Where I start? In my family we have all had to tip toe around my sister. Watching every word we say so she doesn't go off because once she gets started she physically and emotionally attacks, no matter what it's over.
On my husband's bday she went off because she said Happy birthday to him while he was in a conversation with his friend, he nodded and kept going on with what he was saying. She went off telling him how rude it was of him to do that. She went on to tell him how worthless he was and how he wouldn't be a good father, emotionally or finacially. I stepped in being 3 months pregnant and told her to knock it off since I was used to this. She got irriate. She told me I needed to have an abortion because my child was nothing but a "worthless bastard" She called my brother and told him my husband threatened her, which he NEVER did, and I will swear on everything that it didn't happen. After getting off the phone she kept telling me to have an abortion so I told her I couldn't be like her, I wanted my child and refused to be a murderer (she herself had an abortion at 15). She then jumped up on a recliner and came inches away from kicking my pregnant belly. If my husband's friend hadn't been there, she wouldn't have been stopped since he caught her in the air. To say the least we ran out of that house.
Days later everyone knew what had happened, but not the full story. She went around telling some people my husband pushed her, and others that he threatened her. She told everyone I attacked her, which if anyone was smart, they would know a 3 month old pregnant woman wouldn't do that. We never spoke after that. I decided then I couldn't be around her after everything she said. I wanted to enjoy my pregnancy and everyone kept telling me stories so I stepped back and avoided being in contact with her. My pregnancy was wonderful after that, I had a great birth and a wonderful daughter to show for.
Over a year and a half had passed and I still never spoke to her. When I heard she had a miscarriage I decided to be the bigger person and email her. We talked back and forth and I told her I wanted to work on things but to do that I wanted to know why she did all of those things, and told her I wouldn't mind seeing her but she needed to have respect that I couldn't just allow her around my daughter right away, it would be a slow process. She emailed me back saying I made everything up, it was all to get her kicked out of the family and even ended it with, "when I'm gone everyone can just jump for joy" She always does this as a scare tactic to my family. I ended all contact with her after that.
Am I wrong for continuing to keep her away since she shows no change? I have owned everything I have done and said but she refuses. How can I rebuild a relationship that she does not want rebuilt herself? I feel too much time and heartache has happened to me and towards my daughter that I never want her to have to go through.
