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September 15, 2007, 11:08 pm PDT
cell phones and eating out
Quote From: sallykyI would like to speak on the topics of cell phones and manners at the table. First, it really irks me when I'm sitting at a meal time and someone has their cell phone turned on and he or she thinks it's so important to answer the thing during that time and then sit there having a conversation with someone else and I've been trying to talk to them. I've been out with friends that are constantly answering their phones whether it's in the automobile, restuarants, shopping, etc. I can understand if they're expecting an important phone call, emergency whatever.
Second, manners at the table is important to me. One thing that comes to mind that use to really set my nerves on edge was when my stepson would make so much noise with his fork and knife. Example: if we were having eggs for breakfast, no matter how they were fixed, he'd take his fork and beat the plate chopping the eggs up into mush. You could hear the clatter 2 rooms away from the kitchen. I found a remedy for that, I bought paper plates and made him use them. Another thing was when I fried chicken he'd take the skin off and throw it on the floor. Needless to say I never took him out to eat. I think people need to be polite no matter where they are. There's no excuse for rudeness. I agree with you about people using the phone when eating out. It is rude as all get out. If you have to get on the phone, I believe you should excuse yourself, but only for a short time. I was so upset one day by someone close to me when we went out to eat. A family member of ours calls all the time, esp when they know certain times are not good. but the person I was with refuses not to answer their call. Well, he got up and went to the foyer or the restaurant we were in and left me to eat along. I thought ok, I will go ahead and eat. It was a buffet and I took my time. 20 mins. later after several tea refills etc.. I was finished. So I got up and walked right past the person and was walking out the door as they noticed and I heard him say, hey wait where are you going? I said Home!! I am finished! We were in separate vehicles. Well, later I get several calls and refused to answer. Things like I cannot believe you left the table, they cleared it and I had to start all over etc...etc.. were on my voicemail . I refused to answer as I said. I went on and did some shopping we had planned to do together and I only got things for myself and the rest of my family. The person was very angry with me. I told him, you had no right to be angry with me, you are the one that left the table to talk about the same old junk you have to talk about everyday etc... This was suppose to be our time together etc... Now I REFUSE to go eat with him unless he leaves his cell phone in the vehicle. I keep mine on me just in case one of the children (13-18) has a Real problem and has to call (his choice). In case you are wondering, it was my hubbie and the caller was his MOTHER!! (She works at his business and they are together more hours a week than we are) . She was really upset when he would not answer the calls, it is like I told him, it is me, or the calls!! Which would you rather have in home in bed with you each night? Well, he chose me!! After 29 years of marriage, he has finally put some limits on his rude mom!! I am a Motherinlaw to, and I always respect my daughter in laws times with their husbands. I make it a point to leave them alone. I told them from the beginning, if you need me call. Otherwise I will leave you along and will not be a nosey obnoxious person in your life. To say the least my daughterinlaws and myself are best buddies. But to say the least this has improved my marriage greatly!!
We are acting like newlyweds again, but alot more mature ones ! I wish I had done what I did years ago !!
I had to add this, tonight we were at a buffet again and there was a man with a wife and two children and someone called. He was so obnoxious and rude. His children were about 2 & 4. Anytime they said his name he would be rude and say hush real loud. His wife was in tears. Finally her and the children were through and after about 10 more mins. She walked out to the foyer, but sat on a bench with her children and just waited. I felt so sorry for her. I wanted to say something , but the way her husband acted with anger towards the children, I felt he just might be an abuser !!
ANyway to all you people that do this kind of stuff to your families etc.. it is rude and if you are in an eating place, you deserve to get left !!!
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(Original Air Date: 09/18/07) Does it annoy you to no end when someone uses a cell phone at the dinner table or chews with his or her mouth open? Along with author Peggy Post, Dr. Phil tackles the dos and don’ts of etiquette. One issue making recent headlines is appropriate in-flight attire. Kyla was flying to Phoenix on Southwest Airlines when an employee informed her that her outfit was too skimpy. Kyla saw nothing wrong with the way she was dressed and was appalled when she was asked to cover up. Did the airline go overboard, or was Kyla too tantalizing for take-off? Then, Kate took her 19-month-old son on his first flight, but she was removed from the plane when he became too talkative. Was the airline out of line for telling Kate to shut her baby up? Peggy Post weighs in on this polarizing problem. And, Joan says she doesn’t have any peace at home because of all the noise her family makes – from loud chewing to clinking dinnerware. Her husband, Bob, says he and their three children have to walk on eggshells around Joan just to eat dinner. Is Joan overly sensitive, or does her family need to be reined in? Plus, meet a woman who says her husband’s bad manners didn’t disturb her until she had a baby, and a guest who nominated herself as having the worst etiquette in the country! Share your own etiquette peeves and join the discussion.
