I'd be interested to know how many of these dysfunctional people appearing on the show have actual jobs and how many are living off government handouts; looks like too many of the latter.

Uhm, guess again. This guy IS a sociopath and quite possibly belongs in jail, not defending himself on national TV. I also think that your statement about "not getting any at home" says a lot about the type of person you are (yuck). She did after all just have a baby and was in a pretty bad car accident. Did you ever think she may have needed the assistance of a nanny, as her lazy, pig, narcissist of a husband probably could not be bothered to do anymore around the house then to yell and abuse his children. Seems to me your view of dysfunctional people is a little skewed.

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September 14, 2007, 1:47 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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There's a difference between an admission of a descretion and taking ownership for it.....

HE BLAMED EVERYONE ELSE FOR THE CHEATING.....

Taking responsibility for bad behaviour doesn't start with , "uh...ya caught me..." "okay, I admit it....

There were NO WORDS OF "I AM SOOO SORRY TO YOU AMY FOR DOING WHAT I DID".

THere was only MORE LYING....more excuses.....

Scott Peterson also told people about what "might have happened to Lacy"....You are still thinking this guy is NORMAL....he isn't....he's disordered...

The only time he shed tears was for HIMSELF when Dr. Phil pulled back some of the layers of his bad childhood.....

Children in this home will never be happy if Brandon is in it....because he's not a parent or a spouse, he's a little boy in a grown man's body who has learned how to manipulate people....and have no conscience about it.....

THAT IS WHAT A SOCIOPATH IS.

Her friend is a good person....she's sees him for who he is....and isn't fooled by his dog and pony show...

Amy doesn't love him....she loves the image that he shows her...and that isn't love.

The affair happend over 2 or 3 years ago, a lot of time has past and you still expect him to "shed tears" over it! And I really don't think her friend is a good person, why woudl they be having NO problems for the past 5 months and then wow all of a sudden they are when her friend appeared on the show! Everyone I've talked to about this show think her friend is an instigater and needs to get her own life and let these two figure things out for themselves! Dr. Phil pointed out why Brandon woudl act the way he has and Brandon is willing to work on it. You don't know what Brandon went through in his childhood and maybe it is hard for him. Oh ya and he took responsiblity for the cheating....he said he was at fault as well. I think he was on the show to talk about how to make himself a better person, a better husband and a better father and not focus on the affair that happend 2 or 3 years ago!! Amy has forgiven him for that so lets get over it! How can you know if the kids are happy or not, they weren't even mentioned. Their was one episode about Brandon hosing down his daughter instead of giving her a spanking when she was in trouble, and if that is the way he was raised then he wouldn't know any better! People always parent the way they were raised until they are told otherwise and learn to change their ways, WHICH BRANDON IS WORKING ON! Also Amy didn't stop him from doing this because she knew it was the way he was raised. Brandon is working on it so why don't you just give him the chance to try and change before you shut him down! Are you saying taht just because he has had bad choices in the past (which he admits too) he will always be a bad person! Maybe i'm just too optimistic but I think, if he is actually going to work at it let him have the chance. As for her friend, I'm sure if we did a show on her past she would need A LOT of help as well!

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September 14, 2007, 3:41 pm PDT

Friend in deed

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She said she had to pass her house on the way out of her developement ! She is lucky to have a friend who is concerned about her because she is obviously uinable to see through the idiot she is married to. SLOW J!

EXACTLY. DO THESE PEOPLE NOT LISTEN. SOMEONE NEEDS TO KEEP AN EYE ON THIS SITUATION ANYWAY. I THINK IF IT WEREN'T FOR THE CHILDREN, SHE SHOULD SAY GO FOR IT. IF THIS STUPID WIFE HAS NO BACKBONE, IF SHE THINKS THIS ( GARBAGE) IS ALL SHE DESERVES OR IF SHE IS SO DESPERATE LET HER HAVE THE JERK. HE APPARENTLY THINKS HE IS SOMETHING SPECIAL, (NEWS FLASH) HE IS WORSE THAN ROAD KILL. I GET SO UPSET WHEN PEOPLE CALL NO GOOD MEN (DOGS). DOGS ARE BETTER THAN THAT, THEY DO NOT NEED THE COMPARISON.

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September 14, 2007, 3:51 pm PDT

09/12 The Nanny Affair, Part 1

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The affair happend over 2 or 3 years ago, a lot of time has past and you still expect him to "shed tears" over it! And I really don't think her friend is a good person, why woudl they be having NO problems for the past 5 months and then wow all of a sudden they are when her friend appeared on the show! Everyone I've talked to about this show think her friend is an instigater and needs to get her own life and let these two figure things out for themselves! Dr. Phil pointed out why Brandon woudl act the way he has and Brandon is willing to work on it. You don't know what Brandon went through in his childhood and maybe it is hard for him. Oh ya and he took responsiblity for the cheating....he said he was at fault as well. I think he was on the show to talk about how to make himself a better person, a better husband and a better father and not focus on the affair that happend 2 or 3 years ago!! Amy has forgiven him for that so lets get over it! How can you know if the kids are happy or not, they weren't even mentioned. Their was one episode about Brandon hosing down his daughter instead of giving her a spanking when she was in trouble, and if that is the way he was raised then he wouldn't know any better! People always parent the way they were raised until they are told otherwise and learn to change their ways, WHICH BRANDON IS WORKING ON! Also Amy didn't stop him from doing this because she knew it was the way he was raised. Brandon is working on it so why don't you just give him the chance to try and change before you shut him down! Are you saying taht just because he has had bad choices in the past (which he admits too) he will always be a bad person! Maybe i'm just too optimistic but I think, if he is actually going to work at it let him have the chance. As for her friend, I'm sure if we did a show on her past she would need A LOT of help as well!

He does not deserve a chance, period. Geez, you just don't get that he took responsibility for none of what happened. There was just one excuse after another. He still sat and blamed everyone else, and then grudgingly took "50%" accountability with a lot of "buts" and "what about her".

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September 14, 2007, 4:30 pm PDT

This guy is in it for the money

This guy is a creep. He has not changed. I really think he wants to be back with her for the money. He will cheat again I think. I hope she is reading everything we all write, maybe this will open up her eyes. He was acting, but his act was fake.

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September 14, 2007, 4:36 pm PDT

BFF? Grow Up!~

I dont think this woman was as innocent as she made herself out to be and that nasty and demanding BFF needs to go and get her own man and mind her business. Dr.Phil needs to go back to doctor school for not telling that BFF to grow up and bud out. She obviously is a whore who didnt want to bring up her life but wanted to put the life of her friend "on blast" but when the guy was bringing up how they talked about eachother-both women tapped danced away from that> I dont think Dr.Phil did anything for this wife.

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September 14, 2007, 4:36 pm PDT

Mood Disorder

I think this guy has some classic signs of Bipolar or something else along the lines. If I were Amy I would get out of there. It will be hard on her but it would be worth it. I feel she nees to be the one to help break the cycle for her family (kids). It's easier said than done but there is help out there.. Good Luck..

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