It's a first for me posting to a message board. But this problem is just to big for me to understand, I need opinions.
My older brother by 11 mo. and I had always been incredibly close growing up, he had encephalitis as a 4 year old. The story goes the only person that could calm him after his 6mo. stay in the hospital was me. I just knew my roll was to take care of him. And I always did., I fought his battles, beat up the kids that where mean to him. Drove him and his date to the prom. We worked together on our first paying job. Den was what at the time was referred to as slow, nothing he couldn't do it just takes him longer than most.
Fast forward, we keep in touch as much as we can.
He gets married, lives in Alaska with 3 small children, working 3 jobs to make ends meet..
I suggested he move to the Midwest where I am living. They buy the house next door .
Fast forward 12 years, they boys became like my own. They where at my house as much as their's. They had their own room at our house. I taught the oldest to drive. We shared holidays , birthdays, back yard BBQ . Or just coffee before work. Yes we had disagreements, about politics and religion, and could the boys do this or that. We had agreed to disagree.
OK here is the kicker, out of the blue the middle child tells me while we are out for a walk that they are moving back to Alaska. My brother finally admitted it a week later., that yes they where moving. .
I was floored, hurt, sad , mad, depressed., mad all of the above all at once .
My sister-in-law can't stand the Midwest and misses her family, which I must admit I understand. I also understand the boys joy at the idea of living between the mt. and the ocean. whales and bears and ATVs.
Just maybe if either of them had job waiting for them it would be easier. If the boys knew where they would be going to school. I just know I won't see them again befor they graduated Highschool. They are just leaving and taking life as I knew it away.
64000 dollar Question, how do i act? I can't be happy for them. I shouldn't cause such a rift that my brother and I never speak again.
Please someone give me some insight.
thank you
auntie