I'm posting similar messages on a few boards because I really want some feed back. I will avoid the gruesome details because it would ruin it for everyone when the 'made-for-tv' movie comes out later...see keeping my sense of humor.
My ex-husband and his wife (used to be mistress) are out to get me. They recenlty opened a can of worms bigger than any of us could have imagined. They have used Department of Social Services as a tool to get me.
This is as simple as i can make it. They had an affair and left both their spouses and children. We had 3 she had 2. The trauma was unbearbale and classic for Robin's "first wives club". I met someone and we got engaged. We had a dughter that has had alot of medical complications causing me to stop working and keep her out of group care. years went by and the children were carted back and forth to dad's and he was a constant source of turmoil for me, my fiance, and our daughters. I could not get his cooperation on any co-parenting issues. Child support had been based on my job that paid as much as he made. But I stopped working shortly thereafter and didn't ask for additional money becasue our daughters health should not have effected his financial responsibility. I finally asked for some tempory help and he (and the wife agreed) unknowingly, my fiance bought a new care for me (out of necessity but new none-the-less) my ex was furious. A week later I fought with my 14 yr old who screamed at me, cussed me, laughed at me, and kicked me. I smacked her. Yes, I know absolutley wrong. It was the first time. I own it and appologized for it. Her stepmother came to pick her up, called the police and threatend me with assault charges. They then called DSS and made several false allegations. They filed an emergency custody order because I had "struck" her and based on the DSS investigation. They won, pending the outcome of the investigation. They took the girls from me. The investigation lasted 3 months and at it's conclusion they decided that there was no evidence to substantiate the allegations but because there were "consistent reports" between the ex, his wife, and our 14 yr old. they had to substantiate a possibly injurious environment and put on us on "plans" to reahabilitate that would take 6 months or longer. It didn't matter that the other witness were all all positive, including friends, family members, teachers, pediatricians, criminal reports, assesments, drug tests etc. They held my 7 yr old from me, scared her and convinced her of things that were not true and that she now says are untrue.
ANYWAY...my point is not to incite a pity party but that was sooooo easy for him to do and I have learned, all be it the hard way, that anyone can do this. They are mandated to substantiate if one person in the house hold says it's so. The credability or stability of that person doesn't matter. According to my attorney (which has cost us everything and about to include our home) DSS is not your friend in any way. If you don't cooperate they can and will take the children. Spouses use child protective services as tools in their needs to destroy the other all the time and there is nothing anyone can do about it because these agencies are madated to investigate and protect.
HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE? I REALLY WANT TO HEAR IF YOU HAVE.
